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hello, I'm in the age bracket that your guy is and it seems to me if you tell him, just be honest and tell him your not comfortable enough yet and you want to get to know him a little first before anything phisical happens If he can't handle that than he isn't worth your time and that probably being all he wants. Maybe that is what he wants is just casual sex But it's definitly a way to see if he genuinly likes YOU and not just what you can give him. And if he persists with making you feel it's going to fast or makes you feel uncomfortable move on cause it's not worth it to please someone else when that's all they want from you. But don't be afraid to tell him how you feel and always trust the feelings you have towards someone especially holding back when it comes to sex. You have to comfortable and ready on your own or you won't be happy well good luck and I hope this helps you.

sometimes you never know what's on peoples hands so id say go get checked out by a gyno. if it persists further

It seems to me all theese other people are trying to get in the way of your happiness and it seems as if he's confused and talking to other people and he's not really telling you how he feels, he's probably telling someone else and their probably giving him the bad advice of telling you what he told you and hurting you. And the fact that you guys dont talk about all this JEALOUSY between you guys as well as your friends being jealous of your relationship. my advice would be to ask really what's going on maybe someone told him lies about you or is steering him to leave you, but you should really find out why the cold shoudler all of a sudden since it's not really his character to act that way anyways from what you said You should definitly find out why the two faces one where he loves and the other he dosent, because it seems to me there's definitly outside influence here. It can be hard to be in a relationship with such a tight group of friends around getting in the way sometimes but you have to weed out the friends that are hurtfull and don't want you to be happy because of their own selfish reasons and so should he. But you never really know unless you ask but it sounds to me that that's what's going on. I hope it works out because you shouldn't let the unhappy people in your life try and make you unhappy also, good luck

well it seems to me your talking about the way people sadly communicate ,the way they feel sometimes comes out in other ways like calling pleading another chance to just wanting to be friends some just communicate their feelings in other ways. Sadly enough even the selfish and cruel have their own way of telling you how they feel, it's just usually not the way you want them to. Well anyways that's just my take on it. But as far as knowing how people are the way they are you just have to take a chance on someone and find who they really are, not who they show on the outside, but it sometimes takes years to really find out how someone is, so my advice to you would be to find someone who seems to be very open about who they are and hope for the best. well I hope this helps you, good luck trying to figure out why some people are just the way they are.

Hello, Well it seems to me that she has communication problems and dosent seem to tell you how she feels until it's to late. I myself know alot of women like this, they seem to hold back how they are feeling by making little remarks or signs but they won't tell you how they feel until you come to them. Then when the man dosen't see the signs and dosen't realize that the woman is hurting it makes them feel not loved or apreciated and there by not wanting what they have. I don't really know your exact situation but this is how it sounds from here. It seems to me she lied to you about the fact that she wouldn't dangle you along because it seems that's what she's doing especially because the fact that she seemed mad when you gave up fixing things with her and going back home. But at the same time she's probably not able to face her problems with you and maybe she needs another way of communicating with you Because it seems she's waiting for somethiing from you and it's not coming. My sugestion is to pour your heart out to her at least one last time, tell her how you really feel and ask her how she really feels because it seems her actions are telling you that she does still care. I hope you get some resolution or ending from her and I wish you the best luck.

Hello, Well it seems I feel what your going through because in fact i'm in a similar situation, not exactly the same but similar. So my advice to you would be to put your feelings out there where she can acknowledge them for the time being. As for your emotional state it seems that being in a relationship dosen't seem to help you cope with your state of mind, but maybe if you talk it through with her and she's willing to help you overcome your fears and anxiety by realizing how the way she acts towards you affects you more so than others. Maybe she's scared because she dosent really know what's going on or how you feel exactly, If you want to work it out that is. And if it dosent end up working out maybe you should take time to live life to it's fullest and not analize life to the point that it makes you sad just try to be happy and dont let the bad stuff that people say get to you because you determine who you are not them. Well I hope my words help and if not I'm sure you'll figure out what's in your heart and what you really need in life. good luck I do hope it works out

Hello, Well I've been having problems with my boyfriend that I've been with off and on for three years. He's done alot of really bad things to me over the years especially last year not that I havent done things myself but the things he's done seem to top everything else in comparison, well anyways let's just say most people probably wouldn't stay like I did. And we've tried breaking up but for some reason neither of us can stay away. We seem to be so toxic for one another but at the same time when we actually try at our relationship it seems to work and were happy for a little while. But I think I've finally gotten to why we don't communicate on the level that most people do and I beleave that my boyfriend can't tell how he's feeling about anything. The reason I think I know this is because the way he is with his family, he always tells me how his parents treat him "soposidly" his mother puts him down all the time about the way he runs his life and I tell him to just tell her know how he feels and maybe he acts that way because she expects it from him. But he never says anything to her and he always puts himself down especially when were fighting. He says I think he's no good for anyone and then I ask Why he thinks that and he says everyone feels that way about him. And actually anytime I ask him how he feels about anything he answers me with another question. For some reason I never realized that he did this till now, and I guess it feels like weve never really talked about how he feels toward me or our realtionship, unless it meant he was going to lose me and even then he says only what he has to, He never wants to actully talk to me about problems unless I bring them up so I can be blamed for us fighting. I really do love him and I wish I could choose who I love, but that ain't ever gonna happen. It seems since weve faced theese problems that were at a stand still and very unhappy and seem to be arguing about everything, I honestly don't know what to do to get him to face our problems and get past well our past. Please if anyone out there knows what I mean and can help it would be greatly appeciated. Thanks for reading and I hope you respond. Giggirl

Hey, I thinkS.A.M is totally right, take away the visade all of us seem to have and show your true self. But also other chezzy things you can do is saranade her or take her to a bed and breakfast or a day spa in the mountains, or you could buy a BAG of rose pedals make a trail to a candle light dinner or a present or something like that, the reason I say a bag of flowers is because it get's costly for roses your just going to make a mess with, well there's a few idea's for you. I hope this helps you, good luck.

I just wanted to thank thoose of you that responded. You guys are right, I'm not ready yet to get out there, being lonley shouldn't be my excuse. Well thanks again

It seems to me she definitly likes you, and just smile is right about how you should approch her if that's what you want, But you should go for it, I'm almost positive she likes you from what you said. good luck and have fun.

Tell him how you feel show him this post, it seems to me the reason you feel confused is because you haven't shared with him how you've felt about everything that's happened and that probably has something to do with the fact that your not giving your entire self back in to the relationship, sometimes that can be a good thing. But why do you feel like you should hold back what you give in? You should want to be able to give your entire self to someone and trust them fully, that's why I suggested you tell him how you feel, now if your being cautious I can understand why but you shouldn't fall into that way of being, because you should be able feel that you can give your entire self into your relationship without it feeling one sided. I hope that what I've said helps you should be able to be comfortable in your relationship, well I hope everything works out for you, good luck

Hello, Well how should I start, ok I guess my b/f and I broke up a few months ago I felt we were happy and content but frankly I just want to get out there and find someone, someone to fall in love with, but for some reason my friends think I'm nutty for wanting to have someone. I just don't understand why I'm being discouraged by my friends, saying you need time to yourself, you need to know you first, I was hurt very badly, but why should that be an excuse as to why I shouldn't be happy I guess I just want move on from the past and being lonley dosen't help me, But I just don't understand why people are so afraid of falling for someone, beleave me I've been hurt loads of times and I'm still out there looking for the person I'm meant to be with. I'm trying my best not to dwell on what's happened in the past but to focus on what I want, but why does everyone think that's wrong? What's wrong with the notion of wanting to be loved? Well I just wanted someone else's opinion besides the people in my cirlce of friends, what do you think?

First off dont apologize for saying how you feel, that's what this site is for, is to get it all out. Well It seems to me you feel out of place and mind, Maybe you shouldn't emphasize so much on what other people think, instead try and focus on how you can feel better towards yourself, and if people talk badly about you that you know maybe you shouldn't associate with that crowd. If you feel self conscience about socializing maybe you should read up on books associated with social anxiety. I hope your able to get past this rut you seem to be in, well good luck and I hope everything works out.

no, you dont have anything to lose, go for it, because if you dont, you know you will regret it in the long run. I know it's hard to put your heart and feelings out there for someone maybe step on, But why even feel that way if your not going to act on it, love and emotion is a hard thing to deal with when you dont know the outcome of what's going to happen, but at least you can say you tried to make it work right. Well I hope this helps you, and I hope everything works out, good luck.

It seems to me that you should just move on, she probably wont leave this guy for you since she kind of left you for him, I know it's hard but you should just move on she seems to not deserve someone so loyal and loving, and Im sure theres someone out there for you who's going to appreciate you for who you are, now you can always try and get her back but you have to ask yourself is she really worth all the pain she's put you through. Well I hope this helps you get past things, and I hope you do the right thing for yourself whatever that may be, well good luck.