My point is picking a fight (especially out of the blue) and then apologizing for it is the same as a guy coming home and hitting his wife then telling her the next day "you know I dont mean to do that baby". Are the outcomes the same? Of course not, but they are still within the Cycle of Violence. Physical or emotional.
Anyway, I was just trying to point out a glaring behaviour that you may not be aware of. I didnt mean to offend you and you can take the advice for what you want.