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just M.E.

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  1. Ummmm, the OP is from 2002 ... I'm not sure it is currently relevant?
  2. There is a little something called chemistry, attraction and you can't fake it. And you are right about the Friend Zone, even when we know it is happening and feel guilty about it, the guy friend keeps it alive, why? But I works both ways, I had it happen to me on the other end, and allow it because I actually get a lot out of being the female Friend.
  3. Cimmie, I know a couple of children of a narcissistic father and they aren't like their father. I think it is normal to doubt yourself after living with a narcissist, I am also told by those who have lived with someone who was Borderline Personality that they often felt they were the crazy one. Maybe it is all the projection stuff that happens, makes us absorb the guilt of there issues onto us, just a guess. From what I have been told it would be difficult for two narcissistic people to be together, the need for 100% attention from their partner would force them apart. The "it's all about me" concept doesn't make room for another narcissist.
  4. A person with true Narcissist Personality Disorder can't be "healthy", there can overlaps in a person's psychological make up and a positive narcissist can go very far in life but from what I am told by the "professionals", those also cannot form truly healthy personal relationships. Maybe the two have interlocking personality disorders and it works for them... I don't think the concept of narcissism as a healthy trait is realistic. We all have healthy self love and self esteem but that isn't narcissism. If you really think it can be healthy, marry one, they can sustain for a number of years, behaving in a relatively "normal" manner but in the long run the damaging behavior patterns come out. They inevitably will damage their partner in some sense if that happens. Seems to be a accepted school of thought by those with much more experience than any of us.
  5. Someguy I was married to one, it is very brutal living with this type of person, to say it is all about them is to say nuclear bomb is just a firecracker. These people can be devastating to others, they are seductive and then destroy, they need a continue cycling of partners in their life, this goes on and on. They take on a variety of colors and flavors, but they can be extremely cruel and vicious and it is most done without an awareness on their part because it really is all about them. Go through it once and you will understand, but I hope you never do.
  6. Some people get UTI's without sex, they have a chronic vulnerability, lots of water and cranberry juice help. I have chronic problems and I am now allergic to most antibiotics used for this so I manage it carefully, also eating yogurt helps.
  7. noregret - I'm adopted, your anger is wasted on me I am my parents child, my mother did not give birth to me, my father was not my sire, I grew in my mothers heart not her womb. They are the only parents I know, just as you are the only father your child knows, it is your child. Did you love this child before you knew? How can a parents love change? If you don't get over your sin of pride, I would judge you to be a heartless basta*** . I am living proof that parenting is not biological, and yes I was an illegitimate child who was blessed to be adopted. So now that I have scolded you, please think of this child and his life, what is decided between you wife and you is one thing, do not throw your son into that pot. He is a person who will always be your son if you allow him to.
  8. Day 1.5 ... didn't work out well, we talked but the good of it was all the really awful stuff he said is driving home this is really over, wow, Pollyanna, how did you miss that? Did I mention this sucks?
  9. I'll take the challenge ... Tuesday will be day 1, but we work together, can't avoid the work part. I'll keep you posted, here goes nothing.............
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