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  1. So your faced with the confusion on weather or not you should date one of these guys? But......You dated both of them ONE time, And you said that both dates were Bad. Sorry, But Now you have me confused, I guess the only logical advice i can give you is Why settle for less? Even though you said that You liked/Disliked Certain things about both guys, you still don't feel like either one of them is someone that you can see yourself with, as boyfriend material, Just being Friends with Both of them and nothing more. Really all your looking at is a simple question That only you are going to have to ask yourself. And that is if something Doesn't Click between both Guy #1 and Guy #2, than perhaps NEITHER of these guys meet your standards for whatever it is your looking for in a guy, And that you feel more comfortable with staying friends. Shot in the Dark: But Do you feel like your almost Forcing Yourself into believing that you need a Boyfriend, cause in high school, It is what everyone else is doing? maybe thats is why your confused.
  2. You sort of answered your own question at the end of your 2nd post. Because Before you know it he will be back home, and you will look back at this post and think to yourself, "Gosh, i sure was over overreacting"
  3. First Things First: Sounds like a really close Friend, Nothing more as of yet, you two share a special bond of "communication" the backbone of a strong relationship/Friendship, Almost like saying Nothing is to bad/good to talk about with him, Moving onto this up-coming Date you mentioned, I think your so excited that he asked you on a date, you can't wait for it to happen, which is allowing your imagination to run wild, crazy at times. Possibilities: Who knows, Maybe after the date something will "spark" in the friendship and things might get more Serious, I know you have probably heard this 10,000 times in your life, your still young, and it takes time to "get it together" when it comes to dating at that age, you learn the layout of relationships, and how the normal gives and takes between two people materializes, and the Trust increases. One thing is clear: You are so excited about going on a date you can't wait for it to happen. On the date: You could, If you felt the time was right ask him some questions, maybe drop some Hints about you and him becoming more than friends, And evaluate his reaction to questions, OH! i almost forgot, About letting him meet your parents, Super- Great way to get his foot in the door, believe me parents are always going to be the ones looking over weather or not this guy Fits There standards, and also yours, The younger your parents are introduced to this guy, the better.
  4. This guy knows how to deliver his point, Red roses, a Hug, and him throwing out how he feels about you in front of Co-workers, He Isn't going to want to hear you say "Just friends" but it MUST be said, It's Going to crush him,...perhaps Deeply, It may or may not affect your Friendship with him, I can't speak for his actions on what he is going to do/say/feel, all i know is that Nice guys finish last... Man this guy really set himself up good, All in time for the Holidays, Sorry i just like stating the obvious, Not an easy thing to tell a guy is "Just Friends" but you CAN'T mislead him, that will only prove to become more of a Bad to Worse Situation, And the Outcome of that will probably lead to him never wanting to speak/see you again, So my advice is Get it done, You could use the Fallback line of "I'm not looking to be in a relationship with anyone right now" but that would prove to be false, IF you happen to date in the near future, How a Little Fib turns into a Bigger one, So you might not want to go that route either, This is a tough one to tackle, But again I'll state the Obvious it has to be done, By you...Better in person, Don't back out of it with some Lame or cheesy Letter, or Phone/text messaged, Even worse have a Girlfriend of yours tell him the Bad news..Tell him Yourself, That your sorry you and him can not be B/f-n-G/f that your just not "His" type, maybe say that your TO MUCH for him in a good way, that can make a guy feel better. And that you feel more comfortable with you and him just staying Friends, and letting that Friendship grow, Who knows maybe one day this guy will "strike" your interest and you will give him a shot. Don't know unless you Try, Right?
  5. Planning ahead can sometimes be a recipe for bad things to happen, to much planning is sort of like to much salt on your food, It leaves a bad taste in your mouth when things don't go the way you expected them to, And you feel like you have failed. To be brutally honest with you, You sort of set yourself up for the feeling of depression because it's you who is the one planning what you would "LIKE" to have happen, Which never ends up being the way you want it. I see it like this, Expectations in a Relationship/Friendship are never a good idea, Sure it's ok to have Gives-&-Takes between the two people in the Relationship/Friendship, If they are aware of those Gives-&-Takes, and are *OK* with them.. But just the word itself "expectations" roots from the word Expect. Try telling a Girl "I expect things to go like this" and see if she calls you back anytime soon, my point is no one like being told what to do. Demanding, Or having a controled outcome, without the other persons consent Could, More time than not, Lead to your having that bad taste in your mouth, and no real taste of satisfaction of just letting things go without having control over it, It's the bitter sweet feeling of Knowing that Fate is sometimes Very sweet, If your wanting to know before hand, I suggest Answering those Miss. Cleo adds, Because Not knowing what will happen is just part of Life.
  6. First allow me to ask you a question: What seems to be the Root causes of these "arguments" and what are they about? Maybe than i can help you out, without that information I'm taking shots in the dark with no Target.
  7. BRAVO!!! \\ Doesn't it feel like your a new person!, Almost like a huge weight was Lifted off your shoulders, mind/spirt.
  8. Umm yea that shot in the dark, and the whole age thing, it kinda Missed, lol I agree that showing "TOO" much is not a good thing, to much of anything is bad for you....I'm thinking maybe he feels either Really comfortable around you, or he is just a super sweet/likes to show a women how he feels type of guy, while other men sometimes, hide or even bury there emotions towards a women, esp. early on... keeping the women "Guessing" instead of the other way around, If you and him both play your cards right, who knows anything can happen. If the attention from him to you becomes "TOO" much, be sure to let him know in a polite, understanding way.
  9. S4il

    Ouch!

    Is this Sharp Constant pain?, Or does it come and Go with moving around, Like when your getting up, and sitting down?
  10. This guy sounds a bit like Myself, Shows alot in the beginning, And than one random time or another throws a curve ball, To put you on edge, He May of been testing the waters, before stepping into far, and going in over his head. So he Made things seem a bit "Sketchy" for you. But this was only for a short time, He rebounded well by contacting you again, at least he didn't leave you high and dry, and never again attempt to call you back. Right? My advice is simple, Don't let the "One" day thing that happened bother you, your thoughts about this guy are pretty clear to me that your interested, That the level of communication is good, and the normal gives and takes between you and him under the title of Friends has a foundation, One that could lead to future building of something more serious but i don't have the crystal ball, and all the answers for you..so I'll stay on point with my advice.. I see that it's somewhat obvious he is interested, looking in depth at your post, the things he has already said to you, the casual date that occurred, the Texting from Phone to phone, saying "I'm thinking of you" all those sweet, kind things a true gentleman should say, He is on his P's And Q's... However, Don't let the Showing of attention this guy has already shown much of make you think he is desperate, some men show there emotions towards a women in many different ways, I also get the feeling you and him are still quite young, let me take a shot in the dark, between ages 16-19. But to reflect on what i said above, the "sketchy" part Your thinking to much about ONE thing, So maybe Something popped up and he couldn't call you back, maybe his phone was dead, and he was recharging it, and couldn't wait for it to get done charging because he wanted to see if you in fact texted him back, The possibilities are endless, Bottom line is we at one point or another "Forget" to do something, It slips our mind, And you say "opps" and Forget about it. To better put it in a way that is more Constructive, Your looking at a tree in the woods, and not taking a step back and realizing that a forest is in front of you. This guy has Focused on you since the night you gave him your Phone Number, Calls the Next day! Talks with you, goes out with you on a "casual" date, Continuessly Calls/Text's you through out the week. Answer this Question Below for me: "What more could you ask for?"
  11. Umm had this done to me one time, Caught me off guard, But she had an Icecube in the mouth from a cup of ice/soda, she was giving me oral while i was driving...Scary thought. But it was a different sensation...hot/cold feeling, I had to pull over.
  12. This type of back and forth dating between you and him, the Off and On type relationship that has continued on from the first time you and him took some time off, should of been a clear indication that he was going to do it again, and wont stop until...well perhaps it happens to him and he knows what it's like to be on the receiving end of that pain, As they say what goes around come around, And iv 'e been both a victim, and witness to that many times. Revenge is best served Cold: I'm not sure who came up with that Line above, But i know it stands true, Even if it's not meant to inflict, and or cause physical, or mental pain. It undoubtedly hurts somehow or another, What im trying to say is Why!? Why sit around, and look over your shoulder to see him with another girl if all it's going to do is tear you up inside? make you feel like your not wanted. Because To be brutally honest with you, Your looking at two trees in the woods, and not taking a step back and seen a forest in front of you, The changes to do what Only you can do, Is whats going to make the difference in how you feel/care about him, And Trust me it's not going to come over night, the emotional Roller coaster you have just boarded isn't the fastest moving ride In the park, What i sense from your post is that, Your making it seem like he is the ONLY guy for you, Your everything. And you know as well as i do, that Can Not be true..he is replaceable, Other men can take his place right? Well if you answered with "yes" I'm here to tell you that your so right sweat heart, Your better, and you deserve better than what he has shown, or Not shown you, He obviously isn't paying you any attention, if he has the attention from other girls, Right? Well This is where the "revenge" part comes into play. You do what they call "Flipping the script"...Give him some of his own medicine, Go meet guys yourself, Talk to other men, Flirt like crazy!!!, Have NO FEAR and that No Fear attitude is going to be your Drug, Your going to want to start tomorrow with this Fresh Start, Clean slate...Energy filled day of Not paying this guy any attention, Keep avoiding him, No Contact! change phone number if possible, Focusing your attention on the Bigger, And taller, Stand Up Trees in the forest, The type of guy that would like to get to know you, have a conversation with, Go out with friends meet new people... Trust me when word gets around that you are making friends with other guy's you watch his reaction change towards you. You Must become Stronger, The skin on your heart is a bit soft, And it's going to thicken over time, and soon your thoughts of him wont shadow you as much, especially if your meeting new, better guys to hang out with, your attention is not about him, Not about what has already happened, How much your hurting, These emotions or feelings are in the past, Put them Behind you along with him, And you will be just fine.
  13. It has It's Pro's and Con's...i guess Iv 'e never done it, but i think i would, Umm It's undoubtedly something different... Just Make sure both of you are willing to put it behind you after you follow through with it, I also think it would be in your best interest to Cut all ties with the person(s) involved. After all your targeting strangers, Keep it that way.
  14. Yea, I'm sure they have some Full proof way of bypassing the "sue" thing, and were probably waiting for me to bring that up..ill get copies of the Doctor notes, and contact Some places, see what my options are. Just making me NOT want to work for a shady place like that anymore, everyone at work i told was also surprised that they could pull that off.
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