Considerate Empath
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Just wrote this to vent in a better way than punching the wall. Not sure it even qualifies as poetry, but here it is anyway: You expect perfection You expect servitute You expect things to suddenly change You see the best result in your mind You blame everyone but yourself when it's not achieved You think you deserve the best because you are a parent You are naive You shout out your demands and empty threats You believe repeating earlier failiures will make a success You work many hours a day which I thank you for You have no right to take out your anger out on others because of it You gave me life, I never asked for it You can't expect gratitude from someone who no longer wants it //C.E.
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Why I probably won't live very long
Considerate Empath replied to CynicalGuitarist's topic in Health: Body, Mind and Spirit
I hear you man, I'm pretty much the same exept for the diet part. I'm more comfortable alone though, and I think TOO much which is a real pain in the * * * most of the time but useful sometimes when I'm depressed though. Simple advice: Do you like movies/series/cartoons/anime or whatever? If you do - watch something filled with jokes or cliché's or anything that teaches you something. If it's jokes - at least you'll laugh, and as laughter is the 'language of the soul' you'll be able to keep up for at least another week. If it's cliché's in a love story or something - maybe you'll learn a few tricks in how to get some self-esteem and stuff. If not, then it might be fun just to watch other people live out their life and stop thinking about anything but them for a while to relax - I know I do. I prefer anime though. As I said, I think too much and if an actor screws up too much, it'll be in my head all day. In anime, the characters ain't real but at least it's closer to calling that real life no matter how unreal it is, than with real characters. I may be weird but that's what I think //C.E. -
I know absolutely nothing about you and isn't really that good at reading dreams - so maybe you should listen to blueangel. I'll give it a try though anyways... I'd say that you have a great subconscious urge for something big to happened in your life. A mayor twist/change in your life which will give it a little more excitement than to what you're experiencing now. That urge mixed with your interest of the 'weird stuff' created this dream. Also - the first dream (before you woke up in a different dream), was just a dream in a dream which you knew wasn't real, and thus simply creating what you wanted to see for yourself - an exciting life in which no one will ever leave you and you have good friends and that 'special someone'. Was I close, or way off? Was my first try so //C.E.
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Hell no. I mean - I have my good sides but as I don't use em (and thus - I can't be defined as a "good person" really...), and as my day is pretty much like this: 8h sleep, 8h school/bus or bike to school, 6h computer-time, and the rest for eating/tv/occasional walks outside. I'm only with my 'friends' at school. I'm pretty much a prisoner of my own repeating days actually. If I would date a girl that was like me - it would be if I would've gotten a good first impression probably, taking interest in her and noticing her good sides, and both of us changing out daily habits to be with eachother more or something... This would be unlikely close to impossible for me though unless it was in school in which there are like 10 girls total (out of 500). //C.E.
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Well, skepticism does seem to be the a new (or old, depending on how you look at it) theme of this time... And the only way to fight skepticism for the lazy man is with itself - and thus it grows as lazyness is indeed popular these days! //C.E.
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She misses you yet refuses to admit it, and keeps bragging about her new boyfriend and 'taking digs' at you to escape the inevitable reality she will soon have to face when realizing that she still has feelings for you. I'm not saying that you should get back together with her, not saying that you shouldn't - just answering your question //C.E.
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How to maintain ideal weight consistently?
Considerate Empath replied to skyjuice's topic in Health: Body, Mind and Spirit
Just don't try and see it as: "My ideal weight is 48.3567 kg". See it more like: "I'd like to be somewhere between 48 kg and 53 kg". That + exercise. //C.E. -
Am I , desintegrating perhaps?
Considerate Empath replied to Baby Carrot's topic in Health: Body, Mind and Spirit
I've had pretty much the same problem. Only I'm a guy, 6'3 and 165 pounds, and I lost 30-35 pounds in 11-12 months. I was really depressed back then and one of my therapists said that weight gain/loss is often connected to depression. I'm actually not sure if I'm better or worse at the depression part of it, but at least I have an average healthy body now that I've kept my weight at 160-170 pounds for about a year now, so you do the same thing and try your best to keep that weight now! //C.E. -
Rudeness (same with beauty) is seen differently through different eyes. A hardworking father of five just returning home from his night shift, not noticing an old lady having trouble crossing the street and thus not helping her - can be considered rude by some - whatever excuse he might have. My point being just that anyone could be seen as rude by anyone at anytime simply because they don't see/condone to the reason as to why he/she isn't that friendly. Also depends on the mood of the observer/the one being observed. It's also that (the same with "innocent until proven guilty" I'd say) that people is constantly set on the easy way until they find the right way, and that also depends on the person and reasons as to why/why not one goes over to the right way or not, how hard it is, how much it's worth it or not etc. People being set on "no" until they find the easiest way to say "yes". People just simply being lazy. To quote Homer Simpson - "If you're gonna be nice, you have to be nice all the time! But if you're bad, you don't have to do squat!" Sorry if it didn't make alot of sense - it is when I'm stuggling to be brief that I become unintelligible, so~ (quote from Horace I think...) //C.E.
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If you ask me, starting a relationship with someone you don't trust from the beginning is a very bad idea, as it will most likely end up with one or both of you getting hurt down the road. She knew that going back to you (which I don't get the reason as to why you accepted) would mean earning back your trust. Doing so by clearly having the ex-boyfriend on her mind, writing down "Mrs. Ex-boyfriend" on a piece of paper isn't the best idea you could clearly say. Either she's dumb, evil, a liar, a cheater, about to break up with you, or a combination of some/all. I don't know all her good sides though and if those could possibly even this out, so it's really up to you to decide. I fully agree with you breaking up with her, however I also think that you shouldn't do so solely based on that piece of paper, and that you definitely shouldn't say something along the lines of: "You wrote Mrs. Jerk on a paper. I'm leaving you. Bye bye!". Even though you may not owe her or she might not deserve one, you should give her a good and clear reason as to why you are breaking up with her (that is - if that is what you will decide). Good luck! //C.E.
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Have you ever said those three words out loud to eachother: "I Love You"? If not, then that might be what you need, if you have then maybe you just need to hear it more often/him saying it to you in bed/him taking the initiative more often. Something like that, maybe. Best of luck! //C.E.
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I am so heartbroken and need input
Considerate Empath replied to Prober's topic in Breaking Up Advice
Question: You said you asked for the ring back 5 times. This would also mean that she got the ring back 4 times (not counting the first time she got it). How did she get it/earn it back, and why did you ask for the ring back all those times? Also - I understand that she has alot of issues, but does that make her any less deserving of love than the next? Does the weaker the person mean the weaker the partner? Is love only about finding a knight in shining armor, and not about finding your knight in shining armor? Please! You sound like someone's mom. Who knows? Maybe I just feel bad for her for being labeled as 'unworthy' for being abused and other stuff out of her control, and for her best relationship being with a man who not only gave, but also asked for the ring back 5 times in 5 years. Just try and picture this from her perspective. Once again though - no offense Prober. I just happened to pity her more than I pity you, and if you think that's a pity then either pity me or prove me wrong. //C.E. -
I am so heartbroken and need input
Considerate Empath replied to Prober's topic in Breaking Up Advice
Unfortunately I don't think that there's much left for you to do except moving on. Work on yourself for yourself, and not for her no matter how much you want to. Just face it - if she broke up with you 6 months ago, the odds are very much against you for starting over with her. More so if you haven't seen and/or talked to her in that time. I also advice you to go talk to someone about this, not just to write your problems/worries down on this forum, as I (no offense or ill intentions to you whatsoever) see you as the bad guy in many ways here, and if you don't talk it over with someone and keep bottling it up or something chances are you'll get even more depressed than you already are and might do something you'll regret. //C.E. -
Try and not fall for guys just for saying that they love you. Love shouldn't be like that. Especially don't fall for guys saying that they love you if they're just saying it to get in your pants. If they do then they clearly don't love you, and is not worthy of you. My advice: next time someone asks you out or whatever - decline! Whoever it is, decline! Your next move should be asking someone out yourself. //C.E.
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Well lucky me to have a greater army with stamina (I have loads of stamina, yay!) for more than just one battle at 17 then, huh old man? Just kidding //C.E.
