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  1. Derailed
    Maybe the pain never leaves, it just lessens in frequency. I'm sure you will bounce back from it faster than you did in the earlier months. My heart goes out to you. I hope you start feeling better very soon. Take care, D.
  2. Derailed
    Goodluck, Miss. Tell us how your visit went.
  3. Derailed
    "A champion is someone who gets up, even when they can't." I read that in one of the old posts here. It gave me some boost, when I was down and low the first few weeks of the break up. Make it your mantra. It may not be much, but its a start. We can do this.
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    It will stop! It will lessen as the days go by, and sometimes you will have a relapse, but its all part of the show. I am just counting on the thousands of people here on ENA who say that time will heal us. I'm waiting for that day too. Till then, lets Keep fighting. Everyone is deserving of love. I know its hard to take this in. I'm suffering just like you, and I would actually benefit from my own advice. Its hard to see things clearly right now, our emotions have us by our necks. Feel your emotions, but don't act on them. It seems, from the mention of your father, that you have underlying issues. It may be a good idea to seek professional help for this if you are able. This would be wise to do. We need to do whatever we can to help ourselves. Keep posting! Keep ranting!
  5. Derailed
    I'm sure you've read a lot of the break-up posts here. Look at us miserable folks and keep us in mind before you have the talk. You love her, so do your best to work things out. Distance shouldn't be an issue. Goodluck, I'm rooting for ya.
  6. Derailed
    Miss, i know it hurts. Its no consolation, but you are not the only who has had her heart broken in this fashion. A lot of us are here for that same reason. I am still coming to terms with this myself... How can someone who loved you with such intensity, suddenly flip over? Hard pill to swallow. But this didn't happen overnight. Whatever the reasons are, we just have to accept it. Its not an easy task, but lets focus on just getting through it one day at a time. Just let the emotions wash over you. Cry, you will feel slightly better after. Don't forget to feed yourself. If you can't eat, have some milk in your fridge, and some soup handy. Get some chocolate, it helps in the depression, I heard. Just anything to give your body nourishment. Sleep as much as you can. Do anything, even little things, to care for your body. Have family and friends around you. Stay strong. Lets get through this together.
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    Not to fan the fire, hmmm that would make him a myspace stalker though. Checking her page and that of her friends, reading various interactions-- with heightened frequency, and with the added history of them being 'ex'es... Isn't this by definition stalking? Of course, all within the confines of the virtual world, but still. I forgot what the real issue at hand is. I don't understand why so many are reacting so violently to this thread... perhaps we are all guilty of a bit of stalking on Myspace to some degree, and it kind of hits a soft spot...? I know I have my days... And it isn't healthy, nor is it helping me to move on. I agree with quietmelancholy though. It could only be beneficial for him (at least) to be eventually blocked from accessing your page...
  8. Derailed
    That sounds like a neat tracker. I have some stalkers myself (not my ex) and would just love to have this. Care to private message me the link to get this tracker? Also would you mind sending me a link to your myspace page if thats alright? See there is a way to see embedded / invisble codes on myspace, via Firefox. I just want to see if it really works. Thanks again.
  9. Derailed
    Yeah what is the tracker? Questions 1. As far as I know, your ex has to have the same tracker as you for you to be able to see whether its him checking on you or not. Does he also have a tracker? 2. Is your tracker invisible? All trackers I came accross are not. So people who pass by your page will see the tracker icon, hence defeating the purpose of spying on them. Why would they pass by the page if they know theyre being tracked?
  10. Derailed
    I know youre asking these quesitons to cope with the rejection. I'm not even going to analyze why you want to determine his sexuality post break-up, but I do know how it feels to have these nagging questions especialy when youre dealing with rejection and letting go of someone. So I'll put in my 2 cents, for whatever its worth. From the list he doesn't come off as gay. My 2 brothers LOVE clothes and dressing nice and looking good, but theyre straight. I'm the gay one, and I don't know squat about dressing nice (they give me tips all the time, funny huh?). I would say though, that when I was in the closet, I used to do #3 a lot. I felt the need to reassure my friends, male or female, that I found girls attractive. I didn't just make comments, I flirted. And you know what they say about extreme flirts, that they exhibit some latent form of homosexuality. So is your ex straight? IMHO sounds like he is. But there really is no way of reading this ambiguous behaviour until you get some concrete evidence (ex. he's got a boyfriend). Where ego is concerned, I guess it matters to you at this point. But try not to think too much into it. Take care, hope you cope with this well. Hope you find the kind of man you'd want to be with in the future.
  11. Derailed
    All I can say is it sucks to be her right now. BIG TIME. You think you have it bad? Oi. Trying to reach out to her as friends will only confuse her at this point and push back her recovery. That won't be a good thing to do. BUT I don't know if total NC is a good thing. What I can say though, from experience, is that sometimes, the dumper will have questions they would want answers to -- for their own peace of mind. When my ex dumped me, I had questions, but he had shut me off so I was stuck with them, and found the questions plaguing my mind. I would have liked for him to be there to answer those questions. If she comes, be there to answer, in a gentle manner, without leading her on. Understand that she is not only feeling the loss of a loved one (you), but also rejection and a very bruised ego. You are forever responsible for what you tame. Isn't that from the little prince? Take that responsibility to see that she makes it through. Don't block her out completely. Some people might disagree, but this is just my opinion as a recent dumpee.
  12. Derailed
    Cincin, you are better off without this person. She is full of herself. I don't know these people live with the guilt of hurting someone this bad. Maybe she has no conscience. Maybe it will grow on her someday and like a tumor would consume her with guilt. 10 years is a long time. But just be glad your'e out of this disrespectful relationship. I know how it is to love someone and have that person discard you. Its painful. People can console you and give you good advice, but the pain is yours to bear. So I guess we just have to face it head-on. Take solace in the fact that you are not alone. Take care.
  13. Derailed
    In her case, the pictures on myspace were put up after they have broken up for some time.
  14. Derailed
    Btw, don't pinky swear. That's so fruitcake! Goodluck!
  15. Derailed
    Stop playing around with yourselves and your relationship. You both sound very confused. DO YOU or DO YOU NOT want to be with her? Ask her the same thing. If you both stand in the middle, then maybe you need to have some time apart and think about what you really want.
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