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hahaha, if there was ever a clearer picture illustrating the contrast in sexual feelings between men and women, i have yet to see it...not that all women have had such an experience, but i doubt ANY man would ever choose his hand over a willing girlfriend/wife unless he's lost all attraction to his partner the more time i spend with my girlfriend the less i masturbate, and that ain't no coincidence

You don't want a boyfriend who's "backed up" all the time, trust me. It relieves tension and relaxes him, in addition to it feeling good. It sounds goofy but, if anything, his masturbation habit is possibly making your relationship happier than it would be otherwise.

I'm gonna pile on and say that if I ever prepared a dinner for someone (girlfriend or otherwise) and they pouted at the idea of maybe setting a table for two, I doubt I'd be inclined to do much of anything for them ever again. For your sake I hope this guy is forgiving and will bear with you long enough that you can get your head straight and learn what's actually important in life.

I agree, you should probably keep it how it is, since your uncertainty hints at you maybe not being ready for a friendship. I think you've been doing the right thing.

My situation- I have never put much stock in large groups of friends. There have been times in my life where I built up networks of acquaintences, particularly in college, but that's rare for me. I tend to just naturally drift away from people if we go on a while without reaching a deeper level. It's nothing against them, it's just that such friendships are unfulfilling to me (generally speaking). I have, on the other hand, had three different "close friendships" since I was about 5 years old. Maybe I look for too much from friendships, but I like being able to talk about anything and everything with people I truly consider to be friends (as a male, that can be harder to find than it is for girls). Anything less really isn't worth holding onto, imo...it may sound harsh, but my feeling is that surface friends are more or less interchangeable, so what difference does it make how many or few I have? My girlfriend has more friends than I do, not a ton, but certainly hangs out with a wider array of people than I do. It doesn't bother me or her...I like time alone when I need it, and every two weeks or so I'll go out for drinks or dinner with my best friend. I supplement that by having occasional outings with the current crop of one or two casual friends. If I need more than that at some point in the future, I don't think I'll have a problem adapting... but at least in my case I don't think my quantity of friends really impacts my relationship, either positively or negatively. Am I just an odd case in that respect?

The fact of the matter is, I didn't need to read the rest of your post (just had to see enough to find out what you lied about). The moment she did/said this you should have moved on. I understand she's angry at you for lying, but for her to do something this hurtful, this disrespectful... the punishment does not fit the crime. You (so far as I know) are not friends with these porn girls, you are not telling her that you moan your female friend's names while masturbating. She is clearly unstable, needs therapy, and I'd run away before she draws you in any further.

I don't think the band aid metaphor applies here. I'd say, assuming she truly doesn't want to get back together, this is more like picking at the open wound and not allowing it to heal. I do understand your actions though, and I hope everything goes well.

I see your "guilt" and "temptation to cave" and raise you "feelings of rejection and worthlessness"!! No but really, you've both made good points and, assuming the two partners legitimately loved one another, it's always going to be nearly as difficult on either end. There's nothing sadder than the feeling of a great relationship slipping away.

To be fair, I think this is a pretty logical belief. I won't say the dumper always has an easier time than the dumpee, but I would imagine the odds of this happening are much higher than the opposite. At the very least, the dumper can mentally prepare him/herself prior to the event in the knowledge that it's definitely going to happen, while the dumpee may or may not be blindsided by the news. No one's saying either position feels good, but being dumped, I think you may agree, involves a more immediate and concentrated type of pain.

If you're truly concerned about health, you should definitely not be consuming any soda (diet or otherwise) on a regular basis. Once in a while is fine, but every day is like having poison in your diet.

I read the responses and the most important thing, no matter what is said, is that she should do this in person. If she's uncomfortable with such an idea my gut tells me they probably shouldn't be getting married.

still, once he said he found someone better you should have dropped him. no one should ever hold their relationship hostage in that way

Did anyone read this? He's clearly trying to get back at her for this, justified or not. He probably started talking about this girl to make you jealous, since he felt jealous of your guy friend.

Often when we're cuddling, or maybe even just sitting accross from each other, she'll look at me with the most soft, soulful and vulnerable expression that I've ever seen. It not only makes me melt but, as silly as it may sound, when she does this I feel like a great man for having earned her love and trust.