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How do you know if he's "the one". I think most people would say, "you just know"! I know thats what I would have said. I just knew he was the one. When our eyes first met, time slowed and eveything. It was truly an amazing experience!!! But does "the one" mean forever? I thought so, but im not so sure. This same guy I thought was "the one" now seems like, I dont know, just not "the one" anymore. Yet I cant picture myself with anyone else. Im not even attracted to anyone else. I guess whats making him seem less appealing to me is some of his less desirable qualities. Hes always just short of being in debt. It scares me alot. He just canot save money! Theres always something he has to run out and buy! Most of the time its on me! His breath really stinks! It makes me sad, because hes so kissy-kissy with me, and half the time I cant even enjoy it because his breath smells so much, I swear last time we kissed I felt like I might throw up, and ever time I backed away he just tried to kiss me more, and for longer, and the only way I could stop myself from insulting him by puking is to start laughing! Hes not very clean ussually. Unless I tell him to shower, he wont, and I know when were not together he showers about twice a week. Its funny because when we first met, none of these problems seemed to exist! Now its all I can think about. I still love this man, but I dont want to spend the rest of my life with someone who only bathes when i tell him too, and cant keep more than $300 in his savings without spending it all on some dumb video games or something! By the way, evey problem I have mentioned, I have talked to him about, and he does fix them, but not on his own, its only when I complain about it, then he does something about it. I guess Im just afraid if all these negative attributes keep showing, im going to fall out of love with him, and hes still wildy in love with me! I love him, I really do, but is something like bad heigene reason for thinking hes not Mr. Right anymore?

god I love what your doing for her! Makes me kinda sad, cause me and my boyfriend's 1yr is Jan 12th, and I couldn't imagine him doing something as great as this! As far as a present...screw the present! What your doing will mean more to her than any item, but hmmm maybe I can think of some suggestions for you... jewelery is always nice, but its way too overdone. Unless its personal, like your names are engraved in it or something. I'm not sure where you live, but around here we have a shop called build-a-bear where you can make a stuffed animal that has your own voice when you press its hand. Iv'e always wanted one of those. good luck, sounds amazing! lucky girl!

I'm in a college with no dorm rooms, and hes already graduated from one, that again, has no dorm rooms, but thanks anyway, it may spark some more ideas!

Here's the deal... Me and my boyfriends one year anniversary is coming up in a few weeks, and we are determined to get a hotel room for (wink wink) I think you know... Now its not like we haven't done it before, we have done it alot! But we are both eager to spend the night in the same bed and screw in a big bed, because we both still live with our parents, so we are always sneaking around about it in our little twin matresses. Now neither of us our very open with our parents as far as sex goes, my parents still think I'm a virgin, although that could not possibly be less true, lol And we know we can't just take off for a weekend without them questioning everything, and we don't want to come right out and say that we're going to be having crazy wild sex in a hotel room,... so my question is this... Do you know of any good excuses to tell parents when your going to be gone overnight? Keeping in mind if they have half a brain they realize its our 1yr anniversary, and if we say we're at so-and-so's house they can and will call to make sure. Please any ideas would be helpful, we really want to get out of our houses and be loud for a change, and we are really avoiding telling the parents any details, because, well, damn thats embarrassing and they'd never look at our relationship the same. Both our parents view us as such sweet and innocent kids, and have no idea what happens behind closed doors.

honesty is the best pollicy. Tell her exactly how your feeling. That kind of good communication can only help a friendship, and it may even open a door for a relationship. Just keep her feelings in mind too.

omg Netflix became a worse problem when he subscribed to that. He ended up renting renting renting, only to later decide to buy. It was even more money down the drain, and thankfully he canceled it. As for the temper, it has never ever been torwards me. He was trying to cook a pizza one night, and he got really really mad yelling at the dough because it wouldn't stretch out far enough to cover the pan. Just little weird things like that make him angry. I suppose its because he was making it for me, and got angry that he couldn't do something nice for me, which might even be why he's almost stopped trying to do special things for me, since we have a such a bad memory with that pizza incident. He was pounding the dough around and grunting angerly, and it even made me cry because I'm very scared of an abusive relationship, and seeing him in there kicking cuboards upset me since I know that could lead to spousal abuse. However, he is so gentle with me, he treats me like a rare flower or something, I could never in a million years imagine him hitting me, and he knows how I feel about it, and how I wouldn't put up with even a gentle slap. Another time a glass dropped on his foot and he started swearing loudly and groaning, which sure, he was in pain, but all the yelling, I don't know it seemed uncalled for. I guess he can be a bit of a drama king.

I know his priorities are really out of whack, and I hope I can help him see that. I refuse to move in with him if he is in debt, and he knows that. I can't complain too much because its not like I have a ton of money to contribute to our savings, but at least I'm not wasting it away on things we don't need. I don't think we need couples councelling or a financial advisor at this point, seeing we are slipping out of the phase, for now, I'm worried though after 2007 is over with, he will forget about the contract and go nuts buying all the dvds he missed out on the year before. I just wish he would come up with a better reason as to why he needs to buy these things that he doesn't even use! He claims he's a collector, but to me, you should put your collection on hold when more important things come to your life. I think we will make it through this spending...but what about that ugly temper!? I don't think its bad enough to where he'd hit me (he knows he'd be out of my world immediately if he ever did that) but no one likes to be yelled at for no reason.

UPDATE: I typed all this right after we talked on the phone, and I just checked my mail and had this sweet wonderful message waiting for me... (I took out the names, its not swearing lol) "Hi there Sweetie!!! Its little ol me! ----! You know..your fiancee!!!! I just wanted to drop by to tell you that you are the most beautiful, kindhearted, sweet, loving, funny, wonderful, enchanting, mesmerizing, stunning, radiant, caring, amazing girl in the entire world and i'll love you with all my heart and soul every second of every day for the rest of my life. I can't wait to marry you and spend our days together cuddling and loving each other's company to the fullest. I cant wait to see you tomorrow so we can snuggle and play "KISS THE CUTIE!!". Well Sweets i'm gonna get to bed. Have a wonderful night my beautiful dreamgirl. You mean the world to me -----. I love you. Eternally yours, ----" Maybe I am just worrying too much.

I'm going to ramble about several diffrent things, so prepare yourself. Me and my fiance have been together for a year, but known each other for longer, and we both like to think we have the perfect relationship, but lately I've been doubting that because I feel in a perfect relationship, I shouldn't be crying over the phone so much. We're not living together...yet, but we are saving up and getting no where. He saved up almost $2,000 at one point, but then he revealed to me he was in major credit card debt, so I demanded he use it to pay that off first, which he did, and all was fine and dandy, except, now he's starting to get in credit card debt again because he has a terrible habbit of buying dvds. When we first met, he had around 600 dvds that he had been collecting for years, and claimed his only reason for buying so much was out of his lonelyness. Now that we have been together for a year, and I expected the madness to slowly simmer out, it has gotten even worse. He is almost up to 1,000 dvds now, and he is buying them with money he doesn't even have. He's using his credit cards like a madman, but at least this time around he's paying it back little by little rather than it all add up to a ginormous amount, but it has brought me to tears a few times thinking about the financial trouble that may be lurking around our corner. What really bugs me, is that we barely even have money for food! Yet he's spending money on dvds and even sometimes...action figures! (he is 22) and thankfully, I was able to convince him how ridiculous he was for buying action figures, and he stopped buying them so much...or so I thought. He recently admited he had bought a few more since he's been with me, and got really ashamed, and heck, I was embarrassed for him. Anyways, back to the food...We have been depending on my parents for feeding us way too much! And when there not around, again we're using credit cards (money we dont have) just to fill our tummies. Now don't think he is all bad or something, I love him regardless of his habbits, and I've been helping him to fight them. We even made up a contract together for the new year that hes only allowed $40 a month for dvd buying, but I still feel he shouldn't need to buy them at all. He has almost 1,000 now, and has probally only seen about 300 of them. I asked him today what he will do in 2008 after the contract is up, and he made it seem like he's going right back to his old ways after the year is over! I guess I'm just scared that I'd be making the wrong descion by moving in with him, and getting married. Some of my friends from school haven't been helping the situation either. One guy in particular had the nerve to tell me I could do much better (looks-wise) than him, which upset me because I have never been one to judge on looks, or even care for that matter, yet I am fully aware that we are a major case of Beauty and the Geek. Now don't go judging him just yet, he says some of the sweetest things you can imagine to me, and he treats me well, doesn't hit me, but sometimes I feel as if he's just using lines out of movies on me, and they feel less meaningfull. The main reason I'd think that is because every now and then he slips into this different personality where he's extremely moody and snappy at me, and makes me feel like he doesn't even care about me, and it makes me cry and feel annoying when he uses that tone of voice with me, but he always says sorry and says its only because he worked real hard that day and is really tired, but I feel that that kind of behavior is inexcusable. I don't snap at him that way and I'm a woman! I thought the women were supposed to have PMS! I'll ask him a simple, what are you doing? And he'll reply with a frustrated, angered tone, when he could simply answer in his normal voice. It's ussually when we talk on the phone when his tempers rise like this, and I end up crying, and he ends up appologizing with the same old had a rough day excuse. I'm also getting quite frustrated because I always leave him sweet and funny myspace comments, and he never even answers back or anything. I'll ask him if he read it, and he'l say yeah, you sweetie! Or something nice like that, and I keep hinting that I want sweet messages back too! I have even been sending him those cute e-cards that say I love you and stuff, and I'm always leaving him funny messages, I even flat out said in the message to write me back, but he never does. I know it may seem silly that I want him to send me a silly little e-card, but I want sweet random messages to brighten up my day like I do for him! I guess I'm just worried I've made a mistake, and I'm in too deep. We are engaged, and we are both each others first loves. I really don't want to break up with him, I'm still madly in love with him, but things could be better, and that thought in my mind brings me to tears. I feel like there might be a better guy out there for me who will not only say sweet things in person, but leave me little notes of love too! He won't spend thousands of dollars on dvds, and then spend $50 on my christmas present (he just told me that tonight, and it made me want to cry) I really didn't want to know how much he spent on me, but when he told me that, I guess I was just expecting alot more since he always goes on and on about how much he loves me. I will just have to wait and see if the presents actually have some thought behind them, unlike my birthday present. He got me a cd player, when he's been in my room hundreds of times and knew I already had one that I never use anyway. I have just always wanted really thoughtfull gifts, and that just felt like a crap in the face when I went through so much trouble on his birthday cooking him a nice meal, getting all dressed up, romantic music, candles, the whole nine yards. and I know deep down the reason i do those special things is because I want him to do the same for me, but I have yet to feel that in return. I know he loves me, I know I love him, but if he keeps dissappointing me, I might have room in my heart to start loving someone else and that scares me. I want it to work out so bad, I know I mean the world to him, and if he didn't have me, he'd have nothing. I'm even afraid he'd kill himself if I ever broke up with him. But should I screw up my life to save someone else's? Maybe I'm not screwing up my life at all, I'm just being overly sensitive? I don't know what to do, I feel like based on my story above you will have nothing to say to me except dump him, but what I wrote isn't exactly fair to him. I simply only put his bad side, and frankly, If I wrote the good side of him, I might as well start a novel. I really don't even know why I'm putting this on here! I don't want to hear a bunch of people saying dump this loser, because you only know half of it. I truly want to spend the rest of my life with him, and I know its normal to have these kind of problems, and we're lucky we have never been in a fight or even a shouting match. But he has made me cry with his moody behavior more than once. I guess I just want your oppionion on the situation. Do you think he will change over time? Have you had a similar situation? Any ideas on how I can help him stop buying pointless items and stop with his snappy behavior (he is a cancer afterall, you know how snappy those crabs get!) Maybe we should make another contract? Breaking up is not something I'm willing to do, that would be a real mistake. Am I making something out of nothing? Am I expecting too much from him?...he is a man afterall lol j/k

I think you should tell your parents, I think it might be dangerous having an older man interested in such a young girl. Go ahead and tattle, your sister will forgive you eventually. when my older sister lost her virginity to some douchebag guy, she told me about it and asked that I wouldn't tell my parents, but I told him within an hour. everything worked out just fine, sure she was mad at me at first, but it was a situation kinda like yours (cant really get into it) but it had potential to become a very dangerous situation, and my sister now thanked me for it, because I just might have saved her life.

well thanks for the advice guys, I'm not so sure about those cups either...lol and neither of us have any interest in anal sex, and that one time we did do it, he was wearing a condom. I'm just going to accept it and wait for metapause. lol

horniest during their period... yep thats me! lol

I have always wondered how many people actually have sex or give their women any kind of pleasure while there on their period. The reason I'm asking is because my man avoids me like the plague when I'm on my period. We have been together for almost a year, and when we first started having sex, we did it while I was on my period, but the whole time he kept pulling out and looking at his * * * *, and he kept looking down, he was really paranoid about it, and he couldn't even keep his erection, and I felt so self-conscious I cried. But he reassured me theres no need to cry, and that he was just freaked out by seeing blood on his * * * *, and now we know we shouldn't have sex while I'm on my period. Well, problem is,...I want to! But he doesn't, he's really grossed out by it now and won't even touch me till its over. Now I don't want to force him to have a sex with me during that time of the month, I understand if he'll always be this way, but I'd like to at least make a second attempt, and maybe be better prepared this time. I mean, the first time I washed myself out so good, and I even inserted tampons over and over to try and clean myself up, but it was still a fairly bloody experience. I'm basically just wondering if theres any trick to this, or if other couples are like us, and just completely not do it during that time. He seems to think no man ever has sex when his girl is on her period, while I'm thinking everyone does! Its not a big deal! your oppinion?...

I'm not bisexual, but I have tasted both because I've tasted myself...(go ahead, cringe, think im gross, whatever, but I was curious as to what he was tasting down there, and when I told him I did, he tasted himself also ) anyway...I must say...I don't exactly like the taste of a man, but I don't mind it. As for myself, I was actally tempted to double-dip if you know what I mean, so as far as who has it easier, I'd say its a tie, he complains of sore neck sometimes, however, when it comes to taste, hands down, women taste better. and women can taste terrible some times, but thats a hygene problem.

haha funny, my boyfriend wouldn't even let himself cum in my mouth till recently because he was afraid I'd gag or get sick. I finnally just stayed down when he announced he was getting close, and when I refused to remove him from my mouth, he actually stopped and was like, "you sure? only if you want to..." and I nodded, and resumed the act, and BAM! that man screamed with pleasure louder than ever! loved it! and you know what...I didn't mind it at all because I did a little trick with my tongue... you see, your tastebuds are on the top of your tongue, so when he announced he was ready to burst, I simply curled my tongue up so the sperm would hit under my tongue, and I barely tasted a thing! Infact, he had to tell me when he was done, because I couldn't even tell he finished. afterwords I just swallowed really quickly, and barely had to taste it! Then he was all worried about me and handed my a tissue to spit it, not realizing I had already swallowed it, but I spit in the tissue anyway, lol and then he was so concerned the cum was going to dry in my mouth and close up throat or something, or rust on my teeth, he made me go rinse with water, and use mouthwash, oh and I forgot to mention, afterwords, he was so satisfied, yet felt so guilty I had his sperm in my mouth, he quikly tasted it himself afterwords. lol I thought it was sweet of him really. he admits it has always been a fantasy for him (cuming in my mouth) but he was so worried I'd throw up on him or something! lol