Thanks, you've given me alot to think about. When I signed up with Match there were safety tips and some of them went something like don't give out your personal email addresss, phone number, etc. So is it safe to IM someone? I have Yahoo Messenger just haven't ever used it. Will that do for IM and is it "safe"? Also, if there's no such thing as online chemistry then online dating might not be for me. I've always picked men based on chemistry rather than money, occupation or anything like that. If it wasn't chemistry I felt with that guy then what was it? It felt good, whatever it was.