Tj williams

hey guys i have posted a couple of posts before and you guys help me and i thank you. i got another situation. though well kinda well here goes. ok me and my ex broke up a month ago. oh course i tried to get back with her in the beginning then i quit talkin to her, then we started talkin again and then stop and then we did it one more time and now im at where im at now. we stopped. i live in virginia beach in my old house my parent use to own and there about to sell it so i lived there for a year. me and my ex agreed that we need to get ourselves together. i was going to go to texas to do so. and she thought it was a good idea becuase since my parents live there they could support me and all yea. i choose to stay here and take care of myself. we got into an aguement for me not going and i asked her why she cant be satified with the decsion i made. and she just refuses to do so. then she stopped talking to me. honestly i think thats messed up. i told her how i feel about her and stuff and she knows how a feel about her. and i know how she feels about me. but i don't think its right for her to do that. when i went to her house today i asked her why she stopped talkin to me and she said becuase she doesnt want to see me struggle. i didnt know what to say after that. but i did tell her well i don't see why you just cant be my friend and suppost me on my own decsion. and i told her that was going to just go to texas. i thought that would make her happy. tonight when everything was going down about me moving i made a last minute call decision and decided that i didnt want to go. i could'nt do it. i just didnt want to go. i think i could handle myself down here. so thats what im going to do. and with her im just going to do nc so i can get my life together and not worry about her for now. does anyone have any opinion on my story and what you think about how she doesnt or no why she doesnt accept my decision? i love her to death i do but i mean if im not going to be happy about doin all that then im going to do what makes me feel happy.

hey i have a weird situation and i don't know what i should do. ok my ex and i started talkin again on thanksgiving and for five days straight. we have kissed and cuddled up every night. she told me that she was being dumb for breaking up with me. it was stupid of her. i asked her how she felt about me and she told me that she really likes me. she was suppose to go on a date with some guy that asked her to go bowling with her. and she said yea. but she ended up staying with me on her free will and i asked her why she didnt go and she said becuase i wanted to stay with the person i like. sooner or later she started calling me baby boo and stuff like she use too. and i think it was a good sign. so one night she was suppose to come over but she didnt and she said she will tomorrow. and then she mentioned that i need to talk to you . so i hope its a good thing. the next day came and she told me sorry again i cant make it ill come over tomorrow and i was like i guess whatever you had to talk to me about wasnt important but its fine. and i told her that you have a goodnight with a smile at the end. so i keep feeling weird about this but thats me being stupid. i think i should wait becuase it seems like waiting works. if yuo guys could help me with your opinion i would greatly appreciate it thanks

hey how are you doing? i hope better then me haha but anyways. im sure you want it to work and you want to continue to try but from what it looks like maybe doing nc is the best choice. you know the only way to heal a broken heart is to give it time. he said that he is kinda happy that you guys are doing this. thats a sign of just letting him go.

hey how are you doing? yea i think there is always a chance what you should do is when you get a chance ask her if you could talk to her alone. just let her know your serious . i mean if she still acts the same way then you should move on cuase i think it was brave enough for you to at least admit how you feel and what you did. she would be a jerk for not understanding. but thats how life is. its about taking chances. good luck

wow i just read that whole thing and im sorry to hear what just happened. in my opinion you should get out before its to late. yea you want your son to at least grow up with a dad that cares for him, not saying that your ex doesnt. you need to forget about him. yea its going to be hard cause you have a kid but relize this. all you have now is your son and let him be your motivation to move on and find someone who would treat you and your son right. someone who will take responsibilty and be a good role model. give your son something you never had. take that as an opinion. good luck!

yea i experienced this a couple of times and hell does it pisses people off. did you ever ask him why he gets so defensive when you ask things? i mean if he gets defensive if you ask that the tell him you need some time to yourself and find someone who would listen to you more like a friend. and talk to them about it. maybe giving you guys time to yourselves will make him feel like the need to treat the relationship like a relationship. i mean for one to work it takes two.

In a guys persepective, which is me, i see why some guys do what "relationship coach" said they would do. they are insecure. me personally i couldn't act like someone else to attract something i desire. i coulnd't live with myself. i mean i would want a girl who would love me for who i am and nothing more. i would'nt feel the true love without being myself. but back to the topic relationship coach got the main idea on your example.

hey things happen for a reason. all that just happened with you sounds wrong i bet but you know its what you wanted to do if you couldnt be his friend anymore becuase it hurts or anything then let him know just next time stop yourself before it becomes worse and it will hurt more. learn from your mistake thats all i can say good luck and hope you joy comes into your life

hey meeting someone business wise is not bad but what you said about who you have tickle wars and etc etc i would rather find a girl like that instead of a business person so that i can do business outside and yet go home to a beautiful woman that i love being around with and wouldnt have to change anything about me to be with that person. thats just my philosophy haha

ok i can tell you that i forgave someone for the same thing. even if you friend loves you to death and you love her or what not, isn't she suppose to support you? thats what best friends are for. she needs to realize that not every guy would feel the same if someone forgave them. it just makes you a stronger person. im sure he feels guilt no matter what. but you did do that right thing. about mine my ex girlfriend cheated on me. i mean i never would of open myself up i would of never let something like this happen but i saw something in her which made me feel me, but she was drunk one night and cheated on me but i told her face to face that, i forgive you, * * * * happens yea no one perfect an honest mistake. it helped me move on. but im glad your doing well now. _______________ Im not god or anything, but i forgive you no matter what you did.

well its your first of course everyone haf felt something like this be glad that it wasnt just him who helped you stop doing the bad things it was your par taking too. i mean if yall love each other then you guys can get through anything together. but what ever your mother said why should it matter? i mean it does i mean thats family but see if you can talk to your mum. _____________ Just tryin to help with thought

yea its possible i mean unless she did something which doesnt deserve to be friends but me i don't know im not god or anything but i can forgive. but until your heart is sewed back up from your ex then it will be hard but if it is no problem

yea i guess i see what you mean. thanks for the advice hope

so i won't feel depressed i think about her 24/7 but i stop showing it cuase ijust relize that i showed it but it just makes it worse. so i just hold it in. i tried to get with her but she just wants to be obligated to herself and theres nothing i could do so i can wait but she doesnt want me to. becuase she said feelings change but i know mine won't but hers? don't know

ok i know i want to get over this girl i was dating for five months but there is just something in me that won't let go. she left me cuase she wanted to be obligated to herself. she likes me and all but she just had a bad relationship in the past and she decided to be obligated to herself while we dated for five months. i mean i understand her i do. but i still have feelings for her. i havent talk to her for four days now but yesterday she send me a text saying " well i see that your ignoring me thats fine, but i want you to know (not that you care) i will always care about you wheather you like it or not.... you can stop talking to me or anwsering my text but don't let anything in your life go down hill.. your on the right track... well i guess this is good bye have a greatnight... and a wonderful life.... im always here for you to talk to so your always welcome to call... ps you are stillan amazing guy in my eyes" i want to be with her i do but i don't know what to do so what should i do can i have some advice please?> thanks