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  1. Any help on this one would be great... My girlfriend and I will have been together six months as of Christmas Eve. We met online and met up on June 24th and we officially got together straight away - not many people know that we actually met online, "through friends" was the usual answer. She's a bit younger than me - we're both teenagers. We're in a really happy relationship even though it's long distance - both living in the UK about 140 miles apart. We see each other every weekend or two, and I tend to stay with her and her family over holidays. I feel like part of their family! I got talking to my girlfriend while getting over my, loosely term, ex-girlfriend. Again - another online relationship, or at least that's how it started. I'm not really the social recluse I make out to be with all this internet stuff! We got talking, got pretty close, met up in February this year. All went well but for various reasons she just wasn't ready for a full-on relationship. Things came to a head when I saw her again a few months later and we effectively ended it there completely. She was seeing a new guy and I thought it was time to move on... and I did, despite, at the time, being completely overwhelmed by her. The other night we got talking again for the first time properly. She explained that had I only waited a while until she was ready - emotionally - she'd probably have come round to it all. Obviously, I said that I didn't know that at the time and I couldn't have done it. We've been talking a lot over the past couple of nights and it turns out she's been thinking the same as me. Despite being in a very serious relationship with my girlfriend, I've still thought about her and she's been thinking about me, which could have been, and a lot about what our relationship would've been like sexually. She's decided that she'd like to see me again, as a friend. She sent me a text an hour or so again telling me that she'd re-read the diary entry (sort of!) that I'd sent her about that day we first met and that she does want to see me again. This leaves me with a massive dilemma. On the one hand, I do love my current girlfriend and she definitely loves me and she's been so good to me. But on the other hand, I do wonder what might have been with this other girl and I shamefully will admit that physically, I prefer this other girl. I haven't forgotten that she did hurt me, but that she did think it was for the best at the time and has now seen the error of her ways. So I could somehow secretly go and see her and see what happens. And I think we all know what could well happen. Despite her having a boyfriend (away in the army), she's not particularly happy with the way he's not a great guy with her and I think she wants to see what we'd be like in bed. I suggested that it might be good - and no harm done - to get the whole sexual thing out of the way. Spend the day together, sleep together, and then we both know what could've been... no one knowing, no one needing to know. But I love my girlfriend and it hurts to think that I'm thinking about this seriously and if I could just drive down to see this other girl right now, I'd do it. Because I really want her. Maybe nothing would happen. Maybe something would happen, and maybe I'd have to make my choice. A girl who loves me and adores me and wants to marry me, but is younger and less experienced in all ways. I don't like her as much as the other sexually and our sex life isn't that great. Emotionally, we're very compatible but she's more reserved than the other. Or the girl who did hurt me once, but through no fault of her own. We feel like great mates and we'd like to know what might have been. Sexually, we're on the same wavelength - I'm not with my girlfriend. Emotionally we're compatible, but she's much more easy going than my girlfriend. So what's a guy to do? I realise it'd be easy to judge me and that the majority of posts will call me an idiot and a fool, but what happens if all along I should have waited for this other girl and what happens if really we're supposed to be together - and my girlfriend and I aren't? Or my girlfriend and I am, and I could be throwing it all away? Any advice would be great. Sorry for such a long post. Thanks.
  2. Sounds like he's total crap to me... tell him to cut it out!
  3. asas

    A weird one!

    That seems to make a lot of sense stolenshadow, thanks. Anyone else? I'd really like to get a few opinions on this if poss.
  4. asas

    A weird one!

    Thanks stolenshadow. Since then, I've been in touch with an old friend of mine and we agreed to meet-up this weekend. We made it quite clear to each other that a bit of 'fun' might be involved - she needs a guy, I need I girl. I told the other girl about this, in the interests of being honest, and it's opened a whole can of worms. It seems that she lied to me about the attraction - I think she is attracted to me, but for some reason she just wanted to get rid of me. I can't think of any reason at all why this would be the case, but it certainly didn't work. Things came to a head yesterday and she admitted that a few days ago when we were discussing about weddings that she did consider the idea of marrying me - something I've considered with her. She says that I'm f-ing her up, but she's doing the same to me! Neither of us intend it to happen, and I just don't understand why it is. I admitted that the reason that I wanted to go and see this old friend of mine was because I wanted to try and get the main girl (let's call her K, it's easier!) out of my system - not that it would work, of course. After breaking down on the phone to K, we eventually got back on MSN and she said the only thing that may have swayed her mind on the phone was if I'd asked her to marry me. I admitted that that's something that I'd considered doing, but I didn't imagine she'd say yes. So I have proposed to her, and she's considering it. She's made me promise that I go and see my old friend in the meantime and that I carry on as normal while she considers. What do I do?
  5. I think that makes a lot of sense! He's a very lucky bloke with good looks, respect, talent, and he's just about to move to Australia with his wife and children. He has a lot that I want.. so I don't know, maybe he's just a twit!!
  6. Go for it. If she likes you and finds you attractive, go with your heart.
  7. Perhaps. I'm not as good looking as him, so it's not that! Maybe it's just that I'm younger and I might be going somewhere in the industry, instead of totally leaving it and reaching a dead-end? Oooh, I suddenly feel so much better!
  8. Personal opinion, I'm totally sexist on this one - I'd be marvellously chuffed and grope her back! But I'd consider twice doing it for myself. I once grabbed a colleague's behind and although she wasn't too bothered, I didn't half go red when a few of my colleagues brought it up!
  9. Thanks for the advice guys - I think on this one it is better to just let it go, then. The thing that annoys me most is that this guy wasn't below me in anyway - everyone's trying to make him stay as he's a 'star' person in the company. I'm just a technical guy who looks after stuff. But, hey-ho, I guess that's like and he's just a * * * *. Cheers guys.
  10. I was in a (quite informal) meeting of the whole company the other day. I was sitting opposite quite an outgoing guy who's quite likeable, I suppose, most of the time. My boss brought up if there was anything to add to something or other, and I suggested bringing something into use. Before I'd even finished my final sentence, the guy opposite me pipes up something or other, beginning "if you..". I didn't catch the rest of it. Anyway, it was found to be quite funny by everyone else in the room and one piped up "you thinking aloud there, C?", so I just laughed it off. This guy's leaving the company soon and moving to the other side of the World, so he can say what he likes and not worry. I, on the other hand, would quite like to stay with the company and not be an absolute laughing stock. Everyone takes the mick out of each other a bit, but nothing hurtful. I'm fearful that what he did say wasn't very nice and it kinda hurts me. In fact, it upsets me a bit. I'm not sure whether to a) do nothing, b) give him the "say it to my face" talk, c) ask one of my colleagues what was said, or d) mention to my boss that "people taking the mick out of others does tend to limit people coming up with new ideas in case they're just laughed at". It also doesn't help that after that meeting, I had to email my boss about a few things, including taking on a new job that he hasn't seen me do before and happens to be quite important to me. I fear that he's just thought that I'm either taking the pee or that he's just laughed and gone, "er, no". Anyone have an advice?
  11. If I'm really excited by it at the time... well, I do get a bit over-eager!
  12. Soft kisses everywhere! And rubbing the side of my neck under my ear... ooooh!
  13. The worst thing is when you're in a queue in a shop, snuggling into your girl and you get all excited. Especially when you've just got together. There's a choice to be made - snuggled it into her bum and hope she doesn't mind, or be publicly humiliated?
  14. Hey! Great to find this forum, it's just what I need. I'm posting totally under an anonymous username because.. well, I wanna be anonymous! Back in December, I met a girl on a forum. We got chatting on MSN and before long I realised I was very attracted to her. Things quickly moved on and we were 'doing things' on webcam, so I assumed she was attracted to me in the same way. There was no reason to believe she wasn't! So, finally, we met in person on Valentine's Day. There were a few reasons that meant it took so long - she'd just got out of a long distance relationship that went awfully (he only seemed to want sex) and it's was just the distance between us: about five hours by train. But it didn't bother me, so we finally did it. I met her and we walked along the beach, then I finally worked up the courage to kiss her, and she kissed back. Heaven. She was my dream girl. She still is! We spent the afternoon at her place and got fairly intimate, and I finally had to catch the train home. Since then, I haven't seen her. We've spoken nearly everyday on MSN for hours and she finally admitted to me a couple of weeks ago that it wasn't the distance that was bothering her, it was her attraction to me - well, lack of attraction. She told me she'd been trying so hard to 'try' and be attracted to me because she liked me so much as a person, but it wasn't happening. She's since met another guy who's taken her out, and they've shared a kiss - not much, but he's clearly very into her. I'm so happy for her - I realised even before we met in person that I'd never felt anything like what I felt for her - and it's great for her. But at the same time I AM jealous and the thought of her having sex with another guy is enough to make me want to hurl. We're good mates and she knows I still have strong feelings for her, and that I'd like to - once I can drive - go down and see her, as I have to go to someone only around half an hour from her anyway. She's not sure about it, even though my intentions really are totally honourable... I think! I just want to see her as a mate and know that things between us are ok. And still part of me hurts when I say to myself "you'll never see her again". I don't know what advice I'm really expecting to get here, but any thoughts would be nice.
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