Reluctant Rebuilder
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I agree with you. Guys like that wouldn't understand why you are (very rightly) disgusted with them, so there is no need to explain yourself to him. I wouldn't be so keen on keeping it from your family and fiends though, I would think that public humiliation would have a dramatic effects on weirdos like that. Plus the more people who know this guy is a pig the better.
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Hey I wouldn't want to go against anyone's pie chart or scientific Internet web site quote, but I stand behind the spirit of my previous post. If you find yourself friend zoned and can't handle it, grow up a bit. Not all attractive guys who get dates are jerks, and the fault (if there is any) is not with the woman's choice.
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Feeling like a "loser" compared to boyfriend
Reluctant Rebuilder replied to SnoGirl42's topic in Relationship Advice
You are going to break up with someone only because he has attained things that you haven't yet? Are you in some kind of life competition with him? Sorry I don't mean to come accross as flippant but if someone I was dating told me that she wanted to split because I was too successful I'd find that incredibly insulting. -
I'm really getting bored with this stupid "nice guys have it so tough" BS. Just because a woman likes you or sees something redeeming in you does not mean she has to develop romantic feelings for you. If you find yourself in the friend zone and you aren't mature enough to handle it, get out. A woman isn't a prize to be won, a challenge to meet, or a quest to take on. She's a real life human being with her own tastes and opinions, some of which may place you as someone she wants in her life as a friend *only*. If you want to throw something valuable like that away because your little ego is hurt and you are sore because she sees something in a guy you can't, please shut up about it. It's nothing but sour grapes. And why is it that some of these self proclaimed nice guys bleed and whine for unattainable girls, yet won't bother to chase after girls in their own league? Drop the arrogant attitude like you know what's best for the object of your affection better than she does, it stinks.
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how do you make it work?
Reluctant Rebuilder replied to barbielovesmac's topic in Long-Distance Relationships
When I was in a LDR, what got me out of feeling sad was having very regular contact with my girl. It made it easier somehow to know that she was feeling the same way. And something to look forward to, like a vacation together or a visit. I understand how you feel, the distance can be really frustrating. -
Maybe he likes the feeling of being in a couple-like situation with you but the freedom to come and go as he wants. Seriously if he has no one else in his life, why not lavish attention and love on someone that you really care about but don't see a future with. It's all very logical to me.
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I wouldn't worry too much about it. Dreams are meaningless. Your brain is asking for info from your sensory organs, and since they are resting you get noise and nonsense sent back. Brain tries to fit that nonsense into something coherent and you "see" that in your mind, sometimes tied in with themes or events that you might be mulling over. There's nothing intrinsic or mystical or even meaningful about it.
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I can't believe no one suggested something by Sade yet
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That's not only weird it's actually pretty creepy.
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In Canada we have that too, but I'm sure the meaning here is different. Here, boggan is short form for toboggan, a sled without skis. Loads of fun and the leading cause or sore behinds from bumps along the hills you ride them down.
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vaginal discharge is it serious?
Reluctant Rebuilder replied to aliz's topic in Health: Body, Mind and Spirit
yeast infection? -
For me this wouldn't work: if I was still interested it would be slow torture to have her dangling in front of me just out of my reach. Depends on how serious your crush is, if it's still running strong you are putting yourself in the path of a whole lot of hurting. I don't think NC is about being mature in that sense, it's about protecting yourself and your emotional state.
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The vegemite eating kangaroo riding combie driving beer chundering cultured? Must be a Southern hemisphere thing.....
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Seeing ex for first time in 3 months - help!!!
Reluctant Rebuilder replied to Cindersam's topic in Getting Back Together
All you can do is be up front, honest and no games. No amount of willing or wanting is going to change someone's mind. Best you can hope for is that they want the same thing and go from there.