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okay, so ive written on here SOOOO many times about my boyfriends relationship w/ his ex. and I dont know what im going to do. I dont know what to do. I'm so confused. I've been dating my boyfriend for a year now, he broke up with his ex girlfriend 3 months before him and i started dating. They dated for 5 years (high school relationship) anyway they remained friends. She also has a new boyfriend. I knew getting into this relationship they were friends, but it still PISSES ME OFF when she calls him. In the beginning he was understanding about how she called him so much that he told her to stop calling him so much, especially if she knows im with him. But now if she calls or anything and I get pissed, he gets so angry with me. He says hes such of me being so insecure. I just DONT GET what they have to talk about. Why does he care what shes doing in her life? He's not with her anymore? Also she would send him pictures of herself in a bra, and just random pictures of herself. this pissed me off, what is she doing doing that? Not only that but I've almost become obsessed with her existence. I'll go out og my way to try and make him talk about her, ill think of specific instances where i knew they were together and almost make him talk about her. I'll look her up on myspace, facebook just to see pictures of her. I DONT KNOW WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME. This isn't me! I am never intimidated of other girls, but she just bugs me so much. I hate to think that he's kissed her, been in love with her. The only upside is that they never had sex, him and i have. But it still bothers me. From what I know/heard about her she doesnt seem like his type AT ALL. but really, why do i care so much? Why is he so adamant about staying friends with her when he knows it breaks my heart? Am i being completely psychotic? someone please tell me how to quit my insecurity and addiction!!!!!! SRY didnt mean for it to be so long

I trust him. I know he is in love with me and would never cheat on me. She also has a boyfriend. I believe in my heart that I am doing the right thing to make our relationship stronger. I have never accepted their friendship, maybe this is the right time to do so?

DO NOT GO WITH SOME OTHER PRETTY GIRL TO MAKE HER JEALOUS. She is already feeling enough pain with the loss of her mother, you don't want to make her feel even worse, do you? Maybe you should suggest she come back for the concert? If she doesn't then maybe you should just not go, or go with some of your friends. As for trying to get her back I'd let her have her time. Keep in contact with her and remind her that you're there for her whenever she needs you. This, in time, she will eventually realize the differences between her feeling the loss of her mother and how she feels for you. If in a few months time nothing has changed, maybe you should start thinking about moving on. It takes time, just be patient. I wish you well!

well, guys I've decided to just let him go by himself. He contacted her and she said she is not teaching many people right now, and the classes she does have are during the times that he works. Instead she is just going to teach him separately once a week for 8 weeks. I've decided to just get over my insecurities and let it go. I'm not going to go with him although he wants me to, so that I can see there is nothing going on. I just decided that it will only humiliate me and I'd be going for the wrong reasons. He's assured me she will just be teaching him with WORDS, she won't be touching him or doing anything inappropriate. Hopefully this will make us stronger. I am doing the wise thing, right??

i bet she looked fat in the pictures. Just kidding. but really I dont think you should break up with him over this. She's clearly a loser and its no doubt he probably does feel sorry for her. They did date for 4 years, thereforeeee you cant expect them to go NON CONTACT right away. My boyfriend remainds friends with his ex girlfriend, and is actually taking pilates lessons from her (dont worry im trying to get over it but really if youre confident in the fact that he loves you, and cares for you then no one else should interfere with that. I wouldn't push talking about it - as it might make him weary about your insecurity, just feel sorry for her. and i agree with some previous posts, she's clearly desperate for him to go back to her, and if he wanted to he would've already. a break up means its broken!

they're group ones with her friends. who also happen to be his friends aswell.

ive already agreed to go to the lessons... would it be bad if i repremanded it all and told him he should just forgive the debt she owes him in the first place?

he has always been into pilates. I think it was her who got them into it in the first place. She attends university and pays for it all. She holds lessons through her house to her friends once a week. we would join that group.

so heres the story: My boyfriend and I have been dating for one year, we're extremely strong and love each other very much. One thing: he's remained friends with his ex girlfriend (who also has a new boyfriend) and well she owes him money for a trip they went on a few years back, and she's been paying him back in little increments. But she still owes him around $200. My boyfriend is a pretty loyal person, and he told her he doesnt want the cash anymore. Instead they both suggested he take pilates lessons from her (she teaches it) for free in order for her to re-pay him. He told me this and I flipped out. He said he contemplated it because he knew it would bother me. I gave him an alternative and suggested I do them with him, and he agreed. I'm still bothered by it, why would he even think to contemplate it? He knows Ive always been insecure about them remaining friends, but I've grown to accept it. He loves me, but it all still bothers me... I cant believe I agreed to do this with him. What should I do? Stick out the few lessons?

one problem ; we leave for dominican republic in a week for vacation

ive been with my boyfriend for 10 months now. we've said our "i love yous" and are pretty serious. One problem is though that I drive myself mad dating him. I am constantly being needy, and I dont know how to change it. Not only is it me, though. I sometimes think it is things I want him to do more. I've talked to him many times, saying i want him to call me more, make plans with me more etc. and he'll keep it up for a week or so and then go back into the old routine which is ME doing all the work. I'm always the one making our plans, I'M always the one calling him after work etc. I've talked to him about it so many times, and I love him so much I dont want to break it off but I feel like its only going down hill from here, and I dont know what to do. He is very stubborn and I dont want to push it off as if im telling him what to do. How do I let him know what I want without sounding demdaning or needy? I dont want to push him away, but I feel like the onyl resort as of now, is to break it off. Help !

noted, but the problem is that i asked him a few weeks ago who he planned on buying xmas presents for this year and there was no mention of her. I know only because I saw her present in his room on xmas day & asked him if he got her something, so he told me. why didnt he tell me in the first place?

my boyfriend of 9 months got his ex girlfriend of 5 yrs a christmas present. she also got him something. they were small; he got her a tea can and she got him a bunch of gingerbread men, but it still bothers me. should this be worrifull? I've always be insecure that they remained friends, but it still somewhat pisses me off. What should i do?

it usually happens when he says he has had a hectic day at work. I find it strange because usually when Ive had a bad/busy day at work, my reward is seeing him...? hmmm

sometimes if i suggest my boyfriend and i hang out, he says he feels like being "alone" sometimes. I try my best not to take it personally, but still, if he ever asks me to hang out, I dont think I would ever suggest wanting to be alone. Should this be a warning sign? He doesnt do it often, perhaps a couple times a month, but still usually when we hang out, its not like im blabbing and bugging him all the time. Its usually chilled out, so why does he want to be alone?