missmebaby

thank you everyone for the replies. i really am just being insecure. The change in him just shocked me. He used to be almost annoying because he paid me so much attention. He is actually starting a construction and landscaping business so he definitely has alot on his mind. Last night I stayed over and woke up to see him watching me sleeping and he smiled at me, said i looked so cute when i sleep, and said i love you. thats when i realized im just being insecure.

I got out of a year long relationship in August. He had cheated on me and lied to me so many times and we fought constantly for the last month so we broke up. I was devastated but 3 months later I met my current boyfriend and things moved very fast between us. Because of my last relationship I have been insecure and a little paranoid with my new relationship but i have barely let it show. Every once in awhile Ill tease my new boyfriend about his "other girlfriend" and sometimes when he goes out ill ask him a few questions about where hes been and what hes been doing. We've been together for 3 months now and for the first 2 1/2 months my boyfriend was practically obsessed with me, always calling me, taking me out to dinner, wanting to see me all the time, and telling me how much he liked me and could see himself marrying me. I was so happy I finally found a great guy but in a way he was getting a little annoying because he seemed very clingy. Well in the past few weeks ive realized how much I love him and cant stand the thought of losing him. But in the past couple weeks he seems different. He still calls me a few times a day but not as much as he was, and when he does call me he barely talks when we used to talk for at least an hour. Anytime I wanted to get off the phone he used to say things like "no i want to talk to you." Now he just says "ok ill talk to you later." Also, he doesnt say I love you when we get off the phone unless I say it first. He doesnt ask to see me as much and whenever i ask him why hes different or if he still wants to be with me he acts a little annoyed at me. Anytime I couldnt come over to his house he would insist on coming to mine just so he could see me, but now he doesnt even offer. But anytime I actually see him in person things are back to good. I went to his house last night and he seemed so excited to see me. He kept kissing me and holding me and he was saying I love you. The whole night we had a great night together. Except for one thing. I woke up at 4:00 in the morning and rolled over to see him laying there watching TV. I asked him why he was still awake and he said it was because hes been thinking about things all night. I asked him what he was thinking about and he said he was thinking about everything he has to do with his business hes starting and how he isnt going to be ready to get married anytime soon because theres alot of things to do before that. It kind of made me feel like hes changing his mind about me because he had talked about how he couldnt wait to marry me and now he says he wants to wait. Well this morning when I left he kisses me goodbye and says "love you baby ill see you tomorrow." So I think everything is better except that he called me a half hour later than he said he would and then he barely talks to me. So I finally said im gonna get off the phone and he says ok, and we hang up. I cant help but be really worried about how hes feeling about me. Hes a very blunt person and says he would definitely tell me if he doesnt want to be with me again and anytime we're together things are great, but hes also been different and more distant lately. Is this just our relationship maturing and the honeymoon period is over? Or is he starting to get bored with me? Is there anything I can do to find out, or anything I can do to get him to be the way he used to be?

well i DO keep the food in my room, thats the worst part. they come in and help themselves. also, i forgot to mention something. i was never allowed to have a cell phone until i was 18 and had my own job and paid for it myself. well for christmas my 16 year old brother received a very nice cell phone which my parents are paying for. also, they forced me to get a job as soon as i turned 16 but my brother is almost 17 and they have never even asked him to get a job. then i have a 12 year old brother who just bought a computer for himself even though we have another one that works perfectly fine. when i was 19 years old i bought myself a computer because i was in college and needed one and my parents still to this day yell at me for spending my money on a computer

hi im a 20 year old female who currently still lives at home only because im a full time nursing student which takes up all my time and money and im only able to work 2-3 days a week. unfortunately im the oldest child and i feel like my two younger brothers are more loved and get many more priveleges than i ever did. my parents have always been strict and ive been overprotected my whole life and not allowed to do many of the things my friends do. im a good student, have a good future ahead of me, ill be a registered nurse in a little over a year, ive never done drugs or smoked, and i rarely drink. ive never been arrested or in any trouble for that matter. ive never been pregnant and ive only slept with 3 guys in my life, all of which were serious boyfriends. but my parents are kind of dorks lol, and they were good kids at my age and my mom grew up in a strict religious family. so my parents think im this horrible girl, they have called me stupid and slutty and lazy. stupid because i choose to go out with my friends once or twice a week instead of staying home, and lazy because my room isnt always clean and my laundry isnt always done, and slutty because i have sex with my boyfriend and because i i wear thongs instead of granny panties. they always say how they cant stand having me here but anytime i go out with my friends i get a lecture from them which always ends in a screaming argument, and i sometimes stay at my boyfriend's house which leads them to calling me a sl*t and anytime my boyfriend is around they are rude to him and dont speak to him even though he is a great guy to me and has always been polite to them. anytime i buy healthy food for myself my parents and brothers always end up eating it even though i have repeatedly asked them not to, and whenever i confront them about it they just tell me to shut up and quit making such a big deal about it. my brothers come in my room and take my 4-wheeling gear and use it for themselves and my parents just laugh it off when i tell them, but anytime i go in my brothers' rooms and borrow a shirt or something i get yelled at for a half hour. anytime my brothers pick a fight with me and i try to defend myself my dad laughs at me and tells me to stop being immature and stupid and leave my brothers alone. lately we have been fighting more than ever and my dad has been saying i have a mental problem. i honestly dont think i have a mental problem at all, and if i do its because they have driven me crazy. i mean i get along just fine with everyone else, i just cant stand my parents and they are always hostile to me. i try to avoid them as much as possible. the only time i am ever in a bad mood is when im home around my parents. i feel that they are just so verbally and emotionally abusive calling me stupid and slutty and always sticking up for my brothers. they care much more about my brothers' grades in high school than they do about mine in the nursing program. whenever my mom is mad at me she refuses to speak to me and no matter what i say to her or ask her she refuses to answer me or even acknowledge im there. whenever we have a family get together she forbids me to come, saying she doesnt want me there even though its my family too. my dad always says im too stupid and ill never get through school even though ive done great in my first year. all of this has really caused me to hate my parents and ive developed such bitterness towards them. i just dont know what to do...does it sound like my parents are as horrible as i think they are? or is it me thats the problem? what can i possibly do? (theres no way i can possibly move out right now) my parents are causing me to feel like a horrible person and i feel like maybe i really do have a mental problem.

no no i definitely never expect a man to pamper me. that came out wrong and i can see why its being misunderstood. see, my last boyfriend i was with for a year hardly spent any money on me, never pampered me or anything. i was totally fine with that, i never expected anything and i was very happy with him. its not the material things or being treated like a princess that i value in a relationship. i guess what i meant was that compared to my last boyfriend he does a whole lot more for me so it sticks in my mind because its hard to believe all the things he does for me. i never expect him to do anything and i never ask for anything. i guess i really just meant that i am very appreciative of him and the things he does for me. like ive said, ive had other boyfriends that didnt pamper me at all and i was perfectly happy with them. i do make time for him. i cant even say how many times ive put off studying or something so i could see him. i see him every friday and saturday and at least once during the week, sometimes twice. ive told him before that i am very busy with nursing school and trying to work and he said he understood and would give me all the space i need but now he isnt doing that at all. it should all calm down in about 2 months when im out of school, but i dont want this to be a sign of how hes going to be everytime something doesnt go his way.

my boyfriend and i have been together for 3 months now. i really like so many things about him, he pampers me and does anything for me, tells me how much he cares about me, treats me very good, and hes 24 which is 4 years older than me so hes more mature. well, most of the time.... for the past month or so hes just been very selfish in my opinion. right now im in nursing school 4 days a week and i work 2-3 days a week so im a very busy person. i dont get to see him a whole lot, maybe 2-3 times a week and i never have much money because i cant work very much and i have to spend about $60 a week on gas. so anytime that he wants to see me and i cant see him because i have no money or because i have something going on with school he gets angry and blames everything on me. for example, tonight i was supposed to come over and spend the night at his house but i have absolutely no money and i have a paper due tomorrow and an exam tomorrow. so i call him and tell him im very sorry and i explain the situation and he gets angry with me and goes into this lecture about how its all my fault and i must not want to see him. so i keep apologizing and saying how i really want to see him and ill get to see him the whole weekend and im saying "i love you" and "cheer up babe" but he just says he doesnt want to talk to me right now and he hangs up. last weekend i got into a huge argument with my parents and they didnt give me the money they owed me so i didnt have any money to drive to his house. i called him and explained the situation and i was about in tears i was so upset, but instead of being there for me and cheering me up he says its all my fault and hes getting sick of me doing this kind of stuff, and he says i have problems. he hurt me so bad that he made me cry and i said "fine, ill come over but you have to give me gas money." and only then when he got his way did he apologize and stop yelling at me. am i the one in the wrong here or is he really being selfish? thats one of the only things i dont like about his personality, i feel like he can be very selfish and disrespectful. but other times i wonder if there is something i can do better or do differently or if im the one thats wrong and i really dont make enough time for him?

i guess one of the things that bothers me the most about it is that he had JUST broken up with a girlfriend of a year when i met him and started dating him. his ex went psycho calling him all the time, threatening me, sending him cards, and trying to break us up. he called her psycho and said he couldnt stand her but yet he talked to her a few times a week on the phone. me and him had a great relationship and he said it was so much better than the relationship he had with her and that he loved me more than hes ever loved anyone. yet after 6 months he cheated on me by sleeping with her. but he said it was the biggest mistake ever and begged me to take him back and i did. 6 months go by where he doesnt talk to her at all and things are amazing between me and him. but then we break up and i find out that he called her and has been talking to her and he even met up with her at the bar once. at this time me and him were talking again trying to work things out so i flipped out on him because i couldnt understand why he kept talking to her. he said he doesnt care about her at all, just thought they could be friends. this girl was crazy and he made fun of her alot saying she was psycho. but he talked to her and wanted to stay friends. why isnt he like that at all with me??? if he loved me so much more and we had a better relationship why did he want to stay friends with her and not me? why did he cheat on me with her, but he acts like he doesnt even want to talk to me anymore? i guess i just keep comparing the way he acted with her to the way he acts with me.

i was 40 days into no contact with my ex boyfriend and i blew it. i called him up thinking i would be ok talking to him, and i just wanted to find out how he was doing and how his family is since i was practically closer to them than i was to my own family. him and i dated for a year, we've been broken up for 6 months now but its really more like we've been broken up for like 2 1/2 months because after we broke up we still talked on the phone everyday, hung out alot, and tried to get back together but it never ended up working out. basically he played me and used me until he found someone else. i was bitter about it for a long time, hence the no contact, but i figured maybe we could have a friendly conversation and not grow to be strangers. i loved him so much and i guess i still do and always will and i think it would be horrible to become strangers with someone i was so close to and shared so many things with. but i guess he doesnt feel the same. i called him and he answered right away and at first he was nice and polite and asked me about myself, the first 5 minutes he was being really nice making conversation and things were going good. but as soon as i tried to be polite and ask him how him and his gf were doing and i asked a few things about her, he jumps down my throat saying "why do you care? i dont ask you about you and your boyfriend." the rest of the conversation didnt go so great either, he made a few sarcastic comments and never asked me anything about myself. i dont understand why he would treat me like that, i havent talked to him in over a month, you think he would at least have wondered a little tiny bit about what ive been up to but i guess not. he didnt even seem like he wanted to be friends or cared about me at all. i guess i just need to let it go, i just really wanted to at least stay in touch with the guy that i cared about more than i ever cared about anyone and the one guy ill never forget. i was so close to his family, it was like i was one of them. but he has this new girl and i guess hes totally over me and doesnt care whether he ever talks to me again. i find that so hard to believe but i guess some people are just like that. they can forget about someone they were totally in love with and spent a great period of time with. i cant think of any other reason why he could be so rude to me and not even ask about me, other than he doesnt care about me at all anymore. i have a new boyfriend that ive been with for about 2 months and i love him and hes great to me, but for some reason my ex is in the back of my mind sometimes and its so frustrating. theres that one person that you will never get over and i think hes going to be that guy.

first of all thanks to everyone for the replies. i understand that i am at an age where my parents should no longer have to provide for me or support me but i really have no choice sometimes because i am so busy and tied down with nursing school that i am left with absolutely no time to work and thereforeeee i have no money at all. i honestly have $5.00 in the bank right now and that is it until friday when i will get about a $200 paycheck to last me for 2 weeks when i have a $60 a month cell phone bill and about $50 a week in gas. i also have to buy lunch some days at school on the days im there all day. plus im a girl, so i need things like hair spray, shampoo, and makeup when it runs out. my paychecks never last me the full 2 weeks no matter how careful i am. i havent gone clothes shopping in 5 months, havent gotten my hair done in awhile, and many other things ive sacrificed. i would LOVE to work more and make more money but it just cant be done right now. for instance, mondays i go to school from 9am-3:30pm and its a 45 minute drive both ways. so i get home at like 4:15 but in nursing school you have tons and tons of studying and lots and lots of pages to read in your textbooks along with projects and papers that are due. then tuesdays i have class from 10:30am-12:30pm, have to go to the hospital i do my clinicals at to get my assignment for the next day, then go to work from 3-11pm. get up at 6am on wednesdays, go to clinicals at the hospital from 7:30am-2pm. thursdays i go to school from 10:30am-3pm, and fridays, saturdays, and sundays i work. there is no other time i can possibly squeeze in anymore hours at work. i am crazy busy the way it is and my parents dont understand, instead they complain because i am always busy and never home. along with my hectic work and school schedule i try to have time for my boyfriend and friends. and as far as the boyfriend thing goes, he has never stayed at my house and i have never asked my parents if he could. i have always only stayed the night at his house. i clean my room at least once or twice a week but as busy as i am clothes are going to get thrown on the floor and its going to be cluttered until i get the time in a few days to clean it. also, i do laundry at least twice a week but i wear a lot of clothes because of all the different places i am running to throughout the week so it piles up very quickly. i feel like in order to make my parents happy i will have to lose the boyfriend, lose my friends, and lose any relaxing time i have. in a year in a half ill be making like $23 an hour and ill be able to move out on my own and have nice things and do good things with my life but right now i cant do that because i am working towards it.

ok first of all im almost 21 years old and i live with my parents. i have a pretty good job at a hospital but i am only able to get maybe 16-24 hours a week at my job because i am also a full time nursing student which takes up a ton of my time and there are really hardly any days that i can work. also, my college is 45 mins away which means 4 days a week i drive an hour and a half round trip to and from school and then 2 or 3 days a week i drive 40 mins round trip to and from work. it takes up a lot of my time and a ton of money just in gas. when i do have free time i like to just relax and take it easy for once so my room gets messy and my laundry starts to pile up. well every day my parents are on me, yelling and complaining because they say i never do anything around the house and i never have any money and i never do anything to help them. it causes huge fights between me, my mom, and my dad. they say my room is too messy and my laundry lays in baskets in the basement. they get really mad if i ask for $5 for gas money. then maybe 2 or 3 nights during the week i try to see my boyfriend and i go out on the weekends with my friends. every time i go out it causes a huge fight with my parents again because they say alls i ever do is party and run around and im never home. i am never allowed to stay the night at my boyfriend's house and if i do they yell and scream the second i get home and my dad threatens to kick me out even though he knows i have no money because i am going to school all the time and trying to better myself so i can have a great future. he also threatens to sell my car which he bought and is in his name but then i wouldnt have anything to drive me to school 45 mins away. i get really good grades and i try really hard in school but everytime i get in a fight with my dad he calls me stupid and says ill never graduate because im too stupid and i have no common sense. my parents call me lazy all the time, but how can i be lazy when i go to school and work 7 days a week and try to straighten up my room whenever i can, and do my laundry, and i still try to have time to go out with my friends and have a life?? im almost 21 years old, this should be the best times of my life but instead my parents expect me to stay home every night. my younger brother is 16 and my parents think hes perfect and doesnt do anything wrong and he can take off in my dad's truck whenever he wants, or my parents let him use my car. i try to buy healthy food for myself and my brother will come into my room and steal it and eat it but my parents wont say a word to him about it and they just blow it off like its nothing and instead turn it around to make it look like my fault. but as soon as i go into his room and borrow a t-shirt or a pair of socks i get yelled at for 20 minutes. my parents always say how our entire family cant wait until i move out, and believe me i wish i could but like i said school takes up a huge part of my life and i dont have the money to move out. my parents are always yelling and screaming at me about the smallest things but they think my brother is perfect and he can do whatever he wants. i dont smoke, do drugs, never been in trouble, never had a speeding ticket, never gotten pregnant and i definiately dont sleep around, and i get good grades. the only thing i ever do is lie to my parents just to be able to do the stupid little things that all my friends and other people my age are allowed to do by their parents. the other night i was getting ready to go out with my friends and i couldnt find my shoes anywhere. i remember leaving them by the front door and i was sure of it so i went around asking my family if they had moved them. well everyone denied it and my dad got mad and said "quit trying to blame in on everyone else, they are wherever you left them." well they werent where i had left them, instead someone had thrown them downstairs where i finally found them 15 minutes later and by that time i was furious and almost in tears because someone was lying about having moved them and no one would help me look for them. well i told my parents and of course my dad has some smart sarcastic comment to say to me and once again says that no one touched them, it had to of been me that threw them down the steps. its the same thing everyday, we just dont get along at all no matter what i do. it has made me kind of hard to get along with in other relationships sometimes too because im always bitter. am i over reacted and taking things too hard or are my parents really as disrespectful and immature as i think they are? help me what can i do???

i dont know whats wrong with me. its like i just keep getting worse. today i actually cried because i started thinking about him and his family and that i would never see them again. i was so attached to his family, i felt like i was a part of the family and we were always doing things together. i was probably closer to them than i was to my own family. well i never got a chance to even say goodbye or to thank them or anything. i just keep thinking about all the things we did together that we will never get to do again and how i looked forward to poker nights with his grandparents and parents, going swimming at his aunt and uncle's house every tuesday, camping at his cabin with his whole family, hanging out with his mom, going out on the weekends with his brother and his brother's fiance. i cant believe i will never step foot into his house again where we shared so many memories and its very possible that i will never see his parents or brother or anyone in his family again. its like moving away and losing all contact with everyone in your own family without ever getting to say goodbye and knowing you will probly never see them again, and even if you do they either wont recognize you or they wont care about you anymore. they were so good to me and i miss them so much. its been almost 2 months since ive talked to anyone in his family and ive been thinking about sending them a card saying i hope they had a good holidays and that ive been thinking about them and i want to thank them for everything they did for me and that i felt like they were my second family. would that be inappropriate or too weird after not seeing or speaking to them in nearly 2 months? i cant believe i am moving backwards like this and im back to crying over him. he doesnt care about me, he doesnt even bother to ever call me or anything. i feel like our relationship never meant what i thought it did if he can just walk away and not even care about me and not care that im not in his life anymore. i remember how close we were and the things we did together and how much he told me he loved me and wanted to marry me and i wonder what the heck happened to us. so many of you other people have your exes still calling you or emailing you, wondering what you've been doing. but mine obviously doesnt even care because he has never tried to contact me except for one time when something funny happened that reminded him of me. i thought i was over him but i guess maybe im not..

its been almost 5 months since my ex of 1 year broke up with me. its so hard to believe that we've been broken up almost half of the time that we were together. its only been about a month and a half since we stopped hanging out, sleeping together, and talking everyday. i guess maybe that must be why im still not healed like i should be. for awhile i was doing NC and i felt alot better and i met a really great new guy and ive been with him for about a month now and i really like him and he really is better than my ex in looks and in the way he treats me. but in the past few weeks ive spoken to my ex a few times, just me calling to say hi and catch up on whats been going on and he called me once to tell me something that happened that made him think of me. i thought we could be friends since i have a new boyfriend and he said he has a new girl hes dating. ever since i started talking to him again it has made me start thinking about him more and i realize i still miss him. sometimes i wonder how he still feels about me because every time i call him he either answers or calls me right back. he has never ignored my calls and the one time i called him he was with his friends so i changed my mind about talking to him and i said i had to go. well he kept begging me to tell him why i called but i just said it was nothing and i had to go. well he called me early the next morning to ask me what i wanted last night. it was like he thought i was going to tell him that i missed him or something and he wanted to hear me say it. also whenever i talk to him on the phone it usually turns out to be a pretty long conversation. then he found out that i still talked to his friends and ive hung out with them a couple times and he got mad and jealous and ended up telling his friends he didnt want them talking to me anymore. it caused me and him to get into a fight and i havent talked to him since. that was about a week ago. all of those things make me think he might still have feelings for me. i wouldnt take him back, i really wouldnt. he treated me bad some of the time we were together and he lied to me and cheated on me. i just cant figure out why i was doing so good for awhile and now im back to thinking about him more. i think its because i was so attached to his family and i miss them so much, they were like my second family and they loved me and its not fair that i have to lose not only the guy i thought i was going to marry but my second family as well. and i miss how my ex always had something fun to do, there was never a boring minute with him. we were always doing something with his friends or family. with my new guy he is 4 years older so hes lost touch with alot of his friends so he doesnt go out much and he isnt real close to his family and i hardly ever see them. i also remember how much i loved playing and watching sports with my ex, but my new guy isnt interested in that. i know i need to stop comparing my boyfriend with my ex, but its like all the things i loved about my ex are things that my boyfriend doesnt have. i dont know what to do. i dont want to lose my boyfriend, hes treats me so great and i can see myself having a future with him. but at the same time i know its not fair to him that i still think about my ex. i think this is just a phase im going through and ill get over it soon. i think its just finally hit me that we will never do any of the things we loved doing together, and i wont get to spend time with his family anymore. that part of my life is over and it really hurts because i can honestly say that that was the best year of my life even though he cheated on me and lied to me and we fought so much, we made so many great memories and i didnt only love him, i loved his life in general. all the people in it, and all the things he did everyday. and then theres the question of whether hes over me or not. i want him to miss me, and i want him to still have feelings for me. the way he always answers my calls or calls me back, and how he gets jealous that his friends talk to me, makes me wonder if he still has feelings for me. but then theres the fact that he pretty much never initiates contact with me which makes me think he doesnt care about me at all anymore. he isnt friends with any of his ex girlfriends, but i thought maybe i was different. maybe i meant more to him, but i guess not. i guess im just trying to vent, because im so frustrated that all of a sudden im moving backwards in the healing process instead of forward. and it hurts me more than ever that after a year together, and all the things we did together, and him saying how much he loved me and planned to marry me and we were going to move in together, and he loved me way more than hes ever loved anyone, and now he doesnt even care enough to pick up the phone and call me. he doesnt even care how im doing, or think about what im doing. but when we were together he wanted to see me every day and he got extremely jealous if i even mentioned a guy or if i even mentioned going out with my friends without him he would worry so much. i read all these posts where people say that their ex dumped them but they still try to contact them and check up on them. i just wish my ex would do that. instead im left wondering how he can just cut me out of his life and not care about me at all. just forget a year of his life like it never meant anything at all, like i never meant anything at all.

my mom wont tell me how she found out, but i think she may have found a condom wrapper. my boyfriend said he cant believe how fast we moved but he said it felt right and since i had only had sex with 2 people before him, both of which were boyfriends, and i didnt even kiss him until the 3rd date, and i promised that i had been tested recently, he knew i was a respectable girl. i agree that it felt right at the time to have sex, but now im worried about how its going to affect the rest of our relationship, like maybe we moved too fast and things are going to fizzle out quickly or get boring. i dont know how we could slow things down.

i am 20 and he is 24. he has had a 5 year relationship and a 2 year relationship, both of which ive heard he was a great boyfriend to them and never cheated or anything. he has never had a one night stand or anything and is very picky about who he has sex with because he is afraid of getting an STD and becuase he feels like it should be with someone you really care about. all of those things are reasons why i felt comfortable sleeping with him. but then when my mom cut me down like that it made me feel terrible, and made me regret it and feel kind of dirty.

i met a really great guy 5 weeks ago. we went out on a few dates and he didnt kiss me until the 3rd date. after a week he asked me to be his girlfriend. he treats me so amazingly good and he seems to have a really good head on his shoulders and a really good outlook on things. he is very respectful and affectionate, and is always telling me how much he cares about me and that hes falling in love with me. during the first 2 weeks that we were officially a couple things moved very fast and we ended up having sex after only being togther for 2 weeks and only knowing each other for 3 weeks. it just felt right though, because we were falling for each other so fast. well my mom somehow found out that we were having sex and today she confronted me and said "it always makes a mother feel good to know her daughter has only known a guy for a month and is already sleeping with him." and she basically called me a * * * * and said i had no self respect. now i feel horrible and i feel like things are moving way too fast and i regret having sex with him already. but i know i cant take it back. was it too soon to do that with him??? ive had sex with 2 other people, both of who were my boyfriends and both ended up lasting for a year. with the first guy i waited for 4 months to have sex with him, and the second guy i waited for a month and a half. i dont know what to do, and im worried about whether it was just too soon or not.