timlondon

Seems to me that the guilt is entirely externally imposed by religion - sex and sexual attraction are apparently matters to be deeply ashamed of. Social control masquerading as religion...

If God hadn't wanted you to masturbate he wouldn't have given you hands

Firstly well done for sticking with the exercise - 4 months without seeing much change must be annoying! Secondly, you're absolutely right that you're going to need to change your diet. If you're doing 2 miles a day that's only burning about an extra 200 calories over what you would normally expend, which really isn't that much overall (same as a couple of slices of bread a day). I find having a more substantial breakfast is really good as it keeps me full until lunchtime - porridge is good, and basically free (good because I'm an impoverished student). Also cutting out bread and potatoes is a really good way to go as they're really calorific, so eat some other veg instead. You would really benefit from avoiding the chips too. Oh, and I would get off the treadmill and get outside. I run way faster and further out in the "real world" and it's much less boring than staring at a wall Make sure you gradually increase the pace as you get fitter. Best of luck!

I guess it's pretty soon after your breakup to be going on dates... beware the rebound! The guy who asked you out was just annoyed at being turned down... but it would probably be better not to explain why you don't want to go for a drink next time you're asked. If you're asked to go on a specific time just say you're busy, if it's a "would you like to go for a drink some time?" then just a cryptic "maybe" will do, and keeps your options open too... haha

If they are talking about mass cloning of the animals, one negative effect would be to reduce the genetic variation within herds - effectively making the (e.g. cow) population more susceptible to disease. However, it seems more likely that prize bulls etc would be cloned so that they could produce more offspring, and also effectively reproduce indefinitely. Also, while I'm not intrinsically averse to genetic modification of crops and livestock, I can't help but think that the result would not be higher quality meat and veg, but higher output and increased profits for the producers. There really is no comparison between rubbish supermarket meat and the fantastic stuff you get from a proper butcher, where they know what breed the cow is and which farm it's from. The issue is that customers currently value price over quality - personally I'd much rather eat less but tastier meat. I'm not sure where I stand on the labelling. If it's just as I've suggested above where a bull or something has been cloned, I don't think it's necessary, but if it's a recombinant animal I think it should be stated.

Maybe you should start talking to other guys..? I found that discovering that there were loads of fantastic people out there to meet was an amazing step towards recovery after my breakup. I'm not saying you should go out "on the pull", but just enjoying some male company might do the trick (if you're not already)

Is this possible?? I'm not sure I would have made it if I hadn't been able to go out on the town with my friends...

One idea - you could drink bottles of beer instead of pints... so 330 ml instead of 568 Though you clearly don't want to, so I think you shouldn't let yourself be pressurised by the others' expectations and stick to coke, or what I drink when i'm driving - pints of grapefruit & soda Good luck!

I'm slightly hesitatant to post this cos it's a bit embarrassing... oh what the hell I think your bf is right to seriously consider surgery but maybe not circumcision. I had a similar problem with what I thought was a tight foreskin as it was quite difficult to retract and slightly painful when it did. One time during sex I suddenly felt a snapping sensation and the next thing I knew absolutely everything was covered in blood - particularly tricky as we were on the sofa at my gf's parents' house at the time! Anyway I think what happened was that I tore the frenulum, the bit that connects the glans to the foreskin. Actually it wasn't particularly painful, and I ended up not bothering to see a doc about it (typical bloke). It has healed well and doesn't look abnormal - well, I haven't done a side-by-side comparison, but it looks normal to me IYSWIM. So it wasn't a terrible thing to happen but I would prefer not to have gone through it. Anyway here's an article about it and frenuloplasty, the procedure to correct it: link removed

Alcohol is definitely the thing that causes me to sleepwalk - but only if I've had quite a lot. Anyway here's a funny sleepwalking story... I've been on a few sailing holidays on the southern mediterranean coast of Turkey, which were absolutely fantastic. There was a group of five families that all used to go together, one of which was my ex-girlfriend's family, and all the kids were the same age (generally early 20s), and all the kids also took friends. As you can imagine, sailing in a flotilla of 5 boats means it's always a race, which is pretty fun, and then in the evenings a group of 30 people is pretty good to go out with. So on one night we were in Gocek, which is a small but lively town, and went out for dinner then a considerable amount of drinks. One of the group managed to get into an argument with a bartender in one of the places we visited, but we moved on, went to a few more bars, and finally rolled back to the boats somewhat the worse for wear and went to bed. And then I woke up. Back in the centre of town, and to my surprise wearing only my underpants - in the bar we had been ejected from a few hours previously. I was surrounded by a group of angry men who started to shout at me, and though my Turkish is limited I got the distinct impression that they weren't particularly pleased to see me. I legged it as fast as could. In retrospect it's quite a comedy situation being pursued in your pants by a hollering group of locals, but at the time I was seriously running for my life, which I guess explains how I managed to outrun them barefoot. When I got to the marina gate - probably about a mile away - I banged on it until the guard came and opened it and let me in, slamming it behind me so the pursuing mob couldn't get through. It looked briefly like they would talk him round to open it and let them in, but luckily he wouldn't... so I went back to bed thinking all was OK. However, my girlfriend woke me up in some distress a few hours later, and peering through my hangover I could see that there was a considerable amount of blood on the bedding in our cabin, which we eventually traced to my big toe which appeared to have been stubbed with some considerable force. I had also clearly been for a bit of a wander around the boat when i got back, as there were bloody footprints all over the deck as well. Pretty grim!

Some recent research indicates a reduction in female-male HIV transmission rates of 60% in circumcised men: "A randomized controlled trial (RCT) has shown that male circumcision (MC) reduces sexual transmission of HIV from women to men by 60% (32%−76%; 95% CI) offering an intervention of proven efficacy for reducing the sexual spread of HIV" link removed Obviously the main thing is to get the safe sex message out, but this can't hurt. Well, maybe it can, but you get my drift...

I'm pleased for you that you find it obvious - a lot of people don't. This is the OP's problem, he's faced with a social situation that he can't respond appropriately to, and is clearly drawing the wrong conclusions from what is going on. If he can learn what he's doing wrong I think it's appropriate that he should. Hmmm. maybe I'm being a bit thick - are you annoyed that it's info on "how to attract girls" rather than "how to attract people"? Your previous post suggested you were generally opposed to advice on changing behaviour generally. Apologies if I have misconstrued. I'm sure it will work equaly well if applied to attracting men.

I was sceptical of this so had a look on medline, and it seems you're right. Must say I'm surprised though! link removed etc

Does cider mean the same thing in the US as in the UK? Cider here is a generally delicious but mindwarping alcoholic drink, certainly to be avoided if you have anything important to do the next day That seems to be correct link removed Spot on

You're missing the point somewhat. Many men never learn how to behave in a way that's attractive to women when they're growing up, which leaves us at a huge disadvantage when trying to find a girlfriend. The fact is that behaviour forms a huge part of attraction for women in the early stages, IMO much more so than simple looks - and your behaviour is something that you can change relatively easily. Learning how to change this is neither unethical nor disrespectful. In any case, just waiting for the right person to "present" themself to you may well mean a long wait...