Frost271

My ex broke it off in April after 4 years. We both kind of grew apart and it ended up happening and she ended up with another guy a few days after the breakup and we havent talked since. Yesterday my cousin tried to kill herself and she called my ex and my ex called me and we ended up spending the day together with my cousin. After the cousin thing blew over we spent some time together at her friends house as well as at my apartment just chillin and talking until about four in the morning. Half the day the conversation was about her being upset and pissed about the guy she was currently with, how they fight all the time, breakup every other day, how much he is a loser, no future, etc... We also did talk about the past but really didnt feel comfortable going their. We both had a really great time and everything just clicked. She didnt hint at us getting back together but that is all thats been in my head all day. MY problem is is that I'm going to see her again tonight. Now that we seem to be friends and ok to hang out, I just want to make sure that I wouldnt be crossing the line mentioning something about us giving it another round. I want to tell her how I still have alot of feelings towards her and that I'm still in love with her but I dont want to lose the fact that were friends again and on talking terms, so I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions for me. Is this something I should hold off on until the time might be right or should it be now or never?

If they were hot and genuinely seemed interested id take em out. I dont know how old you are but go to a club or to a bar for a few drinks and convo. Also, I dont know about this whole playing chess in the mall thing but apparently it works ! ;0

It hurts. It really does. My gf broke up with me last month after 4 years. I have that nasty feeling in my stomach almost everyday and all day. I still cant eat right. I still dream about her and think about her 24/7. Its very painful and life plain sux. You'll here this again and again but it takes time to get over them. I suggest you also read Super Daves post in the other forum about things NOT TO DO in regards to reconciling with your ex.

man that sucks dude! I mean you get laid, you expect to get back together, and BAM she plays you. Thats not right at all. I agree with the above poster. Confront her about it and figure out what she wants. Otherwise shes just going to continue mind-fu*king you and your going to keep being the one with the broken heart.

Im sorry to hear about your situation. me and my girl broke off after a 4 year relationship and its been the hardest thing in the world for me. I found out that two days later she was already with a new guy and calling him bf. Its very very hard, especially after such a long period of time. It seems like she broke it off with you emotionally a long time ago and was waiting on someone new to grab on too so that she wont be as broken up about it as you are now. This is whats happened to me and its the most horrible thing. Im on day 30 and its been very very hard. Apparently, with time, its supposed to go away. I know these words arnt too encouraging, but the people in this forum know what you've experienced and understand what your going through and realize your not alone.

I understand what your going through. A month ago my gf of 4 years broke up with me and was sleeping with another guy 2 days later who she now calls bf. Its hard, very very hard. Mentally and emotionally. Im on day 30 and it still hurts. Apparently with time this * * * *s supposed to go away and hopefully it will...

I texted her a Happy Birthday and she text back a thank you. Im doing ok.

I wanted to thank each every person that sits here and gives advice to people. I went through a horrible breakup and by reading peoples' experiences and reading and implenting your advice, it has really made things alot easier for me. I have grown mentally and emotionally because of this and I attribute alot of that to this simple forum. Ive gone to other sites, such as myspace, and all I have to say is that the people here are very much more mature and understanding than almost any other site out there. I will definitely be here reading and giving my 2 cents to people who need advice and help. Again, thank you.

ty for the advice... will stick with NC.

Girl dumped me. 3 weeks of hardcore NC from her. I know its NO CONTACT but her birthday is in two days. Should I call or send a text and wish a happy birthday? Im thinking thats a classy thing to do but im not sure... any advice would be appreciated. Thanks!

Heres my take on the "sensitive" comments. From what I understand, a cut guy feels less because the head is exposed 24/7 (i.e rubs against pants, etc...) and the nerve endings arn't as sensitive and theres less feeling. On an uncut guy, the head is only exposed during erection. The foreskin keeps the head "protected" and hence theres more feeling during sex when exposed. This kinda makes sense?

Im sure this has been posted before but i scanned thru countless pages and couldnt find anything so here we are... From experience, do you ladies prefer guys to be circumcised or not? I just broke up with my long time gf and she loved me being uncut, but fact is im a european guy living in america. America is the only country that still cuts (down to about 30% of new born males now). Problem Im afraid of facing is that since all the ladies are used to cut males, I'm kind of hesistant to "mess around." Any tips? Please no flaming and no stupid comments I'd love to hear some experiences from a female aspect on this topic.

I cried when I broke up with my ex.

It really depends... 4 months... you just never know. Maybe she regrets what she did or maybe she truly wants to just be a friend and catch up. You obviously arnt over her so I think it boils down to how you guys ended up breaking it off. Was it bad, mutual, she cheated, etc...? You might feel one way and she might feel another, so if your willing to risk going back to day one of the break up, than I say go for it.

My two cents on this: You dont sound like your over him. You got broken up with and it seems like you MIGHT possibly be looking for something thats not there. Your risking the chance of resurfacing old feelings towards him and that could lead to possible emotional trouble. On the other hand, Im in the same boat right now that you are. I was broken up with after a 4 yr relationship and being "friends" has turned into complete NC. It seems that your still connected after a few short months and in your mind waiting longer (NC) could disconnect you forever and we dont want to lose our best friends forever.. I would like to hear more from others on this?