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HA! Well look at him now-- if he's all that then why is he still single? This guy sounds like such a jerk! I'm new here and am not sure what "NC" is, but I'm assuming it means No Calling. If you've gone a whole 7 months without calling this * * * * * * *, please do not mess up what you've worked so hard to do. It will only put you back to square one. He is not worth your precious time! Please stay strong and take care. Many hugs to you.

WOW, how very rude!!!!! You're better off without this one, hun. She sounds like a real jerk.

Is there a chance that maybe he went out of town for the weekend so he did not get your message? Or were you calling his cell phone? If you really need/want to get your things back you should call him again. Leave any suggestions of hanging out up to him though.

I prefer taller guys because I'm 5'7, but I would never rule out someone who is cute, funny, intelligent and kind just because he was not tall. Many women are picky about a man's height just like a lot of men are picky about a woman's weight. Girls who won't date a guy just because he is short are the equivalent of guys who won't date a girl just because she is chubby. Some people are simply shallow and are not worth your precious time. As far as I'm concerned, sexy can come in all shapes and sizes.

Maybe he felt that way about her at the time (or thought he did anyway), but now he is with you and maybe his feelings for you and the love you share don't hold a candle to what they once supposedly had. Since he was the one who was dumped he's probably still got alot of hurt. Maybe he was so crushed that it was easier for him to say he never loved her that much in the first place and that she was never all those things to him. Kind of like a defense mechanism, a way to deal with his pain. I know you feel as if you've been lied too, and I can understand where you're coming from, but unless he said these things to you with the intention of being hurtful or deceptive I would try to work through it and see it for what it really is. From what you've said here, I really don't think he meant to hurt you. Many hugs to you.

But he is with you now. And I'm sure there are people or experiences from your past that he'd rather not think about. With this said, I know you can't help how you feel and feelings are never stupid, but sometimes it's necessary to change how you look at things for your own sake. Accept the fact that you cannot go back and change the past. Now, if he's bringing up these girls from the past without you asking first, then I would say, "Baby, please. I really don't want to hear about this." And you can say it in a sweet or playful kind of way. If he keeps doing it after that, I would be alot less sweet about it.

Were you under the impression that he had never had a girlfriend before or that he had never loved before? Just trying to clarify what you mean about him lying. I've been in love several times in my life. Just because I was madly in love before doesn't mean that I can't feel that way again with a new boyfriend. Besides, how would you have liked it if he would've gone on and on about how much he loved this girl and how wonderful she was? How he had missed out on "the one"? You probably would have never had a chance together then. Just my opinion, but maybe you should cut him some slack. Afterall, you've been together for 2 years now, so there must be something to this relationship. Peace.

There's been some great advice given here. Sounds to me like there is some nice chemistry between the 2 of you, so I'd just wait and see what happens. Who knows, as you get to know her better you may fall in love and find her very attractive! Whatever the case, I hope you both enjoy a wonderful friendship. Hopefully I'm not being out of line here, but if she's not a very pretty girl, is it that you're worried about what your friends would think if you started dating her?

Not too fond of totally shaved, but a whole lotta hair isn't good either. Neatly groomed is nice.

Since this is all new for ya'll, maybe she is still in the process of learning how to come from oral sex. Hopefully I can explain this right-- if she's used to having an orgasm through masturbation or from you playing with her she kinda has to learn to work it a new way. The sensation of a tongue is much different and can be much more intense than that of fingers. Sometimes the sensation can be almost too much and feel a bit overwhelming. Just keep experimenting and over time things will start to happen right.

My ex was half Spanish & half Mexican and hung like a horse. The downside to this was that it could really be uncomfortable if I wasn't quite *ready*. Aside from that I've only been with white guys and they were all just fine. Come to think of it one of the white guys I dated really wasn't that big at all, but whatever he was doing he was doing right b/c we had absolutely amazing sex. Guys, really-- it's not all about size. It's how worked up you can get your girl that counts.

Well said.

Nah, you just skip out on the hair cuts and put it in a braid when it gets in the way. Easy as pie really. Very nice. I think it would be extremely sensuous to have a man do this. That's awful, Sheyda! Kids can be sooo cruel. Well, no doubt many were simply jealous because I'm sure your hair is just gorgeous.

No disrespect to your fella, but this seems awfully selfish to me. Okay, so his self-esteem is tied into this-- he feels that his penis should be sufficient, BUT what about your feelings?? Does he have any concept of how it makes you feel when he says he doesn't like going down on you? Though I enjoy it, I would have a very hard time giving oral to a man who did not want to return the favor. It's not like he would have to be down there for very long..... if done right, it only takes a coupla minutes if that. It seems like it would turn him on to see you so turned on. I'm sure a lot of couples have this same issue, and I hope everything gets better soon. Many hugs to you.

A question for the guys out there who prefer long-haired ladies: Do you find super long hair to be sexy (as in longer than waist length), or do you think it's a bit too much? Just curious!