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Hey all- I started taking effexor about a month ago. I was taking half of a 37.5 mg pill every other day. Then started taking it everyday. And now I am taking the full pill. It has only been a few days on the full pill. Ever since I started taking the effexor I feel ridiculously exhausted. I have never felt so tired. My eyes feel heavy. And I've been sleeping a lot. My doc said to give it some time and it should go away. I also have dry mouth. Has anybody on effexor felt the same way? And has it gone away for you? Going to work is becoming such a challenge. :sad:

couchlove- i know how you feel. Parents going through divorces is so rough! My parents have been going through a very slow separation for over 4 yrs and it drives you so crazy. BUt i left everything bother me when i was in school and i didn't do so well on some exams the first few years. Looking back on it all now, I really wish I didnt let everything bother me and i just focused on myself. I agree with robowarrior- u should just go to the library everyday and avoid the issues at hand right now. Things will still be around when the tests are over but focusing on school is so important right now. Maybe at the moment it doesnt seem to be significant to you at all but trust me, u'll wish u had years down the line. Do what is best for you.

hey- well im 23 and never met anyone at bars. i meet a lot of guys through other friends. But besides that I would try hanging around the bookstores or coffee places. Or maybe the gym? i hope this helps you

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I think I need help. I found out that my fried just 21 years old died this past MOnday. I've known now for two days and I'm in such shock. He was leaving to drive back to college from his home the day after thanksgiving. He was only 5 minutes away from his house when he got into a car accident. He was conscious and called his parents when it happened but was taking to the hospital. Monday he passed away from internal injuries. We were better friends 2 years ago but he is my close friends best friend. We all shared a lot of times together. I did not get to see him in over a year cause he wwas overseas for the whole year in college. I wanted to see him this year in school but we had not found a time to. He wasn't my very close friend but I did spend time with him. I feel really sad and keep crying on and off whenevr I think of something he used to say. But part of me feels like I didn't know him well enough to feel this strong feeling of loss. I think the fact that he was such an intelligent incredible guy who is my age, and was going to graduate in May is really what is hitting clsoe to home. ANyway, I never had this experience before. My grandma just passed away also but this news is hitting me like a town of bricks. I don't know how to handle it.

hey.... me4ta- I kno you are right..I really shoulda kicked him when he was down because he deserves it. But i've been trying to seek some kinda closure between what went on. We sorta just dropped talkin to each other, and nothing was said. I guess I still have a place in my heart for him and I just couldn't tell him to f*** off. But i know he deserved that. I think above all this whole thing feels unreal to me because it happened outa nowhere and I was kinda taken a back. And still am. Don't really know what I want to do. I just don't want him to throw my life off track again. In a perfect world I'd love to meet for drinks discuss the past and feel like that chapters closed but I know that could never happen. So maybe I shouldn't talk to him at all. And i do know that nothing stopped him from talkin to me prior..and i did have every intention of leeting him know this but I was saving it for in person if that ever happeend.... ughhh

well thanks you make lots of sense. And you are right about bad girls. He has always gone for them, and has always gotten dumped by them in the end. And he has always dumped the good girl first. Crazy world we all live in huh? Thank you for all you help though. You rock.

Yeah you are right. I'm so happy you were able to give me some advice from a guys perspective. He hurt me so bad I should have just told me to leave me alone and let him feel lonely, but I'm too good of a person to do that. I had one more question for you though. He has made many many comments in the past about me being too good, and having an excellent head on my shoulders and so on. Sometimes I feel like I was too (not trying to sound conceited) good and level head, and innocent for him. We are two different people, hes a pothead, and im straight when it comes to all that. He has had the sexual experiences, and he was my only one. Would this be something that spooks a guy? Holds a guy back from wanting to be with her? Whether it be cause of a fear of being unable to satisfy... I don't kno.

Your explanation seems like a good one. He did just get dumped like 2 days ago, he told me. I guess in a way I can felt rejected again because he said we were better off as friends. It's weird to me when someone thinks of you so highly, as he had said. And is physically attracted to you but doesnt want to be more than a friend to you. I never understood that. So that part feels strange to me.

So my ex bf and I hadn't spoken since April when he started dating someone out of nowhere and dropped me for her. He just imed me today after all this time of nothing...and started to tell me what happened. We end up taking for like 2 hrs. And during the convo he apologized a few times, said i deserved better from him, and that he was looking to talk to a friend, and misses the friend part of our relationship and said somethin that we were better as friends... and this talk confused me. I was tryin got be the better person and talk to him normally to try to gain some closure. BUt i have no idea why he kept sayin the friend thing so much? For someone who was just dumped last nite after a 6 month relationship (and he really liked her) this seemed weird. Any thoughts? Should I meet with him for a drink to catch up if he persues? We are back at school for the last year living 2 blcoks away. See previous posts if you need more info. Thanks!

Hey!! RUNN AWAY dont walk but RUN.... If he doesnt want to committ to you, but still is ok with having sex id seriously just get out of there. He shouldn't be able to have you that way, unless its mutual.. And i'm so passionate about this particular topic because i did the same thing and elt it happen for 2 years after our break up. In the end, he never gave me what I wanted no matter how many times he said he was going or he wanted to.. And he ended up sleeping wiht someone else after those years we spent fooling around, droopped me in a heartbeat, and is now with ehr as we speak. I realize that no one guy is the same,...and ur case could be very different. Just take my story, and think real carefully...because I got so messed up over doing that with him in the end and suffereed badly.. . GOod luck...

Hey Toni, Often I heard from many people that there really is no such thing as closure. Well my brief story is this: Met this guy freshmen yr in college, we went out for about 7 months. He was my first sex partner so there was a huge emotional attachment there, whereas I wasn't his. We were very different but we really loved each other in the beginning, maybe too much too soon. When summer came, we lived about 4 hrs apart and eventually he broke it off for me just because he simply couldnt handle it... (Never got a real explanation for that) Now I am going into my senior yr at college, and me and ym ex had been in a very odd friendship where he basically kept me along on a string, saying he wasnt ready to commit again but soon, but then he didnt have time, but he still cared...back and forth like that. I was naive, and believed that he really did love me and stuck with it...through a lot of emotional abuse too that came with it all. Basically he got what he wanted from me, sex and companionship when he needed it.. A little over 2 months ago, my ex dropped me suddenly and made it publicly known that he spent the night with someone else, and continued to leave this meesages online that he was happy spending time with this other girl.... A FEW days after he slpet with me and I poured my feelings out too him... He didnt think he was at fault, he even tried to talk to me a week later but I was cold and distant.. Then decided to blcok him online and not talk to him ...Well its been over 2 months of NC.... I feel better but it seems like I've been trying to create my own closure and its just not happening. I believe that my ex is still with this girl and is happy with her... He has attempted to speak to me once in the 2 months and I ignroed him... Basically, I dont know how I could get the right closrue I need to forget him. I dont know if I should speak to him again or what.... What do you think about this situation?? Any input could be tremendous help.. THanks in Advance.

I just wanted to say that I was dumped, and i stopped talking to my ex for about 9 weeks. And he contacted me, although I did not respond he still did it. Just to let y ou know, the dumper does do it though I'm not really sure why.

Okay. Well everything eevryone says is really true. I never believed that this would happen to me but it just did. When you finally feel like you are totally getting over your ex, and are happyw ith everything in your life, and like other guys... they come around somehow. I didn't think my ex and I would ever speak to each other again.. If you want the details of our history feel free to read my past posts if you have patience. But basically he has someone new, for the last few months. He was very rude to me the last time we spoke and after experiencing more pain than ever before, i decided it was better if we didn't talk at all this summer. So i had blocked him online, the only way we really communicate when we are at home (neither of us are phone people). So, i just started working at this job and I have been having fun and talking to a lot of different people. Even developing crushes, and having a very happy dream about one in particular just last night. My ex bf just imed me under his other screen name that he barely ever uses. Its been 63 days, i thought it was just dead but he imed me .. "ha..you did block me." and then i signed off not knowing what to do but signed on because i did not want him to think he affected me.. and tthen he imed me.."that's waht i thought.." and that was it. I didn't say one word to him, nor did i block him. I just didn't care to say anything to him because I feel like I am so strong and have gone so far already, why ruin all of that. And I didn't want to block him because then that shows there is still some emotion. Well i don't know why he imed. Not sure if I really care. Just think its funny how I truly believed we'd never speak again, and when you move away from them they just know. I guess from here I do nothing and Just keep on progressing away from him. But i wanted to share my little story for all those who have kept up with my posts. On a last note, I wasn't even happy or excited that he imed me. I was mostly unaffected, and I guess thats because I really have let it go. If anybody has comments, i'm all ears.

Hi girl.... MY ex is seeing someone new also so I know how shocking it feels at first. PM if u want to talk... I feel your pain.