The Law

Love has to go both ways, he doesn't love you back = end of relationship.

lol never heard of it but i hope you enjoy it,

You are a bad liar and she knows what you have been up to. She isn't buying your story, which is only more reason for her to go ask what is going on. She is much more experienced when it comes to relationships, so if you talk you should really do it at a moment that she doesn't notice it. Since you are roommates she wants to know what's going on, which is only natural, howeveryou are right that you don't have to share your private life. Personally if i where you, i would keep on saying its non of your bussiness, stop asking. But of course this will lead to distrust which causes a gap. You have to take it in account that she is your roommate and thereforeeee its important to maintain a good relationship because your constantly have to deal with her. So try to change subjects every time she asks for it.

Take the power of your life back where it belongs into your own hands. Take the initiative, its 2006 girls can speak for themselves on what they want.

*hugs* that's a most terrible experience, basically he gave you the cold shoulder, because he drew a line and wanted nothing to have to do with you anymore. Personally i think that thereforeeee the miscarriage is a blessing if you take in aspect that a horrible future which begins with a shattered relationship and you being a single mom ,isn't the best of future to start out with for neither you or your would be child. I would see it as you getting a second chance to meet someone wonderfull in your life to have a child with who truelly DOES care about you, and takes your feelings in aspect. What you have to do now is to find support with your family and friends as wel as in here. i recommend you take theraphy sessions to talk out your problems too. Im a little upset with how the things went , the rule is future first, children later. Basically you went with him, having a child while you weren't married , i doubt you two had a house together, and the relationship wasn't stable. You should definitly first find the stability in your life before you undertake something as important as being a mother. I think you can be a great mother, you just have to get your act together, and make sure to provide the best possible future for yourself, and placing in securities in your life. Because quite personally i hope something horrible as this never happens to you ever again.

Put your mind on zero and ask her out, its a win win situation for you, heck you always miss if you never shoot right? If she says no you can at least say to yourself 'i tried' and if she says yes you got a date. What has being shy ever done good for you in your life? Nothing, so get rid of it. Whatever you do in life always go for gold.

Its no problem at a later point do your honeymoon over with your husband and make it a succes, (who says you can only have 1 honeymoon) You know the point in your life is that you have to allow yourself to be successfull in things. Make short means with everything that is in your way. And refuse to take part off a stressfull situation. Look like a farmer can only take so much hay on its fork, you can only bear so many things before you fall. So be sure to deal with things in a way that its within your coping range, if you can't hold out, ask someone to help you, i mean there's people who could extend hopefully a hand, although you shouldn't rely on such more then necessary , that your brother got drunk, well that can happen and you didn't do it on purpose, you shouldn't worry to much about it, make a good distinguish in your life towards what things are trivial and what things really matter, set priorities and advance in your life in terms of growth,wealth , and most important loving and helping other people.

Time for you to find your support in here.I personally would write him a letter that he should do all in his power available to escape from his abusive alcoholic mom. However maby its a good thing going to the aunt and he will have a reasonable life there. You know your friend also needs support, i think in modern times it should still be able to contact him, in that sense that you two really have to discuss the current situation with eachother to find some sort of mutual agreement and assurance over eachothers well being. You say you can't drive at the moment, i was afraid i saw a wheelchair in the background of your display pic =\ i hope they are exersise equipment tho. I feel so sorry for you that you lost your best friend like this. However do not dispair , in these kind of situations the circumstances can change quickly, some for the better some for the worst, if things are unstable at his aunt too, then he might just get send back, im not sure. You must understand that there are sometimes that life doesn't go your way, you can only hope for the best while expecting the worst in these kind of circumstances. Finding new friends is hard, but you have to understand that its wrong to live like a hermit. I agree that you have to be like a castle gate, and push out bad people/things/events out of your life, and pull in the good people/things/events. To be honest its pretty much useless to worry about the things that you cannot change in your life, its only worth worrying about those things that are within your reach, and those things that you can change something for the better about. Thats why its best for you to meanwhile that he's gone make the best out of your life,although no one can replace your friend, from the 6 billion people out there, i hope you can still find someone who is more or less still capable of being your friend. Keep your chin up high, because behind the clouds shines the sun, maby if you invest a lot of effort things will go better for you in the future, because eventually life is what you make of it, and no action = no reaction. So its best to get a get up n go attitude , and get the least amount of emotional damage towards this whole situation.

I would step back and watch the cat come out of the tree. You have no idea where this is going, although what you say may indeed happen, you have no garentee. I like you to step out of the relationship, the reason for that is because she chose him over you, means that you are not her nr.1. And that's enough for me to be not commited to her. So im raising a red flag here as her decision making puts him over you.

Ask yourself the question. Is he with me so i can make his life unhappy, or are you with him so he can make your life miserable? Of course not , couples are supposed to make eachother happy. Thats why you have to put love and light into eachothers lives on a continues basis. Even small arguments can lead to BIG break ups, this because they act like droplets of poison, adding darkness and hatred into the relationship.So make sure you never start an argument, and if he starts make sure that you don't give another spin to that wheel of hatred. You see, you cannot fight evil with evil, because only evil will win, you can only fight evil with love, if every argument is countered with another hatefull argument, then the wheel of hatred will just keep on spinning. Be sure to be in a relationship to bring happyness to eachother. Always stay and talk in a calm way, stop putting poison into eachothers lives, and don't make elephants out of mosquito arguments, if its really that pittyfull then you don't have to win the argument to begin with, because there's nothing important at stake, Always ask yourself if the argument is worth while risking the relationship.

Basically you underestimated the situation, and now your entangled. The only thing a fly can do when it flies in a spidersweb that it didn't notice is to try to get losoe from its stickyness with an enormous struggle. And quite frankly i think it will be an enormous struggle to deal with it. As far as i see it you only have to options 'accept' or 'reject' , personally i would 'accept' The reason for this is that wether you like it or not the 'three' of you will always be attached/connected to eachother, and to be honest you've already gone to far, you have a child with her, and that child needs you. She has two kids with him, who have the right to see their father, she has the right to see him,because she has the free will to be with whomever she wants. However this puts you in a all too difficult situation, however bear with it, find acceptance and unconditional love for him and his family, yes i know three is a crowd, but since this was something you could see beforehand, it would be the way of the coward to bail out. Lets face it ,this situation is up to in your neck, if you want to survive this odeal, then you'll have to have a long breath and hold out. However in the worst case scenario that a divorce would take place, you would just have to throw it on a custody case that you have to discuss with a lawyer,(although i don't want such a situation at all). A lawyer however is expensive and should be avoided at all costs, and if custody struggles get ugly it can cost you your emotional and financial health. Most men wouldn't accept it, and i won't blame you if you don't. I personally wouldn't think about what's best from my point of view, but fight for my child.

Life is for us to enjoy in a positive constructive way. Sex is just a tool to show us our love for eachother. Its not a tool of torture or designed to make you unhappy. As said to give and receive love , a life of a human doesn't last long,and the same counts for almost all living creatures in nature, compare a life with the time that the earth is around and you see that are lives are flashes that's why everything is so focused on reproducing, not just humans. Its also how we as species survive, and why males are so obsessed with having sex. Woman seem to find everything interesting exept sex.

LD'S can only work out if you two come together for good. so live with her.

Get a get up n go attitude. When you want to talk to a girl just put your mind on zero and go for it. Its a win win situation for you if you ask her out and she says no you can at least say to yourself i've tried, if she says yes you got a date, and you get dating experience in both cases. You always miss if you never shoot right? What has being shy ever done to you, you need to be more outgoing, with the right people that is then.

If you say something like this it means that you are spiritually attached to your looks, you put all kinds of conditions on yourself and on how you look before you love yourself. You should love yourself unconditionally no matter how you look,so you can say to yourself looks don't matter to me.