I apparently was dropped recently by a guy that used to be my best friend by far, and had been for a very long time. This is a guy I had known for 25 years, with whom I had gone to high school, worked in the same industry, and finally had as a roommate for several years until he got married and moved to a different state to be closer to his wife's family. We still talked on the phone a few times a year after that, and he had even dropped by to visit a few times when he was in my neck of the woods. But a couple of years ago he stopped calling, and the last several times I have tried to call him to catch up, I never reach him and my messages are not returned (I know that he still lives there, as I did speak very briefly to his wife once). My most recent attempt to call him, a few months ago, was also my last - if he wants to maintain our friendship at this point, I guess he will have to call me, but I have the distinct sense that he will not be doing so.
Even though this was far less abrupt of a "drop" than what I assume you have just experienced, it still leaves me feeling sad. I am talking about a guy who once knew that he could call me at 3 a.m. to drive upwards of two hours to where his vehicle was disabled and pick him up (and whom I could and did rely upon for similar help when I needed it). I can only guess why he has decided to cut off any further contact. The only reason I can think is that it may be that he thinks having an aging bachelor in so-so health as a friend is not a fit with his happy, healthy, busy family life ... that, having not been lucky enough to go down the same path that he did, I am no longer a good enough person to maintain even occasional contact with.
:splat: