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  1. I think that I was emotionally abused by my ex. My mother and brother think that I was and that I wouldn't accept. I've had older brother, people have always told me I'm head strong, and I always yelled at my bf when he was a jerk, but people seem to think I was emotionally abused. How do I know if I was?
  2. I don't even know if it's really that I want him back or more of I want him to want me back. I mean they've benn friends but does it sound like just a rebound for both of them, and will NC be the best way for him to want me back, or should I continue with the "friends" way, and keep in contact with him?
  3. My boyfriend and I of 3 years broke up two months ago cuz we were fighting a lot, and cuz a girl (that he was friends with) called him up that just broke up with her boyfriend and wanted to date him. So they've been dating since the day we broke up. I've been keeping in touch with him talking maybe once a week or once every two weeks, and he cheated on her with me in the first month. Will NC work in this situation to get him back, or should I remain "friends" with him. I know the cheating was wrong, and after it happened he said that he couldn't see me for a few weeks cuz the temptation is too great when I'm around. Do you think by using NC I have a shot?
  4. My boyfriend and I of 3 years broke up two months ago cuz we were fighting a lot, and cuz a girl (that he was friends with) called him up that just broke up with her boyfriend and wanted to date him. So they've been dating since the day we broke up. I've been keeping in touch with him talking maybe once a week or once every two weeks, and he cheated on her with me in the first month. Will NC work in this situation to get him back, or should I remain "friends" with him. I know the cheating was wrong, and after it happened he said that he couldn't see me for a few weeks cuz the temptation is too great when I'm around. Do you think by using NC I have a shot?
  5. I just needed to vent and if you wanna read then I appreciate it. So it's been over a month since my bf of 3 years left me for a girl that dumped her boyfriend of 1.5 years for him. During the first month of this new relationship I tried to stay friends with him cuz I wanted him in my life, but everytime we saw each other we just ended up having sex (even tho there is this new girl). I wanna believe that they are both on the rebound and this relationship won't work (not because I want him back, but just cuz I feel so hurt). The days have been getting better, but today I just feel horrible, I miss him so much and I have that feeling that I'm never gonna feel that way again about someone, and I feel so betrayed that he dates the first friend that dumped her boyfriend and is lonely. I don't know if I'm asking a question or just venting. Everyone told me I was too good for him and that I gave too much and I was gonna get burnt out from all the giving and getting nothing in return, but hearing those things don't really help, cuz I just feel so lonely and angry. I don't know if I should continue to try and be friends with him. He said that he isn;t sure it's gonna work cuz he always tries something when I'm around. I know this stupid, but has anyone been in a situation like mine? And has anyone had the ex come back after having another relationship to say that they want you back? (and not cuz you necessarily wanted them back) ANd what is the deal with this moving from one relationship to the next so quickly?!?!? Do these rebounds actually last?!? Thanks for listening
  6. This was the post, and I found the answers interesting and was wondering if people do have trouble even if they were the one who left for someone else. Or if anyone had someone leave their ex for them, but there were still problems because of that. thanks
  7. I really admire the way you feel now. I've had one boyfriend for many years and no others besides him. It's been a little over a month since we broke up and I really wish I felt the way you do, and I hope one say I will
  8. I'm just curious to hear from people who have left their girlfriend/boyfriend for someone else. I want to know if they worked out, or what the problems were in doing something like that. I was looking at another similar thread and it seemed that there were problems when either YOU were the one that left, or someone left their other for YOU.
  9. I know how you feel. My exboyfriend started a relationship immediately after we brokeup. We were together for three years. For the first month we broke up I wanted so bad to be his friend basically so that he would always remember me and never forget, but from what people are saying in this forum and from what my friends have told me they will never forget you. If you guys were together for five years that's pretty much like saying she'll forget her high school, or college years (if that makes sense). I'm gonna try NC for a while as best I can. My goal is to go a month with calling him. I find it easier to set small goals at first and then to build on them. She won't forget you, and as long as you stay around her she'll also never truly miss you. I think you should take some time to just feel ok. not necessarily great or fantastic, but once you get to the point of just being ok, then you tend to say "ok, I think I can continue NC and I'll get through this, and if feel that in a month I'm ok with talking to them then I will, but I will reevaluate how I feel at that point, not now."
  10. I know I shouldn't be put on the back burner, but there is this horrible part of me that wants him to want me back so that I can say "you had your chance and you blew it." I know that's bad and that I shouldn't need him to validate me, but unfortunately I've been focusing on this so much, I guess cuz I want him to realize what a jerk he was for treating me the way he did and for letting me go. But then again as I write this I realize that I let him treat me this way for so long, and in some ways it was my own fault. One more question though. Do the dumpers ever rebound? both of them (my ex and his new girlfriend) were the dumpers, but they still be rebounding? Thanks so much to those who have responded and listened, it's really helped!
  11. I posted before. My boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago, but he went directly to another girl who who broke up with her boyfriend of 1.5 years. My ex boyfriend and I were together for three years. I just can't believe he's with another girl so fast, and it seems like they got pretty intense quickly. He said he wanted to be friends, but when we hang out just as friends we end up messing around. I know I should do NC, and I'm the stupid idiot calling him to talk and stuff, but I miss him so much and I don't want to loose him altogether. Here are my questions 1.The endless question of do rebounds last? Or do people have a wake up call after the honeymoon period of a rebound? 2. Has anyone ever had the satisfaction of the ex coming back after being with a rebound and saying they want you back? 3. Does he want to be friends with me for real or is it out of pity or cuz he wants to keep me on the backburner? I'd really appreciate responses from people thanks
  12. Yeah, I understand that is what I need to do in order to be ok, and to move on and be happy, bu I guess I have this fear of losing him from life altogether and never seeing him again. I guess that's how everyone feels after being with someone for such a long time though.
  13. You are right, what I see in im is what he could be and what he once was, and not what he is. do you think that people can still miss their ex even though they've met someone else?
  14. I'm not worried about the sex thing. I'm just wondering why someone would find another person right after a long term relationship, say that it has to be over, but still wanna be friends, and then everytime we are around he each other he still wants to have sex
  15. I just need peoples input on a certain situation. I just broke up with my boyfriend of a few years, we're both in our early twenties and we cared about each other and loved each other, but it wasn't working out. After he broke up with me he started dating another girl. I've seen him a few times since we broke up and everytime we've seen each other we end up getting really comfortable and having sex. Afterwards we both feel bad because we realized what we did and that it was wrong. He says he wants to stay friends with me, but everyone is telling me that he's only doing this to keep me on the back burner. I do hope we can be friends eventually, but I'm afraid that I'll wanna have sex with him whenever I see him. I know this is aa fairly common thing that happens when people in a long relationship breakup but any advice?
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