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  1. Well how can u let go when you still harboru hopes of getting back. When you have truly let go then it doesnt matter whether they will come back or not.....I know I Haven't let go of the hope that my ex and I will come back together. I don't call him up or email him but that doesnt mean I have let go. I know when I let go it means I dont care whether he comes back or not!
  2. Hope you are feeling better. She doesnt know what she has lost. Its her loss and not yours. Dont quit the band! Take care of yourself. Go shopping, go bar hopping and pull some hot chicks.(Not for a rebound though but just to boost your ego) Show her that you can live without her and then eventually someday soon you will have a hot chick on your side and she will regret that she ever let you go...but then it will be too late...for her!!!
  3. He is feeling miserable and he wants to know if you are as well. If you reply back saying how miserable you are feeling then it will make him feel better. So don't reply.
  4. Hey guys, I have come to realize that each relationship is different and we cannot follow one general rule. 1) Why did you break up? If its because one party was not sure whether they wanted to be in a relationship at that point in their life then its important to make sure you stay in touch with them because they might truly be confused as to what they want in their life. On the other hand if the guy is mean, cheats on you or verbally abuses you then I think you should start NC to regain your self confidence, your self worth and to give yourself a chance of finding someone new and wonderful. 2) You need to ask yourslef, is this worth pursuing? As I said if the relationship was wonderful and if the person was wonderful and if they are confused then I dont think you should give up. 3) I find a lot of people who give up on love very easily. If you truly truly believe that this is the one then fight for them. You might win/ lose but twenty years from now you will not look back and say " I wish I had fought for what I wanted." 4) We are told not to give up, everyday, that we can change people's mind on how they percieve us, we can change people's perception on the environment, politics, business us and yet when it comes to relationship why are we told to give up and move on? 5) Ultimately you have got to decide whether its worth fighting for what you truly truly believe in!! So good luck either ways!!
  5. Hey Mease 87. I know exactly what you are going through! I do that with my ex and everytime he adds a girl I feel terrible and go through emotional yo yo. I know you want be able to delete it so this is what I recommend. Tell yourself you want see her profile for a day. Keep up with the plan and the next day tell your self you are going to see herprofile just once and keep doing this and you will see that it gets better in time. Hope you are feeling better!
  6. Hey I hope you are feeling ok.When I broke up with my first boyfriend, I couldnt move or do anything for a while. I would lie in bed and not eat anything. I lost almost 10 pounds and went into deep depression!! It gets better, believe me!!
  7. Interesting, I dont think you have to be insecure at all. I understand why you might be but from what you have posted it actually seems to me that your relationship is on the right track! I dont think you should over analyze every little thing she does! I think you might be blowing things out of propotion because you are very insecure at the moment! When relationships are going great we don't tend to analyze but when its in a rocky stage or as in yours where you have all these feelings for this person and not sure what is going to happen we start to look at the same things that never mattered to us before from a different dimension. So stop worrying, be nice, be patient and wait and see what happens and be happy that you got a second chance with a person you love so much and above all just enjoy the relationship and let things take its course. Not all of us are as lucky as you are
  8. Houdini, I don't think you can do much about how your ex thinks about you! Honestly,not to come off as rude or anything but there must be a reason why your ex thinks of you in a negative light right? I think all you can do is maintain your distance and be a better person not for your ex but for yourself and in time, your ex will see that you have changed and will appreciate the change!!
  9. Hey guys, I have been reading the posts. I dont think LOA cannot be treated as some kind of new found magic spell that people can use to get back their ex's. It doesnt work that way and people are going to be hugely disappointed if they try to because its not going to work!! As I had mentioned in my previous post somewhere, its scientifically proven that brain emits waves with different levels of energy which another brain picks up on. It could be negative/positive. The other brain which picks up on this wave can choose to act on this wave or it might not. For example if you like a person, even if it doesnt manifest itself physically the brain of the other person picks up on the vibe but it depends entirely on them whether they choose to act on it or not!
  10. Hey toonicegirl, I know what you mean. When my ex and I were together I was always thinking oh we are so different!! He got the vibe because he said so, not in so many words but that he knew exactly what I was thinking. I think it had to do more with my previous relationships when I got to close to someone they hurt me. I think I brought that negativity into this relationship. Everyone said, he was into, his sisters, his friend everyone and then he decided to break it off with me. I always thought maybe he was a commitment phobic person but then I started to think about it and realized that everything he was doing in that period didnt sum up to him being a commitment phobic person. But I think the real person who was commitment phobic was me. I lost an amazing and wonderful person. But I also know that I was special to him! Its the vive . I know a lot of peopel dont think its a big deal that he wished me on my birthday twice but I think it is! He has always replied back to my most stupid bening txts and emails. That has to say something right!? So after I started to think postive that is when I heard back from him. I said to myself I am going to hear from him on my birthday and I did, twice!! Ultimately, LOA is not a cult or an organization. All that it tells you is think positive and remove all negativity from you body, sould and mind and you will be surprised by the results. Ever since I broke up with him I have been thinking negative, that I will meet someone better and more intelligent etc. But all this time all I did was to make myself miserable and then I changed my attitiude and said thank you for sending into my life a guy who is amazing, caring has high ethical standards and who makes me happy and I feel better already. Not because I think I am going to get him but because I am seeing the positive side to things!!
  11. Hey interesting, I would advise you to take it very very slowly if you want to be with this girl. Why are you in such a hurry? If a guy was not treating me well and I gave him a second chance I woudk wait for a very long time to see if he meant what he said. Its easy for someone to pretend like they have changed only to be different down the line. I am not saying you are one of them but she wants to make sure you are not one them. So as I said if you really like this girl and you want to be with her for the rest of your life then you will wait for her to understand that you have indeed changed....
  12. just to add. I dont think you get an ex back by using LOA especially if the person doesnt want you. Its about being in the same wave length and if you are sending out positive energy and the pick on it and want to act on it then they will. They can pick on it and decide not to act on it.... So I dont think people should use this as a means to get their ex who doesnt want to be with them , its not black magic, because they will be disappointed!!
  13. I watched the "SEcret" as well. This whole phenomenon has been in existnece for a really really long time. The Hinduas and the buddhists especially believe that the mind is very powerful which is why both these religion stress so much on meditation. I recently read an article on how scientists recently discovered that if your brain is thining of something like say" I hate this person a lot" then the other person picks up on the vibe. They might not hate them back but the brain knows that they hate them. The same is true if you like someone. You dont have to do anything physically to tell them you like them but the brain picks up on the vibe. They might not like you back but their brain know.There is more research that is beign done on this brain waves . Its like what ebsmith said she was emitting negative energy and her boyfriend picked up on it!!! Also why do u think doctors have started to recommend meditation? Because its scientifically proven that the more you meditate the more you tend to relax and de-stress. I dont know the scientific explanation for this. Also its a known fact that we use just 5% of our brain which is why there is more and more research beign done on how to apply the rest of the 95%. The more closer you are to nature the more you will realize that we are connected. Its such a tragedy that we humans have somehow come to think that we are above nature and we have disconnected from it. LOA is not some magic or witchcraft. Its been there for ages, that mind is powerful and we are all connected and that we emit negative/postive energy. Its not something new as the book itself claims.
  14. Hey interesting, in your situation there is no need to do NC because you guys havent officially broken uo. Second, are you sure you want to be with this girl because you yourself mention that you stopped seeing her as much because you werent sure. Do you know want her because she was also thinking the same? Well you say you kind of grew distant from her after taking your GMAT right? I dont think its about your work hours that has driven you guys apart. I think its the signal you have been giving her! You might not realize this but people can understand the difference between not being able to meet up because of work and people not willing to spend time because they are not sure about the relationship anymore! So honestly, I dont blame her and not to sound too harsh, you should be thankful she's given you a second chance. A lot of women dont have sex just for the sake of having sex. She is taking her time to see whether you really mean what you say and if you really do then you will wait for her. She is trying to see whether you are going to repeat what u did in the past. So hang in there, be good and show her you care and in time she will come to realize that you meant evertthing you said.
  15. Yes I agree with Caterina and if I were your friend, I would think you were probobaly referring to the way you feel about the whole break up a month from now. So dont worry!!!
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