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  1. Why are you messaging me? I don't know what to say or what to do. I regret texting you back. Why don't you come by and pick up your things? Are you stalling or do you want to be back together? I miss you so much, and really just want to see you. I hope this isn't real...
  2. My guy cheated (more or less... he lied and stuff!) and so far, he seems to be giving me a LOT of space. Hinting things like, "It's up to you" or "Do what you gotta do", as if I'm the one that should be making the first move. He's very big on NOT chasing people because he thinks you can never change somebody's mind, so you might as well do nothing. It's so irritating. Ugh, I'm in such a pickle. It feels like I have to do all the communicating because he's waiting for ME to talk to him, even though I made it clear that I want to work on things. Whatever... I guess it's my fault for forgiving him too quickly -_- I can only hope things work out.
  3. On my 18th birthday (which wasn't too long ago), my boyfriend and his friends bought me an ice cream cake (he got me one for my 17th birthday too... we weren't going out at the time, we were merely "talking") and presented it to me in the middle of class. It was embarrassing but cute. Then later that afternoon he randomly called me and told me to get ready and said, "NO JEANS!" then hung up. Then he picked me up and drove me to this BEAUTIFUL restaurant that was sitting on top of a building... about 20 stories high. It was romantic, seeing as he hardly ever does things like that, it was quite nice... but it's more of the "little things" he does for me each day that I find most romantic + sweet. Now that I read everyone else's story though, mine seems kind of... blah.
  4. That seems like WAAAYY too much calculation and numbers... it all depends on how you FEEL. Many people develop feelings a lot quicker than others... right?
  5. It varies. You can't pinpoint the time frame as to when they'll 'remember' you or the good times. In my case, my ex (now my boyfriend) never forgot them. His memory of "us" was better than MINE! =X
  6. Just wanted to say... I think I died and went to heaven. My ex and I are BACK TOGETHER! It's 2 a.m. over here, and I couldn't go to sleep without posting here and instilling an ounce of hope in those that still believe in second chances! I'll give details once I get some rest... however, it's hard to sleep when reality is better than dreaming. Alright, well... my ex has to be the most stubborn, PRIDEFUL guy I've ever met... so if your ex is like a rock, it's possible they can be budged! Here's the background We dated for about 6-7 months and somewhere along the road, my trust for him was completely gone. He never cheated, but he was my first "real" relationship so I was kind of new to it all. I constantly accused him of cheating and I went ballistic one day over a rumor that he kissed this girl who I HATE (we've had issues with this girl since day 1)... finally, he broke up with me a week later, saying he was too stressed out, he couldn't handle it, I was paranoid, etc... He gave me his word we'd get back together and this "break up" was to regain trust and build our "foundation" back together. Over the course of two weeks, we'd call each other but then I figured... "We're broken up! Why am I still calling HIM?!" so I went LC. Eventually, the phone calls stopped and the dreaded day came: he got somebody NEW! He promised he'd tell me if he ever moved on, so eventually... he told me about her and how they were about to go out. I was crushed, but at least he stuck with ONE of his promises. I resented him because he knew I had trust issues... and to throw everything out? It was a stab in the heart and the back. Besides... we were only broken up for about 1 1/2 months and he finds some random girl ALREADY?! It made me feel as if I meant nothing to him. Call me crazy, but I actually thought they were PERFECT for each other. From what other people said, she didn't give him any drama and was really "cool". She was also GORGEOUS. It killed me inside every time I saw them together. I thought, "He never loved me then; she's replacing me; how can he be over it already?; he's happier with her than with me..." I was almost certain he was 100% over me... I mean, he had a freakin' girlfriend! They went out for about 2-3 months... and in between, he'd call once in a while to talk to try and rekindle our friendship. Every time I saw him, I'd mumble a "hello" very meekly and quickly walked away. In my head, I kept repeating, "He has a girlfriend. He doesn't like me. We're over. We're JUST friends. Move on, move on, move on, MOVE. ON." Fortunately my friends helped me tremendously and I was starting to accept that my ex was no longer with me. It still hurt me, no doubt, but I was actually able to go through the day without bursting into tears. During the last two weeks of his "relationship" with this girl, we started talking again... before, my mentality was: If he can't have me as a girlfriend, he doesn't deserve me as a friend! Then, I caved in and thought: I already lost him as a boyfriend... losing him as a friend is too much. He'd call and text to talk, but we never EVER mentioned her. We reminisced a lot and were very playful with each other. He finally broke it off with her because she was annoying, etc. Before you know it, we're talking for about 5 hours and he's apologizing for EVERYTHING he's done after the break up. I swear, everything was perfect. I told myself, "I'm never going to go back out with that pig after what he did!" Turns out, he was extremely sorry for breaking up with me and hurting me while he was going out with this girl (He really regretted it, his intentions were never to hurt me, he finally figured out she was not me and never could be, he admitted he tried finding someone who could come CLOSE to me but couldn't, he didn't blame me for anything, he really misses me, etc...) While he was telling me this, I was crying because... I never thought the day would come! I'm glad my wishes at 11:11 weren't completely wasted! It amazed me how much he remembered about our relationship and how much STUFF he's kept! When he told me all of this, I realized... I was lying to myself. I never really moved on or let go. I never went full NC. It was way too hard! So... I stuck with LC. I couldn't stand NOT talking to him (and apparently, it really hurt HIM, too.) And THANK YOU GUYS, I'm DEFINITELY going to be taking it slow. Let's hope the second time is better around... *crosses fingers* GOOD LUCK to you all. Nothing's impossible! Don't listen to other people's negativity... just keep hope alive, and if you really want something, FIGHT for it!
  7. Thanks, guys WishIKnew- Hmm... 5 year relationship and you found someone who you shared even MORE with? That gives me a lot of hope that I'm not totally doomed.... Juliana- WOW, I can't wait to go to college now and be chased by guys! How fun is that? Sword- I'm actually enrolled in the local gym and it sure does feel GOOD when your body feels BAD from a workout!... it really takes your mind off things. I sure WILL "live it up" to the best of my ability. Everybody says to take advantage of the time that I have while I'm single... I don't see what's so great about it though. Maybe in time I'll realize that being single really isn't bad... but for now, it kinda sucks!!
  8. Aw *hugs*. I'm in the SAME boat as you. I feel as if I won't have another boyfriend (let alone FRIEND) who can "connect" with me on THAT level... someone who's company you enjoy 100% and you feel on top of the world. Then the next day, it's GONE. I know for a fact you won't feel "depressed" forever... it may take a while, but you WILL get over it. As for me, I'm still on my 3rd-4th month of the break up and it stings... especially when they have someone new. I hope you're feeling better though. There are BILLIONS of people in the world, each one unique... I really doubt he's the only one who can "get you" and make you feel those butterflies. It sucks to lose a boyfriend/best friend all in one, I know... but sometimes it's for the better. You'll probably learn something from this.
  9. GREAT analogy! I love it! =) And it really depends on the person in order to "calculate" the chance of backfiring. In my case, my guy broke up with me (even though he "still liked me") because we argued too much and things got REEEEALLY crazy and psycho towards the end... He called me from time to time and I was just happy to hear from him that I'd always pick up. Weeks later, I realized I was waiting around for something that obviously wouldn't happen. I stopped talking to him, even if he called me or said hi to me. His efforts to be my friend increased but in my mind... it was either I'm his girlfriend or NOTHING. It's selfish, but I could not be "just friends" with him, and I still can't. Ok point is... I basically stopped talking to him made him believe I really just don't care. It's a good/bad thing. It can definitely scare them off or intrigue them and bring them in closer. Turns out, he told me he got a new girlfriend because we "drifted" apart and "someone else" caught his eye. How lame!! Talk about backfiring... With that said... if she's stubborn, she probably won't come any closer in fear of getting rejected, but if she's willing to put her heart out on the line, she'll chase you... It's all a matter of pride. I miss my ex SO much and would LOVE to get back with him but I will NOT call him... no matter how tempted I am. I will NOT say hi to him... it fools a lot of people including him, which may not be the best thing... acting too nonchalant can drive them away and even hurt them because they'll think they meant nothing to you. As for the whole "getting a new person" after the relationship, it could possibly be a rebound but it doesn't matter whether it is or not. What matters is that they're no longer SINGLE and they are exclusive with someone else... if that's the case, it's probably best to not wait around because you never know how long it'll last... It's okay to talk to her time to time even if she has somebody else. If you don't talk to her, it won't make her forget you... she would probably miss you more! If they do break-up, act indifferent, do not be the Knight in Shining Armor because she might not return the same kind of attention... she might use you to make herself feel better then just move on.
  10. I'm sorry to hear that. I dated my guy for about a year, we became best friends, I felt so comfortable with him, etc... I thought I couldn't find anyone else like him. We later broke up due to arguments. I must say, we argued at least once a day the last few weeks of our relationship and we both knew it was a sign we were not meant to be. He would tell me I wasn't appreciative of his efforts then I would tell him he wouldn't open up, blah blah blah... either way, both of you will think you're right... and eventually you'll find you cannot give him what he wants. His list of why he's unhappy is quite long and maybe you guys are not compatible. I suggest at this time, learn to live without him... being too dependent on him for happiness will only hurt you. Also (I wish I had learned this...) make sure you are a whole person, instead of putting him in the position where he "completes" you. Now, it seems as if a part of me is GONE because my ex kind of filled all these voids that I could've easily filled myself... I hope I made sense. Some space apart will help you see things in perspective. The space will also give you time to work on YOURSELF and maybe you'll be able to REALLY take in what he told you and work on it...
  11. Thanks... my motivation right now is just getting into this college I've been dying to go to. It really helps take my mind off of things. Although it's not out-of-state or out-of-city, I'll still be able to leave this behind me. And cute story, Annie! That's like something out of a MOVIE! =)
  12. I feel you! I'm not Christian though... in fact, I'm not religious at ALL... I just don't believe in giving my body away to just "any" guy. I'm a virgin, in a technical sense, but I feel as if I can't find a guy who won't just use me for my body. It's hard to find a guy who knows you're abstinent and is still willing to stick with you... ESPECIALLY at a young age, when hormones are raging. But with careful decisions and patience, you will FIND a guy who is actually worth the wait... and when you find him, it'll make your relationship SO much sweeter!!!
  13. I'm about three or four months into my break-up... believe me, I went through (and am STILL going through) the whole, "Was it all a lie?", "I don't even KNOW him anymore!", "He never loved me..." But then... you have to realize they DID love you that way, but time goes on and feelings change. When they told you they loved you, they meant it at that moment. It sucks, but hey... For the "I Don't even know him anymore"... that tears me EVERYtime because I felt as if I KNEW my ex inside and out and he still has the nerve to act like a complete stranger, as if we never shared intimate moments together, like i'm just "another girl"... it hurts, but you gotta put yourself in the mental state that YOU are the better person, YOU are the prize, and life works in mysterious ways. Blessings happen when you LEAST expect them to... believe me, they do!! I wasn't even expecting to find such an AMAZING guy (who's now, unfortunately, my ex... ahem, he wasn't so amazing afterall...), but when i was least looking for it, he came!! And that shall happen AGAIN... time will heal. It can be your worst enemy or best friend... but it always manages to sort things out.
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