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That was one of my all time favorite books. Such a moving ending.

Are you sure you mean this one? Its initial release was last Fall ( 2008 ), and is over 700 pages long. link removed

Just finished The Given Day by Dennis LeHane. I oved it and highly recommend it.

Just finished High Fidelity by Nick Hornby. Loved it.

How's the foreplay? I've read that women can handle a lot more size when they are fully aroused from foreplay - that not only will she be more lubricated, but the bottom sort of drops back in advance of actual penetration. Other than that, love-is-key's advice is probably good. Check her out for ovarian/fallopian cysts. I've read that pain from sex shouldn't be taken lightly.

There are certain G-spot vibrators that you might try to see if you can have one that way if your clitoris gets too sensitive.

I'm really sorry about your situation. I think that if a person cheats, the ball is in their court to send out the right signals and win back the cheated. If she doesn't come grovelling back to you pleading for you to forgive her and to take her back then she doesn't want you. That's my rule of thumb.

My advice would be to try and stay busy. Exercise really helped me - it helps you to rebuild your self-esteem and simultaneously stimulates your serotonine levels. I sometimes walk into the nautilus feeling beaten and depressed, and leave walking on cloud 9 - like I'm God's gift to women. Just don't beat yourself up - you're not alone. Just about everyone around you has suffered through this at some point. All your immediate insecurities, doubts, and fears are completely natural. But it will get better in time. Just stay busy.

I'm really sorry for your loss. I know from experience that it is one of the most devastating things that a person can face. My heart goes out to you. Keep your chin up.

I was cheated on way back in high school. The girl cheated on me with two different guys (at least) while I was with her. I didn't know about it. She dumped me, and then I found out about it about 6 months after we broke up. She wanted to get back with me two years later when she found out her best friend had a crush on me - I said 'no thanks'. In college my first real love, whom I lost my virginity to, had a year-long affair - we'd been together for three years. I split with her and spent about 6 months apart, and then we got back together. She really felt bad about it all and really wanted me back. We eventually got married and have now been so for about a decade and it's been nearly 20 years since we began dating (my Freshman year in college). I suspected at some point about 5 years ago that she might be having an affair, but it may have just been paranoia on my part. I love her and am 100% confident that she loves me back. No one is perfect and no two people are the same. I don't think you can just make a sweeping generalization about everyone who cheats. The girl who cheated on me in High School was TROUBLE. Infidelity was in her blood. I knew better than to give her another chance. It's not the same with my wife. She is a wonderful person. I truly admire her character and believe that she can be trusted. I believe I read that more than half of all married people admit to having had at least one affair. This does make you think that this "ideal" we seek in a partner is unrealistic on some level. A book that I read that helped me to wrap my head around it all is: Sperm Wars: Infidelity, Sexual Conflict, and Other Bedroom Battles link removed I promise that if you read this book, you'll NEVER see infidelity the same again.

bubblyblonde, I agree with you. I think that some people don't really understand depression as a physical problem. And that's not to make it sound like an exclusive club. Some people just have a different chemical balance which affects how they respond to stuff. I've seen some people deal with the death of a parent and bounce back with strength, dignity, and a positive mindframe very quickly. I've seen others deal with very different losses and never bounce back. It's a physical chemical thing in the mind that determines how different people cope with problems. It became evident to me when I started to take prozac. That's when I first realized that it was in fact a physical (chemical) problem I had.

This old friend of mine lived in this family of six. I always noticed throughout my friendship with him that he and his brother were treated completely different then their other two much younger brothers. The father would always treat the younger two brothers to stuff, but leave out the older two brothers - this included getting to go to NBA games, concerts, etc.. My friend would * * * * * all the time about it and hated his father. In high school his Mother informed these two brothers that their "father" was not their biological father. That their real father became handicapped and she left him for the guy who would become their new father. They didn't want to confuse the kids at the time as it seemed like the new father was really bonding with them, and they seemed to get along so well with him, so much so, that he wanted to become their legal father. That is, until the new guy's biological kids were born. To these two brothers all their questions about mistreatment, favoritism, and emotional abuse, etc were now answered. They felt conned and robbed of a relationship with their biological father. They immediately had their legal last names changed to that of their biological father who was now deceased. I remember the turmoil they went through. All these lies and deceit that mothers/wives choose over honesty and ethics are NEVER in the best interest of the children, as they're so quick to use as an excuse. The children deserve to know the score. It is their lives that will be most greatly impacted and there is NEVER an easy time to do what needs to be done. Don't wait until he's in high school to tell him who his biological father is.

She created this whole mess by keeping people in the dark and deceiving. It's time to let all the parties of interest in on her deception and do what's best for the kid. If the biological father doesn't want to know then that's the best scenario, because he'll provide his medical records, get his wages garnished, and disappear. Women have such a difficult time separating the child's best interests from their own best interests and that's how these messes are created.

My feelings is that honesty and truthfulness are always best - no exceptions made. Keeping the biological father in the dark does not benefit the child. He needs the medical records. Don't wait for an emergency to then open this can of worms. Open it now, get the truth out, start collecting from the biological father, let the deceived victim continue to see the child for the child's benefit. And yes women who commit paternity fraud tend to suspect all along it's the other man's child. But as you know it's always easier to lie and deceive and benefit from the deception than to risk the financial stability and come clean and do what's ethical and right.