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  1. Resteraunts and clothing shops etc arent just girl jobs! I have heaps of male friends in those kind of areas and i dont think its about the gender its about the attitude u have when applying for jobs and how this comes accross when you speak to potential employers. I have never had a problem getting a job and have worked in all sorts of part time areas, some male orientated and some female. I am currently in motorsport and doing mechanicing which is male dominated and i dont have a clue about...but i fought my way through and managed to get a part time job out of this too (doing what i actually want to do, logistics etc) so it proves that there isnt male/female jobs etc. To the person who said about guaranteed student loans. There is no guaranteed student loans. Well not where im from anyway. it depends on family income and also if you keep changing too much or go on to do further studies you get bugger all.Like me. Its stupid how they assess your family income...my parents are just over the boarder line, so I dont even get the one thing I can apply for a bursery....as they think my dad can just hand me money...what they dont take into account is the fact that hes paying £300 a month upfront for ym tution fees and £80 a month for my car insurance, and thereforeeee cant help me with anything else... ...load of rubbish!!!
  2. depends on the people, how well matched they are sexually and the chemisty etc... i was happy with once a week with my ex (and i thought at the time it was good with him) but i am so better matched to my boyfriend now it is amazing..everytime! And he is so amazing we cannot keep our hand off each other lol... ...of course it tends to go down the longer u are together it is important to keep making efforts and taking time with your partner x
  3. ok well you gave her that second chance and she blew it. At least now you know and can properly move on...of course its hard but you know you can do it...lesson learned you wont go back to her again and she is disasterous to treat you this way...forget her...you deserve better and you will get through this... "fool me once - shame on you.....fool me twice - shame on me...."
  4. Hi bstrong2day....just read your posts now...didnt catch them first time round....are you back with this same woman or with another woman? -x-
  5. My ex spent a lot of time with his friends over me too...i know how you feel. but dont bring this round on you...its not your fault, it was the situation you were in. your no longer in that situation now so no need to feel guilty or bad about it. drop all those feelings like he dropped you.... (sorry know that was harsh but its true!). Also dont know if u saw my newest post but that was about my ex's birthday (caled "its his birthday tomorrow"). It was his bday yesterday. i didnt text at all and made sure i enjoyed myself. read the thread....the people that posted there were brilliant (thanks guys!) stay strong..your doing really well xx
  6. He has plainly manipulating you up until about now, trying to avoid contacting you but making you feel guilty about you not contacting him, and then trying to pacify you with suggestions of meeting for coffee further down the line. This email is him growing some balls and telling you to leave him be completely. He may of said contact later on down the line but he didnt specify when and as this isnt a break what clearer message do you need to understand that he is done. This is closest your going to get to leave me alone and go away...if you keep pushing him he may get nastier...he may of well of just written you an email saying "please move on and leave me alone, its finished get on with your life" You dont need to contact him to acknowledge his email; he'll know you will of read it, and you dont need to say anything else to him either. Here is where you draw the line. No more contact thats it now, hes given you the starting point...its up to you to run with it now....
  7. Ignore him! What an absolute itdiot its easy for him to place the blame on you saying you ruined all chances and killed him. Can you not see now what a jerk he is?! Using psychologist speak he is diffusing and displacing all his negative feelings about you and the relationship back onto you. This is such controlling behaviour, believe me this guy knows what he is doing and has no consideration forhow you are reallyl feeling. This proves what a jerk he is! Your friend is right. This guy is probably having a laugh at you. This is more likely than being upset. If he was upset he would have consideration for your feelings and wouldnt dare displace his anger and negativity back onto you. What an inconsiderate jerk he probably finds it hilarious hows hes treating you. God its made me so angry!! Stop blaming yourself and taking what he has told you. Its complete SH**E. Hhonestly i cannot believe he has said such things to you...and now you have absolutely no reason to pick up the phone when he calls because even now HE IS CONTROLLING YOUR FEELINGS AND BEHAVIOUR. Put a stop to this now and ignore him completely, TAKE BACK CONTROL HONEY he shouldnt be able to manipulate you or your feelings anymore xxx
  8. how i feel for you right now...i just wish i could give you that little push and be at least where i am right now with these kinds of situations.... So he told you no contact and its over to sum up (i know its hard but bear with me...) so all these issues you are now having are unnecessary...first the job thing...do not get him a job. Do not do anything for him. Simple as that. You owe this guy nothing but you owe yourself everything. the birthday thing...he told you no contact. So dont text him or contact him to say happy birthday. If you stick to the no contact how on earth is he going to contact you to tell you he is unhappy with you? You are having at the moment very unhealthy and unncessecary thoughts. You dont need to think about his feelings at all, they dont matter anymore. PLEASE READ THIS PART CAREFULLY OVER AND OVER: No matter what you do now you are never going to please him or make things better between the two of you....because he doesnt want you to. Please please please just forget this guy and move on, no contact to him and no contact if he rings/texts or emails. Just dont answer the phone or read the email or anything. If you cut him out of your life slowly slowly you will recover.... ...but at the minute you are just going round in circles and obsessing and thinking too much. Stop these thinking patterns completely he doesnt matter and he certainly isnt worth all of this...you have to stop honey xxx (If i can get to this stage after the heartbreak I have been through then you can too trust me) xxx
  9. Hi mate, dont want to sound harsh but the whole point of NC is not checking to see if he has contacted...because this also gets your hopes up and then brings you down again. I know you say you have to check your old email address...but do you really have to? Is it for work or something? Is there anyway you can just forget about it and not check it as you have given everyone important your new address? Its kind of like getting a new phone and new number and then keeping you old phone and old number and turning the old phone on once in a while tosee if hes contacted....in this sense it sounds silly, but thats just what your doing...and its not helping! You can do this you have taken so many positive steps you dont need to check if hes contacted you, you dont need him... ....I dont know if he cares or not...in my eyes by not contacting you he is doing you a favour and letting you move on, so i guess in this way he cares, but he obviously doesnt care about you in a way that makes him want to be with you in a relationship sense, in a way that he wants to love you. I know its harsh but think about it and stay strong, you need to begin moving on....youve made so many positive steps by changing your number and email address...dont ruin it now, xxx
  10. Its important you do these things. And its good you've taken it upon yourself to do them now. Not a lot you can do about your work address...but i doubt this will be a problem. I know what you mean about birthdays my ex's is end of june too, i dont know whether i should just text him happy birthday but i know really i shouldnt. I think i will figure it out the day before. But you really shouldnt send him happy birthday after this latest revelation. Would you really mean it right now if you said it anyway?!
  11. Hi honey. I am sorry you are hurting all over again. I think you should just take it that the relationship is over for good- as he is not replying and told you not to contact him. Dont give this man anymore of your precious time and effort...you've already wasted (sorry i dont mean to be harsh!) 3 months hanging on for him. Please please try and stay strong and dont contact him at all he doesnt deserve you and has just been stringing you along. At least now he has said he doesnt want a relationship with you. Remember this and move on. Remember small steps each day distract yourself. You can do this but only if you forget about him compltely now. You dont want another 3 months like this again.... thinking of you, xxxx
  12. nikkers you've given yourself (and me and others) some great advice there. Lets hang in there and try and be strong together xxx
  13. This is doing you no good my friend. You go for a few days without calling and then go backwards and have to start all over again? What do you expect she is going to say? Nothing can be fixed with a depressed and desperate phone call. You dont need her. You will be happy again but you have to try and be strong. Find someone else you can call instead...or when you feel like calling her/thinking of her do something else instantly to distract your mind
  14. 5 days does feel like forever. I am not sure what contact i am on because sometimes he sends texts but i try so hard not to reply but my god i am doing my best. I tihnk he just wants to hang onto me in case he sorts things out but i know i am better than this so i am trying to stay strong. This has honestly been the longest two weeks of my life....but do you know what? I have done more things in these last 2 weeks then i had in the last year of being with him!
  15. ladybird: what a brililant email you wrote to your ex. I admire you for your strength in writing that and you are completely right. You cannot sit back and put your life on hold for someone who may/may not come back years down the line. And even if they do and it doesnt work again you will be back to square 1 all over. You did the right thing. By moving on you are opening all sorts of doors and windows to a new life, and who knows who you may meet in months and years to come? If you keep doors and windows closed all you are doing is waiting for someone to come back...and from experience and reading stories on here, more often than not they dont... ....be prepared for the worst and get yourself strong, never-too-late and then you wont need him or his sorry excuses ever again. take care hunny xxxx
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