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  1. He becomes violent and physically abusive when you confront him about his use of pornography. He calls phone sex lines and has run up a bill of $2000 before. I would say that yes, he is addicted to pornography, because his behaviors are not those of a normal user. Your average man will not spend more than his rent on phone sex. He won't get violent or hit his significant other over pornography. Regardless of his addiction or your being pregnant, I urge you to get out of this situation. Absolutely no relationship with abuse is worth staying in. A relationship that features physical abuse is especially dangerous, not just to your emotional and mental sanity, but to your life. Someone who physically abuses you is not safe to have around children.
  2. This time around, we started saying "I love you" months before our relationship turned romantic. We're lucky in that our relationship developed quite naturally and flawlessly from a very loving friendship.
  3. As I was reading this thread, it made me somewhat curious. I turned to my fiancee and asked him, "Hey, do you masturbate?" He laughed, and said no. I asked him, "Why not?" "I'm too busy having sex."
  4. Best advice I can give you? Stop faking it. It gives a TON of wrong signals, and you've essentially taught him that things that don't bring you pleasure bring you to orgasm. Also realize that vaginal intercourse is normally NOT enough to bring a woman to orgasm. Around 90% require some kind of clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm.
  5. Completely ignoring the age issue here, I don't think that her not being ready to tell about the relationship is necessarily a negative indicator. There is a great deal of stigma attached to being in an online relationship. There is even more stigma attached when the people in your life are violently against even the concept of internet romance. It's not always as easy as saying "I'm seeing someone."
  6. Heh. The man bringing in the money isn't really an issue in my relationship. I think you'd have to pull Kevin away from electrical engineering with a crowbar and threaten his life to keep him from running back to his robots.
  7. Jstan, it might sound a bit radical, but have you tried bootcamp? It sounds like you can't handle this kids' behavior at all (and it has to be so hard for you to deal with.) If nothing else has worked, it might be an option to seriously consider.
  8. Don't rule out the idea of getting a restraining order. If you've told him not to contact you and he keeps calling and following you places, it might be the safest thing you can do.
  9. I'm curious, would it be possible for you to finish up those nine credits by taking one course a term? If so, what you might consider doing is getting a normal job and working to get yourself through while you finish up that degree, then work in the field for awhile to get enough money to change over to electrical engineering.
  10. Don't hate being reasonable here, Secretsoul. What you're doing is looking out for yourself. You can't go into a marriage with just dreams of how things are going to work out and no solid plans - that's a road straight to pain and divorce. He sounds very idealistic, and I think you might want to just flat-out tell him that you're both going to have to live in the real world. His idealistic views on finances make me wonder what other dreams he has about what married life will be. Is he being realistic about what marrying you will mean, or is he building a fantasy life in his head?
  11. Marriage is a big step. Ideally, it's bonding your life to someone else's life until you die. And it's perfectly rational to want to take your time in an engagement, especially when you're young. Some of the pressure he's putting on you might come from wanting to move in together. Have you considered the potential of living together while you're engaged, then getting married later on - i.e, after you finish college?
  12. Wanting to get help is great. Doing it far away from you is better. I don't think it's selfish at all to tell him that you don't want to be in a relationship with him while he still has these anger problems, simply for your own safety and sanity. If he gets help and changes, then later down the road you might consider getting back together. For now, get rid of him.
  13. What it means? Nothing. The majority of these tests give "results" that are positive or broadly applicable, and this looks like it fits right in to the norm.
  14. In this situation, it might be best to keep your feelings about her actions to yourself. I totally understand the desire to rant here, but don't let your feelings about it fall over onto your friend. We all know how hard it can be to make a tough decision when considering just ourselves - when friends get in the mix, it can be even worse! The best thing might be to just support your friend and let him rant when he needs it. Saying bad things about his g/f can come back to bite you.
  15. Honestly, I'd tell your parents. You know why? Not because he's having sex. Not even because he's having sex with a minor (although that is reason enough in and of itself.) But because he is having UNPROTECTED sex. You know that this is extremely risky behavior. Pregnancy is not the only worry, there's also STDs to be concerned about. Your parents need to know what's going on so they can intervene before your brother makes another mistake like this and ends up with a baby or dying from a sexually transmitted disease. It might not be your concern, but it is your parents. It's important for his health as well, because he needs to get tested, and that's something you're probably not going to be able to get him to do by yourself.
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