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  1. I made it a rule of not dating someone I wouldn't marry, if the relationship got to the point where I would say "hmm, might not want to marry this one" I would end it. Because of that I paid attention to how people seemed to handle the money they had, it wasn't important how much they had but how responsible they were with it.
  2. therre isn't a certain number of dates to wait before being intimate imo, but you should figure out what you want out of a relationship, what your partner wants, what sex means to you, what it means to them, and what you will do if things don't go swell before you throw sex into the mix.
  3. I met hubby at our dates for at least 5 dates, told him I felt more comfortable having my own car, in case I had an emergency and had to leave or if I got sick or something. He seemed to understand.
  4. did something recently happen at school, is she having trouble with her friends? do you think she might be depressed? I went through a stage in highschool where I didn't want to do any of my work, and was just mad at the world and it was because I felt bad about myself, I didn't have any friends, people were making fun of me, and I just wanted to give up at life. I don't know how helpful any of that info is, but you might want to talk to her about her friends and school in general.
  5. I would talk to him about it, see what he really says, not in passing, a real conversation. That being said. I don't wear my wedding ring either, it was too small for a while, then it hurt for a while, then I lost it, then I found it, then I got a job where I couldn't wear it....then I lost it in a move, then I found it. Really it's more hassle than it's worth, I know I am married, it's not like magic jewelry or anything.
  6. someone bought me the whole what to expect series when they found out I was pregnant, it was great what to expect when you are expecting what to expect the first year what to expect the toddler years great! also, if I might recomend "The Girlfriend's Guide to pregnancy" it's helpful and funny and awesome and great!
  7. I have cut ties with the rest of the family and she still talks to them which is already putting me in awkward situations, but now she calls me tonight and explains that her gambling has gotten her into a ton of financial trouble and she wants me to bail her out. I am seriously tired of dealing with her, I know that sounds bad, but I have my own family to worry about (husband and kids) and I am not exactly in the most emotionally stable place to do much more than what I am anyway. I know she is my mom, but I have to think about my kids, they need a mom who isn't burnt out and stressed and broke and tired. what do you guys think? also, I am NOT going to bail her out and I don't know what to say to make that clear to her. help?
  8. I didn't think it would work for me, but I was debit card addicted, it's so easy with a debit card to let $3 here and $7 there add up to "why am I broke all the time?!" haha.
  9. I sat down and figured out a budget, then put my "spending money" into separate envelopes, $20 for morning soda in an envelope marked Soda, $50 for lunches out marked Lunches out, etc. it's kept me mostly on budget, if I run a few bucks over on my lunches out, then I know that I am physically taking money from somewhere else, so it keeps me mentally in tune with what spending more money than I budgeted means.
  10. I have fallen into a rut and hubby is in a funk, and I was wondering how do you guys initiate? maybe you have some fun ideas?
  11. When dealing with another issue with my children it was so hard for me because I felt like it was easier on both of us for me to give up, but I had to remind myself that I wasn't being mean, I was being loving. Think of something loving you can do to replace the holding and rocking, maybe you can read a story together before bed, or say prayers together, or something, that way he gets some special time, but it's not as much effort from you.
  12. she told my husband today that I was cheating on him grr! he didn't believe her, but thought he should let me know that she was telling people that, and that she had this elaborate story about my "affair", I am somewhat of a public figure and I have to go through and figure out how to fix this now, I dropped her, cut ties, told her she isn't welcome around me until she can be honest and trustworthy..I wonder what the aftermath from that will be.
  13. I did this with my kids too, the first night it took like 3 hours to get them to sleep, the next night about 1 hour, and after that nothing, they didn't get up, they fell asleep within 15 minutes and slept well. The key is sticking to it, and not saying anything after the 2nd trip back to bed, you can't say ANYTHING you just take them back to bed, make them walk, lay them down, cover them up and smile, then walk out. You can't give up, it doesn't work if you aren't consistent with it.
  14. I am fine with kissing after recieving, but my husband is not fine kissing after he "finishes" but I don't mind because after he "finished" I am too tired and sore to kiss much anyway.... not that we get to that point much, oral is like a foreplay activity for us most of the time.
  15. I have a friend who lies about everything, little things, big things, everything, I call her out on it and she says she can't stop, that she doesn't even mean to lie but that it just comes out that way. What can I do to help her stop? How can I trust anything she says? Her lies get me into trouble with other friends, she started to make things up about me, I don't know what to do.
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