Budman

Come back from the grave I bring you to the front!

NO! Anal requires lubrication, The butt does not get wet when she is turned on. Yes she has to be turned on to enjoy it, but lubrication is required!

Ok, First off I feel I need to interject here. First off fantasy's are great but remember if they are done to often they are then needed to have a climax. (heard it in my human sexuality class) However with that warning, start out small in the fantasy's. AKA, if you want to tie him up or be tied up, ask him hey I think it'd be cool for you to tie me up. Once he gets used to that (again not every time other wise he has a good possibility to only be able to have a climax with BDSM (for real its not good). Anyway, that can lead up to more "taboo" things. Just start small. Example: IF my wife and I weren't the pervs that we are I would start off with: Hey, let me hold you down a bit (something like that) or by gently pulling her hair (judging her reaction) Just working your way up to it, will make it seem less taboo. Back in the day I swore that I would not be ok with a woman who thought kinky was doin it with the lights on. My term of Kinky is a lot different. I don't even think syrup, whip cream, and handcuffs is kinky. I won't even doo most kinky lol.

Might I add this statement : "The only time something won't work out is when you don't want it to, and the only time something will work out is if you want it to" Granted, we can never be 100% sure that something won't work out later on, but we can be 100% sure that it won't if we don't try. Aka, Right now the reason it doesn't work out is you. (Which is perfectly fine mind you if you don't want to be with him I'm all for it! (It's your choice not mine, and he's shall we say not my type). I'm just saying too many women won't let the cards fall as they will, they "try to prevent from being hurt" by dealing from the bottom (aka a false deal). Granted noone knows the future, but what does the future hold really? If you can't deal with him now, of course you won't like him later. Duh, also I find it odd the more and more you post about him, the closer you seem to him, also you will defend him much more than yourself (I've noticed lately). You've also put all the blame on yourself, and you didn't pull the trump card (Well he could have chose not to, He's an adult and knew what I was trying to do.) You didn't really pull that out. So I do at least commend you on that, but I feel that it was done because the longer you've been with him. The more you care about him. And I bet you 10 dollars you're getting defensive as reading this. THinking up all the reasons as to why I'm wrong. Why you two would never work out, and how he's really good in bed, and how you date older guys. OR how you're just that scared to be hurt again, and definitely didn't expect a guy like him to be a sex buddy, or how you've potentially never been treated as good as he treats you. How your scared you have the potential to fall for him even though he has faults. How his qualities outweigh the disadvantages for now. How you miss him when he's gone. Ya, you getting confused and sad that just means you are caring for him. (/puts on hat) my work here is done. (PS. I know I could TOTALLY be wrong, but this is my scoop on it)

Personally I will make the claim, everyone who just dates for fun and lets it lead wherever will be 10x more successful then anyone that puts "expectations" or needs to dating. Once I learned to only expect fun I was 10x more successful, and I hate to say it I would date 10x the people. Just because I wouldn't see a relationship in them, that doesn't mean I couldn't have fun with them, and ALSO I was surprised by those people as they turned out to be more compatible then I originally thought. 90% of failed dates in my opinion was created by one person or either person having alterior motives. Dating should not be serious, once it becomes a long term dating thats another topic all together =D. Imo you're just wasting your precious time if you go into every date with the idea for a love romance when you should be enjoying yourself with every date. I'd much rather have 500 dates where I have stories and adventures to tell. (such as breaking into a hot tub on one) instead of having 50 dates where they were dull and boring.

Well, yes your profile is a little dull, but we can fix that spruce it up a bit. When I get a lil more time I'll be able to do more constructive criticism (Aka in about 4 hours I'll be able to do it. Basically try to show yourself through your profile. we'll get it spruced up. Hoah!

Ok, first off, OMG unprotected sex with a sex buddy! *falls over* what are you asking for. I don't care if your on the pill, if he goes and sleeps with someone (or you go and sleep with someone), catches something, you two have sex (mind you keep in mind he's inexperienced and may not know what to look for), you get it too. Casual unprotected sex, man thats a new thing. Also, did you know the pill is not nearly as effective as they would like to proclaim it is. Take antibiotics, see how well it works for ya. Anyway, Do as you wish, as long as he's not hurt and you aren't thats fine. But I should mention that music + beer may be a way to get close to you. What if he's never had a GF before, and thus he doesn't know what to open up about. I'm sorry, I'll have to respond to the post a lil later, I'm still dumbfounded by the unprotected casual sex...

first off, no you did not screw up the other night. =D So don't worry about that. Here's a question for you, as it can change answers Do you really want to be with this girl, or is it a meh? Secondly, did she doing the breaking up (with the bf) or did the bf? Now, here we go, if you want to pursue this in an active approach (which may doom the relationship or save it) I recommend this course of action. "Hey, you know, I really like cuddling/flirting with you, how about we find a compromise, since you are trying to figure out what you want, why don't you give me a little bit more time so you can figure it out more. I mean, right now you know a whole heck of a lot less about me, and can't properly decide." Of course women tend to defy logic soo... and or "Why don't we continue being flirty/cuddly because I really like to do that with you, and hell maybe a few dates thrown in too. Nothing's required of course, just like any thing in life." Why do I say this, because no matter what you're not guarentee'd a happily ever after with her. Just because she doesn't know now doesn't mean she won't know later. Also by staying away from her it gives her less info on knowing you, and you will not be able to compete with a BF of however long ESPECIALLY if she knows very little or hangs out with you very little. Yes, she will miss you, but how much does she know about you to miss. Yes I do realize this is a drastic change from what I said before, this has a caution to it. If you will fall hard for her, and not be able to handle it just stay away, if you know you will be able to handle it, go ahead and stay. Dating is playing with fire, sometimes you get burned, and sometimes you get first degree burns and need grafts...

Actually I say its predetermined because he committed a violent crime. Attempted Assault III is a violent crime. Again because I am limited on what happened etc, I still say he has more potential for it then say a guy who went to jail for theft (in any degree) unless its Armed Robbery which again I will give you there is a *chance* that that person is still non violent, but you can not tell me someone who goes to jail for assault or any violent crime for that matter isn't more likely to be an abusive person. Also, since the ops wearyness to post the charge/circumstances one could state that she her self felt that this is a huge issue. (Granted I understand her issues with it). Granted we do not know the whole story, but I still stick to my guns, if she came on her and said, "He got arrested for attempted assault because an old lady was being attacked and he was compelled to help her" is a much different story then what I assume, "him and some buddies got drunk in a bar, and they started a fight" I can bet you $100 that the jury/court would be much more leanient on the first case then the second.

Well maybe getting the police involved to assist with the move would be a good idea? try going to a woman's refuge for tips on help on how to get her out.

I'm hating to be the "bad" guy here, but I think at this point its done. (depending on how long the "dating" is going on with the new guy. Personally after that I'd apologize and say, sorry but we're just not a good fit.

Interesting way to put it but I agree to an extent. Right now, she doesn't know what she wants. Ok, here's the question for you. Could you consider going down this path and accept the outcome that she may not want to be with you later on? If so, cuddle with her and spend time with her. This will make her feelings grow for you, and it could possibly change later on (she just had heartbreak and it will get better) It's already physical and she's already cuddly/kissing you YOU ARE DEFINITELY not friendzoned but it could be a rebound, it just depends on the girl. Also, you will have to just be ok with her talking/getting messed up with the Bf. Quite honestly I never had the backbone to stay in situations like this, I'd get heartbroken which is why I would personally choose the next choice. If not, Tell her when you decide I'll be around. It's all up to you to make the decision.

No, I do personally believe that people can and do put themselves in harms way for others, what I said was I doubt that was the case in this scenario because of the harshness of the sentencing. Also, I would like to add, I made my *take* on the situation when he was on a good path and then went sour. If he was successful the question I beg is why did he suddenly do a 180?

Do you mind if I ask you a question for reference/added info to the repository. May I ask what age bracket you are in (I'm not asking your age because that is rude, this is rude but more of a indirect rudeness) =D