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uhm Im gay and my dad did the same thing your dad did. He didnt hug me or anything but he did for my sister. u know didnt do any of that stuff and he also wasnt home all the time because he was at work which was good and bad because he was never there when we had those arguments because he cant deal with them. ^^ i completely disagree i do believe the enivironment you were in when you were younger have effects on sexual orientation but thats just me. But my story turns tho. the older i got the more i realized i was gay and like when i was younger i always denied it to myself until my freshmen year in high school. And ur sexual orientation isnt gunna mess up your goals. Explore new options. and you act like homosexuals now were happy when they first realize that they might be gay. if i remember right i was upset!

i forgot this part, but they would have to have a good personality and have a future ahead of them, you know they couldnt be slackin off. nice, kind actually cares and not there for like sex cause that wont fly haha.

^agree dont rush into things. Just be his friend. Just you know say "hi" or "wats up." (because u dont know if he gay/bi) I mean whats the worst that could happen. I mean he's lookin at you and im sure he wouldnt mind if you just started asking him a whole bunch of questions. get on the bus and say Hey, my name is..... and go from there and talk bout your jobs, what u do on the weekends etc. Good luck!

uh for me, they have to be masculine in some way, weather it would be like muscles to you know how they talk. They couldnt act girly (i mean i dont mind like a couple of times but it couldnt be the whole time)because if they were i might as well just date a girl, you know. I look more at thugs most of the time (idk why either) athletes, and preppy guys also. But as far as race i dont really care.

this might be a stupid question but since when can you have gay marriages?

thanks for the advice. i think ill just stay away and not hang with him with all his loser friends, because im sure his friends arent helping. but if he wants this friendship he will come talk to me. And ill say sumthin like your not going to put me in this mess. ^ yea i was also thinkin it could be a lie to make a reputation for himself, but idk anymore.

yea your right why be friends with a person who isnt smart and drives around in a stolen car. But what if he really feels bad for doing it? maybe he was pressured to do it? He said this was the worse thing he has ever done and i asked him what were u thinkin and he was like man i wasnt Thinkin. Also what kind of friend would i be if i just dropped him as a friend? Shouldnt i give him another chance?

So anyways i have/had a best friend (white male) who i met this year in school. We clicked and we talked a lot in one of the classess we have. Well anyway i started hangin out with him in september. I went to his house and we hung out with all his friends. Well anyway i realized while i was at his house all his friends were "wannabe gangsters." They all had knives in their pockets. (even at school my friend brought a knife to school and if like a teacher saw that he could have gotten expelled) Their neighboorhood is not the "hood." They were all dressed like gangsters: the do rags, the spinning belt thing? not sure what its called and the fake grillz on their teeth. Well anyway i tried to play along with this whole thing. Even though inside i felt really uncomfortable. Well anyway i told him i felt uncomfortable and he got mad at me and was like "nuthin isnt going to happen and all this other stuff. Dont worry about it." So i just dropped it and just didnt worry about it because i knew my best friend is a nice person and wouldnt do anything bad. So on halloween he invites me to go to a halloween party, which i later found out that it was his girl's party. it was fun even though i barely knew anyone except for him. I did feel a little uncomfortable because i didnt know anyone here except him and i remember some people that i met earlier and i also felt left out because they were doing stuff in rooms not that i wanted to be with them, but i thot it was rude how they all just went in to the rooms to do stuff and i had to watch these 9 year old kids who i didnt even know. But it was ok. So like a week ago he turns 16 and u know im happy for him you know but we didnt do anything for his b-day but that was cool with him, but he told me he probaly wasnt getting his car until like january or the earliest december. So like a couple days afterwards he got a car it was a 2000 sumthin i dont even remember what the kind of car it was. And i was like oh thats so cool, but i also kept thinkin like this kid isnt rich so how did he get a car already and also a couple nights ago he said he wouldnt get it until like january. so anyway i was browsing around on my friends list on myspace. And on his heading thing it says "ill miss u guys, i think i might be going to jail" and i sent him a message because i was concerned and i put like "Your going to jail or r u kidding bout that." and he sends me one back and says "dont tell anyone this but you remember that car i was talkin bout i stole it. i kept if for like a couple days and my mom found out and turned me in and i gave the car back to the owner and they didnt press charges but im in super trouble" When i read this i was shocked! i couldnt believe it, but there were signs tellin me that i should have known he was a bad kid, but i didnt care. He's such a nice kid and friendly and you wouldnt think he would have done it. So the problem is ever since he told me i feel like i cant trust him anymore. i feel like im being a bad friend to him and maybe i should support him, but i dont even kno if i can trust him now. All my other friends are sayin you need to drop him as a friend and i cant seem to do it. i dont know what to do? sry for it being so long.

oh really the more you talk to your friends about it, the more chances it will get to ur parents? well the girl i told she wont do it because i have already warned her if she said anything she would lose me as a friend so. Im not sayin all my friends will kick me to the curb, but im sure the guys will.

i think he means he hates that she keeps sayin i dont want to go out with you b/c of a lame excuse and he's getting tired of it and he doesnt know what to do? so he would rather here I dont like you because your ugly. He wants the truth. Like what layword said theres a lot more out there than this girl. Good luck

uhm whats that suppose to mean? i think i do know that im homosexual for like idk last 3 years. I have already denied it and all of that bad stuff and now this year i think i realized that i am. I understand ill lose my friends and stuff,(i dont want it to happen but i know they wont be real friends in the end) but its going to be worse later down the road if i dont tell them.

So, i came out to my best friend (happens to be a girl) today like a couple of hours ago and she is cool with it. i guess she already thought of it before i said anything. I was all like "im gunna lose you and all my friends of what im about to say" and all this other stuff and i was trying to give her clues but she didnt get it until i said "Society hates me b/c of this" and then she said "r u gay?" and i didnt say anything and then i was like you cant tell anyone and she was like i promise and all this other stuff and i was like yea i think i am gay/bi and now i feel so good. but i still have a lot more issues because i have a girlfriend and now i have to tell her this and then i have a whole bunch of friends i feel like that should know and im so afraid im gunna lose all my friends just because that im gay! This is the only thing i hate about being gay its too hard. all my guy friends wont hang out with me anymore and this is probaly the reason why im doing this. please i would like comments

its alright...maybe you should get this guy alone or sumthin and just start talkin to him. im going through the same thing. I know its hard. Dont be nervous! Just think he wants to talk to me just as much as i want to talk to him. I mean especially if he's lookin at you. you know. Dont think about it too much. I do the same i think about what i should say during class before i talk to him in the passing period and in the end i cant do it. And how do u know he might be going through the same thing that you are? maybe he cant talk to you either?....shoot i need to start takin my own advice lol See my problem is i can get the guy to be friends with me and stuff, but when it comes to asking them to hang out outside of school i cant do it. i only hang out with my friend (now my best friend) who asked me to hang out with him after school and now i hang with him about every weekend unless he's hangin out with his g/f. Sry for spreading my problems with your topic You'll talk to him eventually!

uhm...u cant really base it off of how he looks at you in the hallway if he is gay. You just dont know until he says it. you know. Wait have you came out yet? I have been in the same situation. Seeing a guy in the hallway and dream in class or at home. We've all been in it im sure. But i didnt do anything about it i just dropped it. But this guy is looking at you, mine wasnt (well at least i dont think so) so i just thot that he was straight. So the only advice that i probaly say is just talk to him... I know this is so hard (im going through it too and i cant even talk to my guy friend about hanging out and hes a friend lol) and you dont wanna look stupid in front of the guy. I know I know. hmm.. just be like "hey, i have seen you a lot in the hallway." "Whats your name?" start as being friends first then get in to relationship if he is gay. Good luck!

aww im sry asdf77, hey at least like you said he took it well, then any other ignorant person would. Now you guys can be friends. keep us updated..