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  1. Interesting. I have always thought that a beautiful woman and a sexy woman is not necessarily the same thing (although they of course can be). I do think being sexy has a lot to do with feeling sexy and sensual. I'm digressing here ;-)
  2. I am a male - and 39 nonetheless. Not that perplexing to me. Many women feel a pressure to look good. I think this in part has to do with women (consciously or not) comparing themselves to the beautiful pictures of women seen in magazines, commercials etc.(often highly photoshopped or otherwise manipulated). Ask a woman if she feels she is beautiful, and you will often get a sad response. So having taken pictures of them by a professional photographer, that affirms their beauty and their femininity thus affects their self-esteem.
  3. Hi, Two suggestions: Firstly, try to use timeboxing. Work 45 minutes (or whatever you want, but probably not much more than that), and then relax for 15 minutes. I can keep myself more disciplined, and I can concentrate better when I use this method. Secondly, try to understand your learning style. F.ex. some people need to get the big picture first, while others build up the big picture from the details. There are a lot of learning style tests on the net. This has a huge impact on how your study style should be. One test of leaning style can be found at: link removed It also gives you some suggestions on how to cope with your learning style. Good luck.
  4. Try to check out Toastmasters, and see if they have a local chapter. It is an excellent place to learn how to become a better speaker. You will be among people who will understand you and support you. I used it to help me overcome social phobia, and I have seen people who almost crawl along the wall when they meet the first time, becoming comfortable speakers. Fear of public speaking can be conquered!
  5. Yes, go! You are on the right track. You are a human and you deserve to feel good about yourself. The power of self-acceptance is incredible, and will transform your life. Perhaps a place to start, could be to practice being kind to yourself, when you blame yourself for not having enough self-worth. At least, its a way to stop feeding the vicious circle. Good luck! (and let us know if you could use more specific suggestions)
  6. I think it has more to do with a persons behaviour to do, than if a person has friends of the opposite sex while being in a commited relationships. If the person knows his limits, don´t spend excessive amount of time with members of the opposite sex, as well as not being unappropriately intimate with them (physically or emotionally), I honestly don´t see a problem. But it all comes down to the integrity of the person. In your case, I would probably say that he was at least being inconsiderate in the way that he dealt with his exes. I would probably have been a bit suspicious too.
  7. I think that that neither of these attempts are from within, but are rather are attempts at becoming happy by changing something on the outside. My experience with true happiness has to do with self-acceptance, which is about accepting yourself with all your flaws (which we all have). Happiness cannot be found outside yourself.
  8. As for your general observation that many grown-ups has not really grown up, I can only agree. Maturity is not something that comes automatically, and some people keep acting like small whiney children all their life. But that young people should be particular mature compared to older? I think not. Some are and some are not. On average young people act like what they are, ie. as young and not particular mature people.
  9. I agree that being friendly but non-assertive will probably lead you to friendship. But what is wrong about being non-invasive and non-intimidating?
  10. I think it is pretty telling, that there is no content in the section "The Mature Man" on that page. Not that such thing as being friend-zoned doesnt exist (it surely does), but I simply found the tone on the site disgusting.
  11. I have heard that light therapy should be quite effective (although I have no particular knowledge of the subject) Perhaps you could look into it. I probably didn´t anwer your question though....
  12. Hard to tell, without knowing why she left you. But I think there can be two reasons for her behaviour. Either she is bearing some grudge against you (could be part of the reason she left you), or she is trying to protect herself from getting hurt/feeling guilt.
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