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Sorry, just wondering what question you were answering. At 20 minutes, you're saying it's hard for you?

That's a good point too. There is that, but I suppose it depends a lot on the dynamics of the sexual relationship.

That's hardcore man. Must be some sore parts afterwards at that party. All I can say is bottle that stuff man; make a fortune.

I don't think so. I don't think men like this would classify themselves as having PE, or acknowledge that they have a problem with it if this were the case. I think not being into it can mean many things, but not something that causes premature ejaculation... a condition, not an attitude. Such as...? Not everyone is David Blaine I suppose. Lots of so called 'tricks' exist online, and they've proven worthless. How many tricks can there be? It's been 10 years worth of a problem for me. I too can stop right before I go, but that doesn't matter when you start & stop to the point it's frustrating for both people Just remember there are biological factors at work in a great number of individuals with this problem. It's imperative that people stop perpetuating ignorance by just assuming it's all psychological (not a stab at you JadedStar). People with this issue will come on the boards and think their issue is all mental and will feel defeated thinking... "why doesn't thinking about baseball statistics slow me down like everyone else." Ridiculous.

What are you talking about?

When PE happens is different for everyone. For me, I can control it... but it's a lot of stop & start during sex. Not cool. For others, it may be before their pants are unzipped...

Cured.

So joining a gym and finding a personal trainer/nutritionist would be your suggestion? Sorry man, doesn't sound grounded in my reality. As far as I know I'm in good shape. For years I've played soccer and have been a long-distance runner. Eaten probably as well as anybody else. I know a lot of people who eat crap 24/7 and smoke but can last just fine. Breathing, muscle control, the start/stop technique, anxiety/stress reduction are all stock answers from any one of a million websites on PE out there. They simply cannot be applied to every case of premature ejaculation. In reading hundreds of posts, articles and other stories over the years, I've really never heard of anyone saying that "once my breathing was controlled, my PE was gone." Same with stress, do you really believe that someone struggling with PE their entire life has been stressed out and riddled with anxiety through every sexual encounter - and also through solo-masturbation? Perhaps there are some benefits to those things for some people, but to just throw a blanket statement out there for the ladies is a bit off-centered. I noticed you said these things have helped you for years? Did you overcome PE, or are you saying they just helped you in general?

And for the guys who orgasm too soon - try distracting your mind. But don't get too frustrated when this does nothing for you.

A bit dated, but the source is accurate. link removed

It's amazing to me... website after website with so called tips for premature ejaculation (and I'm not referring to eNotAlone - er, alone). But I've never read one post anywhere saying that these solutions have solved their problems. So I wonder, why do so many people create websites on PE of which they know nothing about. It's easy to say follow the Start & Stop technique and your problems will be solved. To me though it puts a false face on the problem and it makes the issue seem less serious than it really is. If you do a search on Google for PE, you will find site after site of creams, pills, clever marketing adverts is the guise of real discussion about the topic... and most of all, tips for PE... start/stop, kegels, etc... I'm just curious why all of this hardcore propaganda is made when it doesn't really work for people??? Strange days...

Id say men have a slight advantage, they are typically the approacher. For real? I think it's all relative. Not being the proverbial ladies man, I would say it's much easier for a woman to get a date. But I can see how some dude who gets women without needing to look in their direction would say it's a guys advantage. Just because we approach, doesn't mean anything if you ask me... I don't know about any other guy but I've asked a lot more girls out than have gotten dates so I'm not sure what world everyone else is living in. Lots of factors at play though, maybe I'm not doing/saying the right stuff. I dunno.

My last tryst was with a man who you'd think was competing in a sexual triathalon. LOL! Not only could he endure, the damned thing wouldn't go down! That sounds normal...llello! To the ones mentioning SSRI's... which ones?

hi i think u r daiting the wrong guys... try to find some new friend / friends I agree with this comment for the original poster... who would make a very bad mate for someone with this problem. I get the sense that you probably make the guy feel smaller or less like a man then have the capacity to understand that it's a condition he probably doesn't want to have. So, find someone who can run your marathon. Nothing wrong with that. But at the very least, if you can recognize the difficulty these 'minute-men' are facing, these are people just the same.

The problem here is entirely in your head. You are not comfortable being you, focusing on what you think you lack and what you think every woman out there wants. You have no reason to be this way and changing this is entirely within your control. You have a lot more going for you than you think I can see it very clearly and so will a woman you meet. Could this statement be more on point? I ask you.