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Alezia

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  1. I'm testing out the new forum features and you seem like the perfect candidate ;)

  2. As for the doctor part, do you think family doctor would be best (since do I need somekind of reference to see a gynecalogist/therapist)... or can I go to a profesional on the subject directly. I would doubt my family doctor would have a lot of information about it. I'm under the Canadian system btw =)
  3. Hi =) I feel a bit akward writing about this, but I have almost no sex drive. I don't masturbate either. This is obviously affecting my current partner, which we've been on-off together for over a year. I've always had no sex drive, but I would have sex with my partner when he pleased... obviously that's not good enough for him because he doesn't feel I'm into it. And yes, it does seem more like a chore for me than anything else. I have zero-drive almost... exception here and there, especially when I drink. So I don't crave sex at all. I used to be able to reach orgasm each time before when we had sex... but now that's gone also and i just plainly don't feel anything when i'm having sex. It's starting to feel like a waste of time... I'm also not someone who fears intimacy, I love to kiss, makeout, hold hands, cuddle etc... just no desire for sex. I've been in a string of monogamous relationships since I was 16... and my first relationship was abusive and started having sex while I wasn't ready. I guess I've been having sex ever since out of "chore". I don't know if my age comes into play in this, I'm 21 and my partner is 25. So it's been something like 5.5 years of "chore sex". In general it seems somewhat hard to get some answers from my partner, and communication was never all that good. We're both very busy people / stressed. I'm going to try to get off the pill next month and increase my exercice and have a better diet to start with... I've been thinking of seeing the family doctor about this, but I'm not too sure it's the best first step. I guess I'm trying to get some advice on what I could do to boost my libido or be able to enjoy sex at all that it now has come to. I don't want to tell my partner that I don't care about his need, but I don't want to force myself into something I'm not.
  4. Hi, Well I suppose I can sort of relate. Not totally, because I don't feel socially awkard or fall under pressure as you mention, but I am not into the clubbing scene much. I'm not really into hooking up with random strangers, and it leaves you totally empty too. (according to me, some ppl are into that and it's good for them if they like it that way) Maybe if you are concerned about the clubbing scene yet you don't want to stay at home, you could plan a night at the movies? Most people don't arrive wasted or high for those type of activities... Sports are a good one too like snowboarding/skiing, mini-golf, bowling etc... I don't see why you would have to limit your social interaction to clubs and drinking only if that's not what you are into. I used to like the clubbing scene at first too, but I don't enjoy it at all anymore. I'd rather go travelling, or do some activities with 1-2 friend or be with my boyfriend =) Don't feel bad about what you like.
  5. Hi, I dated someone who was exactly like me. At first it was really fun, but 2 years into the relationship I got really bored =) I guess it goes both ways.. I realized we were most suited as friends... relationships are fun when one can complement (sp?) the other.... We never had one single disagrement or fight because we always had the same perspective.. it really is freaky, trust me!
  6. Most likely My head usually thinks up of the worst case scenario!
  7. I have a friend who got a pearl from her fiance. Very nice too, but I heard they can chip (not sure if it's true or not) =)
  8. Only do it if you know you won't get feelings back from him. There is tons of people out there who want to be your friend.. you don't need to mess up your emotions for that one guy. =)
  9. Hum, it strikes me as very strange that you would want to basically have a pick-up line based on her height? I'll agree that you are tall is a fact. If you really do want a pick-up line, I would skip the whole height thing.. she probably got teased for it for ages while young.. and probably has accepted it now but you know... It's not really a compliment in the first place.
  10. Hum, as much as there is no 'right-time'... you give me the impression that you are hurt more by the fact that he doesn't seem to share interest in meeting your parents and you meetings his. If that's how you feel, I don't blame you at all, I would be even personally insulted if my significant other didn't insist on me meeting his family after a full one year relationship. I haven't really had this problem before only because my previous boyfriends were all living at home. Usually very early on, within the first month I would meet his parents because we would go to his house and then to mine etc.. As for the boyfriend I am seeing now, we had an on-off relationship for more than a year and weren't serious until very recently (not living at home). I had met his parents before but we never had Christmas together, nor Thanksgiving etc... but I knew the relationship wasn't serious enough for me to come to those hallmark holidays. (You might fall in the same boat as me seeing that it is a LDR and you have only seen eachother 10 times) Do you have any other commitment problems in your relationship? or see him pull away from you in general? If so, there might be more to it than meets the eyes. If he is a good boyfriend overall, maybe he is ashamed of his family or other fun - weird factors.
  11. Wow! This is a tough one. Especially that he is not the father of the child. There is not much you can do, except be patient and wait. Try to be understanding of what he is going through and the sacrifices he would have to make to adapt to the new lifestyle. (By the sound of your post, I think you are already quite understanding! Good job) I think it is very smart of him to think about this right now versus later. Once the child does come to this world, they will probably both be attached. He doesn't hold any legal rights/requirements to him and could disapear from under your nose one day. It would be harsh and cruel for your child to be dettached from his father figure. Would you be ready to read books with him on the subject or try counseling? Maybe that would help him feel more ready to make a decision on a role which he hasn't played before/has no clue how it's done. I get the impression that he does not feel right having sex with a pregnant woman, especially not his. I know that a lot of my SO's told me they would be scared of having sex with me if I was pregnant.. and wouldn't feel right to 'cum' on a child's head. I don't think that it means he loves you any less.
  12. I think that a neutral-stage name works best. I've also noticed that the couples that do not introduce the other one under a label but simply by their name are usually the ones who have the strongest relationships. I often find the ones who are bragging/trying to prove often have deeper commitment problems. ex: People on facebook saying.. "you are mine for the whole weekend, no one else gets to see you. I'm going to massage you and buy you this and that.. I love you so much" But that's just my opinion
  13. I was thinking the exact same thing, but it's good to be able to dream out loud with your partner, if that is mostly what you were trying to describe. I used to plan more my future when I was younger, until I realized it never turns out how you want it to be. My relationship is a completely upside down anyways... my 25 year old boyfriend does want kids in the future (in a general sense). Which seems like a reasonable thought... I had seen a psychic last summer and when I told my mom that the pyschic said I would stay with him.. (we had an on-off relationship for more than a year), she freaked out and told me I couldn't have kids with him because his bone structure was too small.. I surely didn't plan that one out! This one aint going anywhere near engagment anytime soon though
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