chuck norris

i think your kind of missunderstanding things here. i dont just want to send her packing, if you read the other posts i put explaining about myself you might understand. as for the culture i also said there is not a huge difference between here and the USA. we speak the same language for starters. i am looking at this from every angle.if i felt the way you have worded it i wouldnt be in here asking for others advice... i would have just sent her home. if she didnt come to see me she was going to venezuela to see her family. and out there she probalby would have been raped murdered mugged held hostage....... all that is in the uk to worry about is bad weather and football hooligans. if you dont know any thing about that country look it up... it aint a safe place right now.. so please read and think before you jump on forum troll train please.

thanks for that, all this was explained to her before she came over to see me.. i admit we was both excited over the fact of her coming to the UK this time. but me been a little older and wiser was aware of the true reality of things and was tried to paint a realistic picture for her. so when she got here there would be less of a shock. when i was in her country i learnt that there is not a huge difference between our to cultures. its just the little things that separate the 2 countries. but i tried to explain to her the reality of me working every day and that the only time i have free to do things with her are the weekends. and the week days are gonna be for her to do things by herself. but i really dont think she sat and thought about the grand scheme of things. the bottom line is im struggling to function on a day to day basis and be happy with this situation. i really like this girl but this current situation is not working. well for me at least it isnt. and im not sure how to address the issue with her with out it sounding like i dont want to carry things on.. put your self in her shoes. no matter how i word it how would you take it when the person you came to see and live with for upto 6 months tells you its not working this way.. no matter how sweet and how much i sugar coat it, its still going to sound bad from her point.

yes yes and yes.. all this im aware of. but you know how some people tend to not listen at first when you try to explain something to them as its not how they invisioned it.. and they tend to think you are bursting their bubble by telling them so. but now they are starting to realise every thing i have said regarding the reality of it all. this is becuase they are getting out there and learning the hard way. the work thing was an option in the long term thing. the original plan was to get here and have fun until she was sure we wanted to spend longer together. its taken her 3 weeks to get the confidence to travel to different towns by herself. when i visited USA on the days i was alone i went off exploring by myself getting lost and having fun. im totaly aware we are all different and tackle things differently.

this is why im finding the subject hard to approach, i always put other people first. i often look at all situations from other peoples perspective. she hasnt found a job yet no, but she is looking but is kind of in a little dream world regarding what she can get. i have tried to talk to her about working here in the UK and how hard it can be to find work but she was to wrapped up in things to take in what i was saying....

thats kinda the deal, crowded is the word. i have been single for the first time in my life these past 4 years or so. and after a nasty break up i have had to re build my life from nothing. so i have lead a rather isoloated personal life. when i spent 5 weeks in america with her it was ok as i was out of my zone and in a whole new socail circle.. back here at my home im still getting my life back together. at present work and family is my social outlet. and to be honest after work i dont feel like doing much else ... as for her getting her own place, i dont think she will be able to afford it. its god dam expensive here in the UK....

this is the problem its approaching the subject with out sounding like i have gone off her.. cause no matter how i bring this up its going to be a tricky situation. i still like her a lot, but been here in my space is not working..

hi all, i posted here some time ago about me going out to meet in person a lady i met online. i updated my post about meeting up in USA with her and having a great time. well things have moved on since then. she live in the USA and i live in the UK. she managed to get a 6month work visa to come over and see me. we were both over the moon about this and have been counting the days till she arrives. she got here 3 weeks ago and im not 100% sure how i feel now and dont know what to do. first thing is she does lack a lot of confidence and she is totaly different to be around now. in the USA on her own turf she was bubbly and great fun. now she is here in the UK she is all nervous and sheepish. when i was over there in the usa visting her we were always on neutral ground, as in at a friends house we never stayed at her house for long periods.. but on her visit here as i am working 5 days a week we are at my house 24/7 and it feels like my personal space has been invaded and its driving me insane.. on one hand i want to tell her to go home. but on the other hand she has never seen england and europe and would hate to spoil her trip. either way im pulling my hair out at the moment.. and have no idea how to approach this.. this post is probably a little bit messy as im at work typing this and rather busy..... so please ask if i have missed out any details...

well.. im here and we have met up and its better than we thought it could ever be. the first meeting was bizarre kind of feeling. but i think that was due to me traveling for over 28 hours with hardly any sleep. the next day when we was rested and aware that i was finally here went so much better. we are house sitting one of her best mates places as they are on there honey moon. so we have gone from just talking online and on the phone to living in each others pockets and its amazing. just writing a quick update will write more when i get chance and im home..

try some really strong mints in your mouth b4 you start on the oral.. we have mints in the UK called fishermans friends, they are insane strong mints.. also airwaves chewing gum... trust me this works wonders. i found out about this off one of my best friends who is a nympho lesbian and she swears by it..

hi, well i was just about to reply to a post which answered this question more. as you will see im 30 now. my sex drive is not what it was 5 years ago.. mentaly it is.. im still as horny as i ever was. but sadly physicaly its not the same. from the ages of 15 - 25 he never went soft even after a long session. this was fantastic as i could orgasm as many times as i wanted and could stay up for as long as it was needed to please my lady. the last few years he has started to loose that same staying power. it did start to get me down for a while. i was rather upset by it. only saddend by the fact he wont stay hard for ever.. i still get random hardons and aroused by the slightest touch. its just making him stand to attention for the same lenghts of time as it used to. but i realised that i just have to approach things in a slightly different manner. or women do i should say. if my little man is needed to go another round then he is going to need some teasing and touching. i have dabbled with viagra a few times and it was fun as it was like it was 10 years ago.....

i have read this post all the way and i cant see why your wanting total hair removal.. you said its gametime? * * * is that? i keep my todger and his 2 mates shaved and have done for over 10 years.. and shaving is only uncomfy the first few times when it grows back after that its fine.. but cant help you on the legs thing.

that was an awesome story. i really enjoyed reading it. whats so bizarre about the situation we are in is we have experienced all the things you do getting to know some one except the touching and the smells. we chat on web cam with mics most the time to keep the cost down as our phone bills have been rather high these past few months.. thinking about it i was the reason she bought a web cam and a microphone. and that was over a year ago. we have spent so much time talking via this method i know all her faces depending on her mood and what she is thinking. i have seen her cry, angry, sad, happy thinking faces and can spot them instantly. its only a few days now till i fly out and im for the first time in my life feeling nervous about something.

thanks for that.. off topic for a second... i see your from colorado.. thats where im heading.... could you recomend a rather romantic place to eat? i want to organise something myself and surprise her.. going to be around denver area... as for your expereince.. i understand what you mean about the feelings that we can develop prior to meeting some one. we have no pretenses about this. we know we get on and in the worst case situation we are going to gain a new best friend.. but the meeting is to see if these so called feelings can develop any further.. as we have exhausted all means of exploration with what we have at the moment..

some of you might have read my previous posts about a lady i have been in contact with for over a year via the internet. and in the past 4/5 months the genral chit chat has evolved in to more. feelins have come to the surface etc etc.... anyway on the 6th of june i fly out to america to spend 2 weeks with her. we chat every day on the phone or on web cam with mics. but this is the first actual moment of been in each others company. this is totaly alien to me. all my previous relationships i have known with in hours of meeting a person that there is more there to explore, this is the first woman i have met where the feelings developed over time as i learnt more. its also the first time i have ever traveld to the other side of the world to meet some one. its also the first time i have ever been to the USA. there is so many firsts and i think im nervous excited.. im full of different emotions.. its strange as i dont lack in confidence im out going and very rarely suffer from nerves. i love new challenges and experinces but this situation is strange. makes me feel strange.. its like there are so many IF's and buts and maybes.... i used to be a heavy smoker until 2 weeks ago. i gave up as she doesnt smoke and if when i was over seeing her something was to happen i didnt want to spoil a moment by me smelling of smoke. i suppose i want to hear from people who have been through what im about to do and hear how it was for them... we get on so well we have spent up to 8 hours some nights talking. we have also had long silences online with cams and they were comfatable silences.. all the things are there. but we have never hugged touched kissed had the pleasure of smelling the other persons hair. all the things we take for granted when you meet a new partner. any one here fancy telling me how their first meeting went? when you first walked accross the airport towards them what was going through your mind? what was your first words? what was your first physical contact like?

first off soul mates do exist. the reason i have been single for so long now is because i will not settle for second best. all i can say is dont look for it. i know thats the cheesyist line in the world but it is so true.. just try your best to get on with what ever you do in life and it will happen. for the people who think that soulmates dont exist then you have not been with the right person. a soulmate is everything, a lover, a best friend, a drinking partner, what ever you want them to be. some one you can spend every waking second of your life with and your both having fun. my ex who i was with for over 6 years was my perfect soulmate we lived in eachothers pocket for that time. it was ruined by exploring the 3sum side of things but we live and learn. we still stay in touch and still know each other inside out. and i know she will be some one that will be there for me and i for her. even though the intimate love side has gone we are still soulmates and know how each other works..