Sky_Ronin

Life is full of mysteries.

Thanks Locke2121 and laboheme once again for your advice.

I'm dwelling on the past again. Perhaps I should let go of the past and follow the winds of the future. However this is very difficult for me to do.

Thanks guys for your advice. It's been a while now and yet I find myself still thinking of her from time to time. In fact I'm thinking of her right now. All I can see in my head is her smiling ever so brightly and beautifully. If only I can see her again..........

Thanks everyone for your help. I wont forget your wise words. More and more I keep hearing about how it's not good to put a girl on the pedestal. If I treat her like any other girl then I should be fine huh, hehe. All I can do now is remain optimistic and hope for the best outcome.

I can't stop feeling nervous because today is the day I have to ask this one cute girl out. If I see her at lunch then I'll ask then. If not then I'll wait for her after school. Usually she walks with her friends, so it'll be a bit difficult to get her away from them. The pressure and nervousness is building up and its running through my body. This sort of feels like first day of school, hehe. The thing is there's a 50/50 chance that I might have to leave town temporarily for a few weeks. So, I'm thinking if I don't ask her now then when I come back she might not be availabe anymore. I just want to find a good girl to settle down with and start a family with. My question is how do I calm down enough so I can be relaxed and confident when she's in front of me? Any help would be appreciated.

I never said that he was her boyfriend. Plus, judging from the gap between them when they walked I'd say that they're just aquaintances. I hope she's single because I don't go after girls who are involved. Seems immoral and inconsiderate to do so.

Earlier today I saw my crush again. I was walking towards the stop sign and she appeared out of nowhere from the corner of the street. She was all alone headed for school. After I noticed her, she crossed the street and got on the opposite side of my street. Of course I had the urge to approach her and strike up a conversation, but I got nervous and pretended I didn't notice her. Finally I made the decision to talk to her, but it was too late. When I saw her again in school she was walking with some guy. One word to describe me for today would be foolish. Has anyone been in similar situations and how were you able to solve the problem?

True, shyness is more of a flaw. I can't wait for the day to come when this burden of a shyness of mine is lifted off of my shoulders. Then and only then can I breathe and feel alive. When your shy you feel confined like a bird in a cage. Of course it can be eradicated, but it takes great effort and patience. It is a process that wont happen over night. Occasionally, I too would drink alcohol with my friends and play video games (PS2). It's fun and all, but it would be great to have female companionship. Not just a female friend, but a girlfriend, a lover, your other half. I want to wish all the shy people luck in finding their partner in life.

Thanks everyone for your help. I appreciate it. DiggityDog you're correct about the point that it's unwise to put women on the pedestal. Before reading your post I've never thought about myself putting any girl on a pedestal. I guess I did it without ever realizing it. It's true that they're human beings just like us men, but when you see your girl of interest a spark lights up in your heart. You zone out from your environment and zoom in on her. That's just the attraction process that we all experience at some point in our lives. A helpful source that I found in the past was David Deangelo's approach to dating. In it he placed emphasis on using the technique of, "cocky+funny." When I'm chatting with girls online, I have no problem being cocky and funny. The problem is when it is in person. It's a completely different situation. Chatting is kind of like a simulation and talking face to face is the real deal. One of my friends told me that I should be the person I am online and channel that into real live situations and I'll succeed. That's a great idea really. I've thought about it, but I have a hard time intiating conversations with girls in person. The dating process is so complex and girls are just baffling. However, it's exciting to be challenged.

Welcome to the club shopvv hehe. Yes, you are not alone, I'm not alone because they're billions of people inhabiting this planet right now. So, why not go out there and let yourself be known! Let's all make an effort to enjoy life more and take each day as it comes. Caterina you should never give up and give in. Keep your head up and hang in there. Who knows, your knight might come and sweep you off your feet when you least expect it.

Thanks Meow18 and chickidee23 for your advices. After reading your posts I have more confidence and motivation to pursue her. Yeah, I am tired of wondering of what could of, might of, etc. An equation with so many "ifs" isn't good at all. It's time I take matters into my own hands and control my destiny. Take my life back from the claws of fear. Just thinking about approaching her is making me nervous, hehe. Okay, 1...2...3...here I go!!!

Today I saw the cute girl that I kind of have a crush on. She passed by me twice with her friend, but didn't say anything to me not even a, "hello." In the past she usually greets me first. It made me a bit sad and disappointed to not receive attention from her. Maybe she's tired of waiting for me to pursue her. She might think I'm simply not interested instead of acknowledging that I'm shy. Yesterday she came into my class and asked for a volunteer so she can practice giving shots. She's a medical assistant student you see. Was it foolish of me not to volunteer? In a way I do regret the fact that I passed up that opportunity. It was her first time in my class yesterday too. So I'm thinking that her purpose yesterday was to test me to see if I have any interest in her. Since I wasn't her patient perhaps that's why she's ignoring me. Girls are so confusing and unpredictable. I'm definitely lost now. Today's plan was to ask her out or at least engage in a conversation with her. Considering her mood today I might have to wait patiently for another day. What should I do now? Is it a good idea to talk to her and maybe ask for her phone number? I'd love to talk with her over the weekend. The thing is next week is my last week of school and if I don't act soon then I might not see her again and lose her forever. Unfortunately, I find myself in another predicament. Any help would be appreciated.

Hi. I detect the problem lies in the way that you perceive yourself and that thereforeeee dictates your feelings. First you must eliminate your pessimistic mentality because it is like a disease thats sucking the life out of you. I've seen your picture and you're a cute young lady. You've been through some tough times and yet you're still here. That tells me that you're a strong girl. Don't be so hard on yourself. Enjoy life and live it to the fullest. My philosophy is to work hard and play hard. You obviously have been working hard so its only fair that you reward yourself. As for dating, you need to put yourself out there. Send out signals that your worth the love of another. That you're worth the time and effort for the guy to invest in. If it doesn't work out with one guy then move on to the next until you find mr. right. There's no point in dwelling in the past. One has to love oneself before loving another. That way you'd be a much more happier and radiant person. Its wise to always be optimistic regardless of what you're going through. Optimism has definitely helped me many times and it hasn't disappointed me yet. I wish the best of luck to you and your endeavors.

Earlier today at lunch as I walked around I saw the girl that I like. It caught me by surprise because she came out of nowhere. So I was unprepared. It surprised me so much that I froze so bad that I forgot how to speak, hehe. I mean I'm definitely disappointed and frustrated with myself for not uttering a single word. She is the cutest thing I have laid my eyes on. The good thing was we did lock eyes. After she got into a car she waited for me to pass by it before taking off. So, at least I got a smile from that experience. My question is what methods should I utilize in order to defeat my shyness? I've tried talking more often to different people, but the shyness still exists unfortunately. Any help would be appreciated.