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  1. Thanks guys! I don't mean it as though he's successful and I am not as I have a great job that pays well...it's just frustrating sometimes because I had to scour the streets, apply for tons of jobs, etc...whereas w/him it seems like he gets up at 11, applies for 1 job and gets it. I guess it'd be easier to be happy for him if he wasn't so lazy and lucky.
  2. Hi all, I guess I just need to vent. A friend of mine whom i've known quite a while seems to just be able to half- * * * his way through life, and it's pissing me off. It seems like I work my butt off, get better grades, yet all the "breaks" swing his way. As an example...He just got into a business school with a GPA less than the minimum req'd and a GMAT score less than the minimum. They told him it's because this year was a weird one, a down year for enrollment numbers. While I do in part wish him success, i'm just so frustrated that everything seems to go his way. Anyone else ever experience this type of thing??
  3. Thanks for the advice guys, I think I just need to be more encouraging and take somewhat of a lead in the issue. As for the health thing, i've had heart surgeries so keeping healthy is big for me. But I think the main problem is that: a) It's starting to affect me socially. Ie. We can't just go for drink anymore cuz she MUST have desert or food...which is also a drain financially. b) That kind of weight gain is a problem in the sense that i'm 25, and i'm assessing marriage potential in women and to be honest, excessive eating is not desirable. c) I dunno, if she went to the gym semi-regularly and made an effort to eat better I probably wouldn't care about weight...it's just the junk after junk that's starting to annoy me. I also was a sous-chef while going to university so i love nice foods...not just burgers and fries. Maybe I am shallow? But I really do care for her...
  4. She didn't get into med school, but the eating started before that. I'm worried about her but at the same time I came here for advice because i'm starting to show more and more frustration.
  5. Hi all, I've been dating a girl for a year near so yeah, i'd consider it serious. My only problem is that for about 6 months or so now she's basically been eating like crazy...i'm just guessing but it seems like she's put on at least 15 lbs. Not only that, but my friends are starting to make comments about her..."wow, she's got quite the appetite". And it's pretty much all junk food and she just seems too lazy to do anything about it. I guess i'm just frustrated cuz all I see her doing is eating, and when we go to the restaurant she always picks the fattiest thing and orders desert. She's not a big girl, nor am I perfect, but this is starting to bother me a little. I believe she has depression as well... I haven't said anything, but I'd be lying if it isn't a serious concern. How can I bring this up? Is it something that i've basically just gotta live with or cut bait? How can i support?
  6. You are doing the right things, and trust me, you probably don't want to date the guys who can't walk up and talk to you anyways. I have this problem myself and i'm trying to overcome it. What you're probably doing at this point is reading too much into conversations with other people. Does he like me? Do i like him? Should I talk? Will he like me? etc... IMO, you need to just start talking to people for the sake of talking to people, and nothing else. You don't need a "reason" to talk to someone...just introduce yourself and ask how his day has been going or something. If you're looking at ways to meet people think about joining recreational sports, mixed softball leagues, work leagues, etc... then try joining activities you are interested in. Are you having a problem with being upbeat? If so I sometimes use a technique where a visualize a moment in my life when I was on an absolute high, and feeling powerful. Sounds cheesy but it can help you refocus your attitude. Just talk! And when you have a good convo going with something what's to stop you from askin them to join you for coffee sometime?
  7. You had a normal reaction to the situation. From my experience women want the act of sex to be "spontaneous", something he didn't do. I don't know if I'd overreact...but stick to what you believe is right for you, be firm, and relax.
  8. Yep. Either a homograph valve which can last 15 years or a mechanical one which lasts a lifetime but requires daily blood thinners for the rest of your life. Unfortunately stem cell research isn't far enough along.
  9. Hi all, I'm writing this because I'm at a loss. I'm 25 and am going to be have my 3rd heart surgery to repair a valve in the last 8 years. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out this situation isn't going to change. I've been trying to keep my head up as i've managed to get a good job and a college degree in between the first two, but it just seems all for not sometimes. I try hard to hide what i'm feeling but it's creeping out in other forms. I have no self-confidence with women which makes dating seem almost impossible, i'm afraid to go jogging because of my heart, and I am really tired all the time. Everyone's been really nice and I do have a lot of support, it's just they don't really understand. All I keep hearing is "youve been through this before, so u should know what to expect"...but that doesn't take away from the pain and recovery. I'm scared, and it hurts. Somestimes I feel like i'm just a sucker for punishment. I"m not sure what i'm looking for. Perhaps just a place to vent. BZ
  10. Hi all, I have a rather weird situation to deal with, well perhaps not as weird as I think. A friend of mine whom i've known my whole life and I decided to get an apartment...The problem, however, is that in addition to photo's of his GF in his bedroom he's started putting photo's of her//them in our living room. Am I being too harsh to find this weird? I mean it's shared space, and if I bring over a date (i'm single), wouldn't they be as weirded out by my roommate having pictures of his GF all over the place? Am I wrong to think that stuff should be kept private in the bedroom? I wouldnt very well put family photos all over the place in a shared apartment, i'd keep them in my room. Just with all the photos and such it creates the impression this is his apt and i'm just rooming which is not the case. Am I being too harsh? What's the best way to handle this?
  11. The real question is whether you can get past this. Personally if that happened to me it'd make me wonder what issues she's got to be sleeping with so many guys in such a short time frame. I wouldn't want to marry a girl capable of that...those aren't the ones you marry. But again...the question is...DO YOU?
  12. As Chris Rock would say, "Men lie the most but women tell the biggest lies. A woman's lie is, "i'm pregnant"." All comedy aside. Both sexes have a history of lying and I wouldn't put one gender ahead or behind of the other. As for your question, person A for sure. Person A presents themselves as a challenge whereas person B comes accross as a wussbag you can use...not attractive.
  13. Yeah I agree with the lady on this one. It seems from my own experience that you need to establish your intentions from the get-go with a woman, you need to communicate in such a manner to make her feel attraction. Your friends shyness has probably hurt him with respect to this woman. In my view his chances are slim to none and that he should take this as a lesson to be more forward with the next one. That doesn't mean he shouldn't ask her out (for a date)...just that his chances are probably not so good.
  14. I think you're missing the point. Firstly you have to accept that there are ppl who are just better at dealing with women. You also need to realise that life isn't fair, but that's good for you. Why? Because if you learn the skills you need to to be successful with women the odds will swing in your favor. Personally I don't accept the "i can't be this, or i can't do that" attitude. Rather then venting perhaps you should be asking yourself what you can do to get this part of your life sorted out.
  15. Maybe you need to take a good hard look at how you act in and around women and see if you really are doing something to turn them off, 1st step is accepting that you have a problem and need to learn to overcome it. Being nervous comes accross as distrustful and weird, for one. Watch a james bond movie...watch how he acts, how he communicates on a different level with the women...obviously don't try to speak british!! But seriously a James Bond movie is a good study guide. The other thing. You've only attempted to get phone numbers from two girls? Two? If I go to a bar I've been rejected more then that. Some days you got your groove going, other days you fall flat. That's life.! 'n Good luck man!
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