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  1. wow I have read some great post on here! I was only with my EX for 11mths and we did break up 6mths into our relantionship but got back together again! but towards the end of the relantionship I could see the signs that things weren't going as smoothly as I thought, so I started to distant myself from her too, I was going through a HELL of a lot of stress, I lost my Dad suddenly as he had a major stroke and this effected me big time, but after argument after argument she called it a day saying her feelings had swicthed off and she couldn't swicth them back on! we got together 3mths after my dad passed away so never really dealt with the loss of my farther, this effected everything in our relantionship, to our sex life to normal day to day living we both were just exsiting day to day, I really didn't know what the future had for the both of us! We have been apart for over 4 and a half mths now and I believe her feeling for me have totally faded, but she did get in contact with me after 3mths of NC by email wanting to know if I'm alright, if I'm still at my old job and what I have been up to! This left me angry to think why she contacted me so I found out that she was going off travelling for a whole year in OZ ( down under ) on the 1st of july this really hurt me but I sent her a email wishing her all the best on her trip and hopefully after a year or so we could hook up as mates so we can catch up, but I have heard nothing since! can you really turn off your feeling for someone if you been with them for 11mths it was coming up to a year two weeks before we broke up! I still feel love not in love but love if you know what I mean, I was wondering if you can really swicth off feelings or do they get covered over with all the angry feelings of the relantionship
  2. don't contact to your ex! If they want to speak to you they know where you are! Pls stop hoping and start healing! There are plenty more fish in the sea, and do you really think you can really get back together after this break up???? 99% of the time you wont! Let them be and live there life! You start living yours! It took me 40 long days and night to come to realise that my EX isn't coming back! One thing I must add when my ex broke it off with me I contacted her by email a few times and she would reply back but she never made the first move to make contact! So for anyone out there where there ex has broken up with you and does NC to you I'm sorry but it truly means it OVER 100% nothing more or nothing less!!!
  3. It's been 6weeks since my ex gf of 11mths broke it off with me! she has made no effort to find out whats going on in my life even tough she said she like to be friends! I have emailed a few times but only saying Hi and if she is ok! I just can't seem to get her out of my mind, she always the first thought when i wake up and the last thought when I go to bed, even tough I can't sleep a wink!!! I just need to know is it silly of me to feel like this about a girl who I only been dating 11mths? we did spend most of our days together and I feel I truly loved her! I just can't see how a girl can just swicth off her emotions towards me so quickly! one month we were making plans for the future next month she leaves me! I just get this feeling she MUST be seeing someone else! I just need help in trying to get over her cos its so hard for me to do at this moment I've been in strict NC for about 2.5 weeks but I just tempted to ask her if she is seeing anyone so it can help me move forward! I just feel so down and depressed cos I did love the girl, I just can't help to think she used me! Am I being a loser thinking about a girl so much who I was only with for 11mths! pls your thoughts pls anyone
  4. hi ladybugg I need your advice pls! me and my gf broke up just a little over a month ago, we kept arguing and I was feeling really low with myself and very insecure! two weeks before the break up I was thinking about ending it cos I could feel myself pushing her away with my insecurity but she told me that I was the most important thing in her life and she wanted to be there for me no matter what and she loved me! we went out one night and we argued cos we wasn't really speaking to each other or holding hands kissing etc! the next day she ended it saying she had emointally swicthed her feeling off about me and couldn't switch them back on! she told me she didn't want to lose touch with me and she still cared about me! she had a cell phone of mine which she gave back and got herself a new one, but I told not to give me the no or email me beacuse I know I be ringing and emailing her telling her how much I miss her and love her! she wanted to drop my cell phone off but I said NO because it would hurt to see her so I got a friend to pick it up! I started to really miss her so surprise surprise I deciced to email her telling her how much I love her etc! she reply back saying that this was for the best that we broke up! so I asked her if we could still be friends cos I rather that than nothing and I really don't want to lose touch! she reply back saying she didn't want to lose our friendship either! I left it two weeks and I heard nothing from her so I email agin quickly just asking how she was and if wrk was ok, she reply back saying she was ok going out with her friends alot over the weekend and was staying out till the early hrs! so I reply back saying glad she is enjoying herself and take care! from now I will try the NC rule, but I'm scared that she will just forget about me and will just carrying on with her life! I realised that its always me making contact to see how she doing, I told her I had a few job interviews and she never wished me any luck, or try to find out how they went which really hurt! do you think that she has really stop caring and can't wait for me not to contact her anymore! pls I need your advice cos Im going mad! and I feel so down
  5. hi ladybugg I need your advice pls! me and my gf broke up just a little over a month ago, we kept arguing and I was feeling really low with myself and very insecure! two weeks before the break up I was thinking about ending it cos I could feel myself pushing her away with my insecurity but she told me that I was the most important thing in her life and she wanted to be there for me no matter what and she loved me! we went out one night and we argued cos we wasn't really speaking to each other or holding hands kissing etc! the next day she ended it saying she had emointally swicthed her feeling off about me and couldn't switch them back on! she told me she didn't want to lose touch with me and she still cared about me! she had a cell phone of mine which she gave back and got herself a new one, but I told not to give me the no or email me beacuse I know I be ringing and emailing her telling her how much I miss her and love her! she wanted to drop my cell phone off but I said NO because it would hurt to see her so I got a friend to pick it up! I started to really miss her so surprise surprise I deciced to email her telling her how much I love her etc! she reply back saying that this was for the best that we broke up! so I asked her if we could still be friends cos I rather that than nothing and I really don't want to lose touch! she reply back saying she didn't want to lose our friendship either! I left it two weeks and I heard nothing from her so I email agin quickly just asking how she was and if wrk was ok, she reply back saying she was ok going out with her friends alot over the weekend and was staying out till the early hrs! so I reply back saying glad she is enjoying herself and take care! from now I will try the NC rule, but I'm scared that she will just forget about me and will just carrying on with her life! I realised that its always me making contact to see how she doing, I told her I had a few job interviews and she never wished me any luck, or try to find out how they went which really hurt! do you think that she has really stop caring and can't wait for me not to contact her anymore! pls I need your advice cos Im going mad! and I feel so down
  6. me and my gf broke up just a little over a month ago, we kept arguing and I was feeling really low with myself and very insecure! two weeks before the break up I was thinking about ending it cos I could feel myself pushing her away with my insecurity but she told me that I was the most important thing in her life and she wanted to be there for me no matter what and she loved me! we went out one night and we argued cos we wasn't really speaking to each other or holding hands kissing etc! the next day she ended it saying she had emointally swicthed her feeling off about me and couldn't switch them back on! she told me she didn't want to lose touch with me and she still cared about me! she had a cell phone of mine which she gave back and got herself a new one, but I told not to give me the no or email me beacuse I know I be ringing and emailing her telling her how much I miss her and love her! she wanted to drop my cell phone off but I said NO because it would hurt to see her so I got a friend to pick it up! I started to really miss her so surprise surprise I deciced to email her telling her how much I love her etc! she reply back saying that this was for the best that we broke up! so I asked her if we could still be friends cos I rather that than nothing and I really don't want to lose touch! she reply back saying she didn't want to lose our friendship either! I left it two weeks and I heard nothing from her so I email agin quickly just asking how she was and if wrk was ok, she reply back saying she was ok going out with her friends alot over the weekend and was staying out till the early hrs! so I reply back saying glad she is enjoying herself and take care! from now I will try the NC rule, but I'm scared that she will just forget about me and will just carrying on with her life! I realised that its always me making contact to see how she doing, I told her I had a few job interviews and she never wished me any luck, or try to find out how they went which really hurt! do you guys think that she has really stop caring and can't wait for me not to contact her anymore! pls guys I need your advice cos Im going mad! and I feel so down
  7. Hi superdave I have to say that I've been on this site since the break up of my gf a mth today and you have really inspired me to be really strong! but I've had days where I caved in to my heart and quickly sent an email to my ex to see how she was doing! and I also go onto her myspace page to see what she been up, which makes me go mad even more! I'm going to from today 02/03/07 have NO CONTACT what so ever with my EX! you are right its about time to love myself and work on making myself a much better person by making a few changes to my life! I'm going to do two things! 1st is I'm going to get myself a new job build a new career I have an interview in the next few days so pls keep your fingers crossed doing this is giving me something to keep my mind occupied and 2nd I'm learning how to drive I have my first lesson in 3 weeks time! I have been waiting in wonderland hoping she will come back to me but I have to wake up a smell the coffee and realise she is NEVER coming BACK! It's her loss! I will log on everyday for the next 30days to let you know how this is making me feel! Thanks superdave you are a true to yourself thats why you can give such good advice and I thank you for that!
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