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  1. well, i got over my fear and got a test today, i took one and it came out NEGATIVE!!! of course i'm not jumping to conclusions, im going to take another test in a week or so if i still haven't gotten my period, i have another one, but for now i am very relieved. this was definitely a wakeup call for me though, no more stupid mistakes and no more believing guys rediculous stories! thanks for all your help on here, and i will keep you updated, if this thread is still alive. heh.
  2. yeah, same with me, i've always kissed on a first date, and the first time i didn't i wondered if something went wrong. it's sort of a normal thing to me, at the end of the date, or in the middle, if it's going really well, but i never plan on it or decide to do it, i'd say just let whatever happens happen and don't do anything you aren't comfortable with.
  3. well i personally find it to be a compliment, and it does turn me on more. alot of the time the guy i am kissing will get embarrassed about it, i don't see why he is embarrassed, it is a natural thing and most girls find it a turn on or a compliment. however i can understand for people who are new to making out and such, it may be a bit awkward, especially when a girl doesn't know that guys usually do get boners from making out. for the people who asked how you can tell, usually when you are making out you are close to the guy your body is against his, you might feel it with your leg or something.
  4. hmm this is a good topic... i must say i am shocked, but my truly best kiss occurred not while in love, not in a moment of passion, hell, not even with a guy i knew. it was simply a meaningless kiss between two perfect strangers on a night i can barely even remember. i was 15, and stoned to all hell. i was hanging out with a big group of people sitting outside, just chatting. i was making useless chatter with some guy i had just met, we flirted a bit and i was sitting next to him.. there were tons of other people there, and im usually really shy when im arond a bunch of people, and would never normally just kiss someone.. but this was different.. it was like we were the only two peole there.. all i could here was his voice.. his eyes put me in a trance.. at one point he asked me if i smoked, i told him i was stoned at the moment, to which he replied, look at me.. i looked into his eyes.. and he looked into mine.. he said, i could probably kiss you right now and smiled. i just stared into his eyes, as if i was being sucked in. i smiled, then it just happened, like to oppositely charged magnets, our lips locked and i was engaged in the mosty amazing kiss i have ever felt in my life. i dont even know what it was... perfect technique? maybe, instant connection? maybe, just young and high? maybe. but whatever it was, it sent my whole body for a loop, i was tingley all over and an amazing rush just took me over. it was absolutely undescribeable. it only lasted a few seconds, but it felt like a lifetime.. and then it was over, i was back to earth with a crash with a happy sort of nostalgia and a lingering tingle all over. the rest of the night is sort of a blur, the kiss was like a great neon sign over a dull lifeless city. nothing more happened with us, but i saw him a few times after that, maybe i just imagined it, but every time since then that we had locked gazes, i just felt that tingle all over, as if it had just happened again.. i guess i got a bit carried away with that! oh well, it is definitely not the typical love-of-your-life best kiss story.. but i will never forget it.
  5. heh.. thanks for the help guys.. not what i wanted to hear, but i guess it is what i needed. btw i am 17 i know i am in no way fit to be a parent and i guess i should have thought about that a bit more before i even had sex with the guy.. i know, ive made about a million mistakes, i dont even know where to begin.. i really do need to start acting like an adult.. i guess its just that you dont really understand that until something like this happens.. wish i had. i guess i will have to get the money and get a pregnancy test and get over my fear, because your right.. it is better than not knowing.. and also btw i guess i did definitely miscalculate the 6 weeks thing, i dont know where i got that one.. oops. thanks for alll the help.. it was hard to read some of it but i know all in all you guys are right, i need to get a test..
  6. well, if you ask me it seems like its a typical prbem, just exadurated in your case.. have you been going out for longer then 6 months? if so this is slightly less likely the case.. but if not it just seems like a classic problem, you are head over heals, and this girl is your eveything, and she loves you too, but the problem is she has other important things in her life.. and that makes you sad because you wish you were her everything.. if this is the case, my best advice would be to find some other hobbies, afriends to hang with, etc. the you can both enjoy separate lives.
  7. well i can definitely relate, since i have a bad habit of beign a snoop ocasionally, and i know those things are hard to see when you come accross them.. seems like a difficult situation you are in here.. what i am thinking is that as you said, "if I know he'd never do anything to hurt me, then... you know, why bother with it?" that is true, but you did bother with it.. meaning deep down you dont "know" he'd never do that. you are curious that is all, many of us are guilty of the same. the truth is, something out of the ordinary may possibly happening.. i wouldnt jump to conclusions or anything but the fact that he was defensive about it and tried to hide it in the first place, makes me think, if it isnt bad, why would he hide it.. i know thats hard to see, especially after 7 years. but you cant just ignore it, it was bothering you enough to go through the stuff, so it is obviously a big deal.. i might reccomend trying to talk to the girl frienndly, just ask her like what she thinks of "___" (ur bf) and not mention that u 2 are going out.. just see what she has to say and see if there really is anything to wory about.. just a suggestion. either way, good luck.
  8. the main points are in bold, if you dont feel like reading the whole thing well, so about a month ago i did a very stupid thing and had sex with my now ex bf that i thought really cared... turns out he was just using me. but thats a different story. the issue at hand it that i havent had my period in quite a while.. i feel like i should have gotten it by now. (i dont keep track of them) as far as i know i dont have a very regular schedule. anyway, it happened on i believe june 27th. that is the only time i have had sexual relations with anyone for quite a few months. at the time, i trusted the guy completely, but since it appears that he used me, i dont know how honest he really was. he told me that because of an incident in his childhood he was rendered unable to have children. and that he is allergic to laytex. so we didnt use a condom or anything. he seemed like he was telling the truth to me. really, but you just never know. anyway now i feel i am over due for a period.. i havent talked to this guy since, and i would sort of like to keep it that way.. but im sort of worried. if i concived on that day, i would be 6 weeks pregnant today. and i dont believe i have any symtoms...? one day i can remember having the feeling of having to pee often, but that only lasted a day and i have gotten that before.. that was about a week ago. hasnt happened since one day i remember feeling generally dizzy and "woozy" all day, but not really nausious. but i hadnt drank anything other than soda in a few days and i was in a VERY irregular sleep schedule. today i had some dizzyness, but i think that has more to do with a hangover then anything.. another problem: gettting a pregnancy test.. is sort of out of the question first of all i dont have the money to buy a home test.. (and even if i did i really dont think i could bear the humiliated feeling..im a very nervous person) the doctor isnt an option either. because i'd rather not do anything that drastic unless im sure that im not just over reacting. i really cant talk to anyone about this.. i just cant.. im really scared.. it is all i can think about.. and i really need somehelp..just maybe someone to talk to, or some encouraging advice?? i dont know what to think about this. and i know some of you will probably say just go to the doctor or just go get a test.. but i have already seriously considered this.. and you telling me it will not really help any. anything else would help LIKE CRAZY though. so thank you very much in advance. another thing.. is there any place i could go that like.. gives tests to people anonymously? witout needing any personal info? sorry about the long post... i tried to keep it as short as possible..
  9. don't sweat it too much, a phobia is pretty natural, if thats what it is, and in time you can work through those things. i know what you mean though, they can be a real pain
  10. well i think both means he cares but in 2 different ways. if he asks alot about you, then he probably finds you attractive and might be interested in getting to know you better, but if he tells you alot about himself its more likely that he genuinely trusts you as a friend (this is advice from a girl though)
  11. if you ask me you need to dump that bf of yours! it is clear from what you've said that all he cares about is sex and you are looking for more than that. you should not feel bad for not "pleasing him" you arent his slave, and if he cared about you, then he wouldnt need to be satisfied 3 times a day to be happy with you. sounds to me like if what you've said is true, you deserve much better!
  12. we have only been togeather for like 2 weeks, but i know him pretty well despite that. that is a very good point i guess i didnt look at it that way, i'll keep that in mind thanks for the help, and of course no matter what happens ill keep it safe
  13. well i cant believe I'm actually posting this, but here goes: well first off im new to this forum so.. hi! anyway heres my situation. i haven't been going out with my current bf for a very long time, but i feel like we have a really strong connection and i really like him, the thing is he is ready to have sex, and i am too, but one of my friends and her boyfriend started having sex too early in their relationship and now thats all they do. i really want to but i am afraid that the same thing will happen to me.. i really like him and i want our relationship to be special, not just sexual. some of my friends have been able to do this, too but i am just afraid that i could ruin it. do any guys out there have any opinions on this? (i want girls opinons too though.) thank you, any help is appreciated.
  14. well, usually if there is any question of an abusive relationship in your mind, then it probably is abusive. i think the best thing to do is to talk to your spouse about how you are feeling abused, and if they respond negatively, by geting angry at the accusation or brushing it off as stupid, then it is not a good relationship. if this person really cares about you, they ask why you are feeling this way. if that is what happens, then you may have just let your mind get the best of you. but i highly recommend talking to them since you may have subconsciously gotten yourself into an abusive relationship because of deep rooted skeletons still in the closet.
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