Helen67

Oh Itsthatguy, that made me laugh I know a couple of days in the past like that, it's crazy. Starting innocently with one, and then about 1/2 hour later going for a next then a next etc....I'm impressed with 10 or 11, I think I did about 7 or 8. I just couldn't get enough of the big 'O'. What I've heard, don't know if it's true or not is that women burn calories with an 'O', so that's my excuse and I'm sticking to it. Actually OP I masturbate far more than my SO does, and it does no harm, in fact it enhances my intimacy with him, as I'm constantly learning about my own body through it.

Slightly changing the subject... This morning, gave SO fabulous BJ that left him lying there all dreamy and grinning like a cheshire cat, got up made breakfast for us, and made his pack lunch for him to take to work. I did all my good deeds for the day in the space of 30 minutes. Moral of the story is...Men are soooo easy to please! lol

Carl and Imperceptible ..My OH also has a small penis, plus after me giving birth to two kiddies, there's not much feeling left..ha ha. But my love for him, and his for mine makes our sexual exploitations all the more interseting. He normally finishes in the position described, me on my stomach with my legs together, although he has come with me on top, which amazed me as I know I feel like a plane hangar to him! I'm always "doing the kegel" especially just as he puts it in, so it may feel tighter, but sometimes I do it just after it's in, and it pushes it right back out again..! Carl don't give up hope, when you meet that special person, she really won't care about the size, but do practise with your tongue! And...when you make her orgasm orally, quickly slide in your penis while her muscles are still contracting and doing summersaults, she will feel you then, and you'll certainly feel her and you can get off on the rest of her orgasm. Oh and by the way...I love giving him blow jobs, I could stay down there for hours, cos my jaw never aches, and finally I've given deep throat which was something I have never ever been able to do. I love his penis, it's my little friend....Don't despair!

The longer this goes on, the more pent up and frustrated you'll become. Which as someone stated before, does really make a person give off a feeling of desperation. Maybe you could learn to relax more. It may help if you worked on a good sense of humour, and a healthy confidence. I'm not assuming you don't have a sense of humour, but you may have lost the art as your mind is always questioning itself..."how do I look?", "Is she really interested?", "Am I saying the right things?". With so much bouncing around in your head, you probably forget how to be natural, you may not be showing the real you. You stated that you know how to communicate, but do you think you maybe are only chatting about what you want to hear, and not what they would like to hear? Anyway, humour is a great turn on, most women don't want to be around a grumpy bugger, I know personally when my man, who is a chatter box and a very very positive person, starts joking around, he makes me feel fantastic, happy AND horny! Just give it some thought. All the best.

Once the spark has gone, it's very hard to ignite. I think she's just moving on, meeting new people and going to new places, it does have that effect especially on younger people like yourselves. I was with my b/f about a year when we then bothed moved (together) in our job. Where we were originally had kept the spark going, cos we both had had separate relationships and history, so we both had slight jealousy over each others ex's. But when we moved, all the new ppl we met were our mutual friends, no need for making an effort in our relationship, and it just got boring. I lost the spark with him, he was a great pal, we looked the perfect couple in public, but I could not sleep with him anymore. He didn't attract me anymore, so eventually we split up. He moved back to the original town, but I still had contact with him, it was all so very agreeable. He got a new g/f, which was also okay with me...except...when I went down to the town, and I saw them together, this hit me hard! Strange really, I did not want to be with him, but when I saw he'd moved on I cried, I think alot may have been me thinking that he still held a torch for me, so how could he have found someone new. It was just silly selfishness at the time, and did me no harm, I was over it in a day. I suppose what I'm trying (not very well) to say is, your ex feels close to you, but I don't honestly believe she wants anything more than just friendship now. I know it sounds harsh, but start moving on, you are still very young (compared to moi). So start living a new life without her. All the best.

Had the same thought, you don't have to turn around everytime you're on top, but every second time would be just as good. Most males love it with their woman on top facing away, and you can put your hands on his legs for support. And he gets a chance to fondle and look at the cute butt! Good luck, and yeah the Karma Sutra would give you lots of ideas.

Oh great !! we're moving next year into our new house, with guest room. And now you're telling me no bugger will stay. Will have to start dragging strangers off the streets.."Pleaseee come and stay over, very pretty guest room, no don't run AWAY"

I love porn too !!!!

Exactly my point, even though I can do it now in the heat of the moment with my man, I think I still prefer a private session!

While you're getting intimate and she's feeling really turned on, then ask her to get her BOB out. I guarentee you the reason she is dubious about sharing with you, is b/c obviously her masturbating is a private solo session, she may be embarrased of showing you that very private side of her. You mustn't take offence by this, just b/c you two are very intimate physically, does not always mean you should know every single sexual thought/fantasy/ behaviour your partner has. But the next time you two get *hot* together, make sure she is, not just you. And ask/beg in a sexual way to get BOB out. She will I hope oblige you, and then you get to play too. Do not assume though if you ask her to use it on herself (ie masturbation), as she may feel you are pushing into her privacy. Maybe she will in the heat of the moment do it herself, then you will have made a breakthrough. I don't know why she doesn't get intimate during the week, maybe she's just tired, and would prefer to put her whole head and heart into the sex at the weekend. Even so, I don't think you should concern yourself that BOB is taking your place, as you have read, the real thing can never win, hands down. By the way, I have a box set of toys, which I made my partner go out and buy me as a pressie, I am fine either with either solo play or partner play with them, but they aren't a substitute for my man!!

Oh Lilady, I am soooo proud of you, that is an enormous step you have taken. I shall follow your fine example...all the best xx

Oh that is sooo funny But seriously, thanks to all of you, as I too have had two kiddies, and like Lilady the man I'm with now is not the father, so I understand how she feels totally. I'm very insecure from this in the bedroom. Your caring views and advice are priceless, and I will be taking them on board too. You guys are the best!!! And good luck Lilady, I hope we can both overcome!

My son who is now 5 was also a slow starter, I think alot was due to his now 10 year brother always telling everyone too quickly what his little brother had said, so he got abit lazy in having to make himself understood. My son had a month back an evaluation of his speech (though in german), for starting school next september. I brought up his slowness, and the german doctor, said his german was perfectly clear, apart from not being able to say his SCH's, but that's normal. When she heard me speak english with him, she told me that I speak to fast, and that I should put more envasise on tone in sentence. I was a wee bit shocked, b/c I knew we should always try and make the last letter of a word clear, but tone I hadn't thought about. So am trying harder to talk slower, and also sound like an opera singer!!

Lol....But what a great reason to be late

Just another pointer here, remember that his penis is an extention of him. When you think like this, then you can really put your whole body and mind into it. If you just think you are giving a bj to a penis and not the guy, then you wont thorougly relax. And remember you have a tongue too, keep roaming with it even when you're sucking! And you can decide yourself after the initial cum, whether you want to spit or swallow. Even if your grossed out the first time don't assume you cannot take it. What you could also do is taste his cum after you've jerked him off, then you will know how it tastes!!