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  1. beec, you make very watered down decisions.
  2. i did, but religious people dont change their minds once they tell themselves that their "God" told them something.
  3. the happiest 2 1/2 months of both mine and her life...and she ends it because she "heard God say that we arent meant to be together" and "doesnt feel at peace about us"...even though she also says in the next breath she "wants to be with me so bad" and "she still loves me" and "there is nothing wrong with me" and "she is very attracted to me" and "she loved my personality and my mind" and she "loves our times together"... she is 23, same as me. she was raised in a very conservative christian home, and sent to private christian school. she has a 3 yr old daughter who i've fallen in love with almost as much as herself...she (the 3 yr old) is a sweetheart but very undisciplined due to her mom's lack of enforcement during the first 3 yrs of her life. i've stayed a virigin, though she obviously hasnt. this has been the only issue that has come up between us in our relationship, and it was just a few times...and we had a great discussion about it and shared everything that was on our minds and she explained everything to me that i had incorrect assumptions about and i thought life was perfect then...the only problem in our relationship was now dealt with. WRONG. now she brings up a new problem. she doesn't feel "at peace" with me because she believes God spoke to her and told her i wasnt "the one" for her. even though we had the most incredible, memorable, loving, exciting 2 1/2 months of our lives...nope...thats not enough...theres just a nagging that wont go away and she cant find a reason for it...its just "God speaking to her"... she broke up with me in a "caring way" (if there is such a thing for someone who supposedly loved you to leave you) and cried as if she was losing something...and i tried to explain to her that she DOESNT HAVE TO LOSE ME, IM NOT BREAKING UP WITH HER!!! but she wouldnt budge...even through tears and heartache and seeing me cry my eyes out for the first time in my life being heartbroken by the only girl i ever truly loved and trusted and expected to be with for the rest of my life!! we got along ok, and then better and after 7 days we were doing great again...and she says we are back together. and then i find out that she is STILL not "at peace with us" and that "God doesnt change his will" and she "let her emotions get the best of her"!!!!!!!!! can anyone PLEASE give me advice on how to deal with this!! it hurts so bad
  4. yeah man, same here...ive never been able to get off from my girl using her mouth...actually i hardly feel anything when she uses her mouth...she mainly uses it to get it wet and then uses her hands to do the rest. i know for me, i like alot of pressure on it and she just has way better control over what shes doing when she uses her hands... i thought maybe i was just insensitive compared to some people...glad to know its not just me
  5. heres a couple reasons i can think of that a guy would not have sex with the girl he continues to have a relationship with for over 2 years...they are just ideas... 1. afraid of pregnancy and/or the responsibility of children 2. stressed out about something big such as money problems/debt, career, spiritual confusion (i've noticed in my own life that increased stress leads to decreased sexual desire)
  6. well, i take the same stance as the rest as far as waiting...but you asked if it's normal so i thought i'd throw in my two cents... im 22 and just a couple years ago i thought givin a girl oral was gross too...for some reason though i didn't have a problem with vice-versa (her on me)...but really i guess it comes down to being comfortable with your and her body...AND KNOWING THAT SHES GOT GOOD HYGIENE! LOL when everythings fresh and clean, i dont picture it as gross anymore...i just picture it as one more thing i could do to please her (and myself)... but listen..dont do stuff that your not comfortable with...its not just you. i know some GIRLS that dont like to have that done to them so maybe your girl wouldnt even want ya to... anyhow, just take ya time and dont rush into doing stuff and getting crazy. let things happen slowly and comfortably, not just coz ya friends talk about it or something. keep in mind...when a guy or a girl gives oral to another person...theres no protection there from STD's. ps. im a virgin so take my advice for what its worth
  7. dont be sorry, thats good news to me! lol coz i was hoping it would get like that...she was sensitive but to the point where every touch drove her insane, THATS WHAT IM LOOKIN FORWARD TO it was a first time and a little awkward so we have lots of learnin and experimentin to do together...it'll come..probably sooner rather than later
  8. most women are passionate about something...try to find out her interests and if they are in some way interesting to you also you can have much more in-depth conversations. share your own passions with her also...so she knows more about you. and in the end...if you two dont share the same interests/values, etc then it wouldnt really be worth persuing anyywas right?
  9. I realize that girls get wet far before orgasm..and they can also pant, squirm and do other things that could be confused for orgasmic feelings....so how exactly can you (or even her) know if she had an orgasm? These are a few of the things that happened to my girl...but she still doesnt know whether or not that's an orgasm..and neither do i...by the way, i only used my hands so far so i was limited as to what i could do to her... She got wet, breathing heavy, panting and losing breath in the middle of words, started squirming at the touch and movement of my hands... When i went inside further with my fingers i found a spot a few inches deep inside of her, on the side...it felt like a vein or tendon with a small bulge in the middle of it....when i started touching that she went nuts. After finding a good rythym with my fingers inside of her, she started moaning so loud it sounded painful but she said it just felt unbelievably good...not painful at all. Her right leg would occasionally spasm and she had no control over that she said. And she would stop breathing for a few seconds and make no sounds whatsoever, and then all of a sudden let out a loud moan and squirm more and kick her leg out a couple times uncontrollably. She kept her eyes closed most of the time and tossed her head from side to side, once in a while trying to open them to look at me but her eyelids seemed very heavy and half-closed when she did, and then she'd go right back to closing her eyes and tossing her head. At the same time she would either grab the sheets in her hands so hard that her knuckles would turn white, or she would grab my thighs so hard that it would almost hurt me (but i sure wasnt complaining Does that sound like a complete orgasm or is there more to look forward to? It was amazing, but i just wanna know if it even gets better...
  10. i would always hold the "cheater" responsible...in your case, your girlfriend is the one that cheated...not the guy that slept with her. i would be pissed off, but not at all at him....because hes not the one that did anything wrong...shes the unfaithful one.
  11. ok just to clarify....the "curve" i'm talking about is not up or down...its to the right side... i think most guys curve upwards a little bit, and i do too...but im wondering about the sideways direction
  12. personally, not from experience but just from what i think...i would rather use my own hands and other methods of stimulation rather than electronic devices. on the other hand, if she liked it, and it freed my hands up to do other things (like boob jobs) then i wouldnt mind it.
  13. ok, i was reading the "does size matter?" post from earlier...and i still dont think a clear answer was reached coz it seems some people (girls AND guys) think it matters alot, and other people don't think so....so first i wanna ask this question to clear it up... so...size DOES matter when it comes to pleasuring a girl, but when a girl loves a guy she will still love him and having sex with him, even if it doesnt feel quite as good as it would if he had a big *beep* right? That's the vibe i'm getting from everyones responses...big *beep*s please girls physically more right? When guys ask if it matters, thats all they are talking about usually...so girls...just say YES IT MATTERS coz thats the truth right? it just doesnt feel as good if hes not big...i would assume...im just a guy. secondly, the more graphic and personal question is...i'm not very sexually experienced so i have some concerns about how i "compare"...GIRLS, be honest with me and let me know what i should think of myself and what to expect coz i have no clue. mine's got a curve to it...is that normal at all? you know just a slight curve but its not straight anyways. also....i think i may be a little abnormal in another respect...the "head" is a little smaller than the rest....i thought it was supposed to be the other way around..isnt it supposed to be bigger than the rest? as far as the size, its like 6.5 to 7 depending on the situation...and about 5 inches (around) at the widest point, which is near the middle. Im kinda wondering if im a little abnormal in those two respects...how its smaller at the end, and how it curves...can some girls let me know? i mean...i say girls coz guys are usually biased when it comes to that stuff lol thanks
  14. communication, communication, communication! TALK TO HIM. tell him how you feel (maybe in kinder words than "you've made my life boring") but tell him that the spark is dying and that u need excitement, you miss doing things with him and going out places and you're disappointed in how hum-drum your life has become lately. tell him your relationship is at risk, and you need passion in your life again. Ask him how he feels about what you tell him, and if he feels the same way then talk about hwo you can improve it and strengthen the restore the spark. If he doesnt know what you're talking about and disagrees, then tell him exactly what u need in your life and tell him you're gonna have to find it elsewhere then. Just give him plenty of chances to agree with you...sometimes guys play dumb when they really agree....in order to get you to talk more and explain better. So explain and be as accurate and straightforward as you can possibly be.
  15. because humans are fickle, indecisive creatures that have no clue what they need or even what they want in life.
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