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  1. Things are just getting ugly now. He is sending me nasty e-mails, and I'm terrified to see him at work later. He has shown me more to why I broke this relationship off... gosh I hate this situation...
  2. Ok well I did it tonight. I must say, it is very unfortunate when you are so angry that you break up with someone that way. What I am getting at is that I have been trying to discuss things with my bf and he makes it so hard to communicate that I finally broke up with him tonight. I have been wanting to for a month or so now because I have been unhappy. I have posted on here before about our different interests and other things like that. I just realized that we are very different, and not only that, I just really want someone more mature than him. I'm tired of childish games and other silliness in that sense. I am very upset right now, which is why I am writing this so late. It's just so hard when you love someone so much and you know it's just not going to work. It took me a year to figure this out with him. Six months ago I thought he was the one I was going to marry. Things have obviously changed. I just don't know how I can deal with this. We work together and tomorrow he will be bringing me my stuff he has, and I will be doing the same. We have some of the same friends... so that's going to be hard to hang out with them at different times now. Also, we had a couple trips planned in December and January, (which I already payed for the plane tickets). It just sucks right now... and I'm very depressed and upset, even though I know it should be this way. Moving on is so hard... any suggestions or ideas of what I can do to help me move on and forget about this? Or anything at all would be nice. I know it's going to be very hard for me in the next few days...
  3. It definitely sounds like you two need some space. Maybe instead of telling him you want to break up, tell him that you need some time apart. Either take time apart and stay with someone else, or him with someone else-- or move out of the apartment. Are you on a lease? It would be best to wait till the lease is up. I wouldn't hold back everything though because you're afraid of what he'll do. You can't worry about him in this scenario, worry about yourself. This is about you and getting your space you need. No matter what, it will be very hard to cope with, but try and be strong. Spend lots of time with friends and family and try to stay as busy as you can, that way you won't have time to think about it. It sounds like you really need some time for youself!
  4. I think you should use this time to think now. Really decide if you want to continue going through this kind of stuff with him. That's pretty childish that he disconnected his phone for the fact that you wanted to think about some things. I wouldn't necessarily move on, but I wouldn't hold back if you did happen to find something better in the mean time. If he can't man up and talk to you about his feelings, and if this is really his way of breaking up with you, then I suggest to move on in that scenario. How old is this guy?
  5. I agree with hateithere. You should definitely try being romantic to him to see if he may see or know how to be romantic back to you. I do that with my bf b/c he isn't as romantic as I would want him to be, and it kind of helps in a way.
  6. I would have to say I do believe in that. I actually have a friend who holds that place in my heart. We have been friends for many years, and have had many ups and downs. It's strange... because we have gone through the not talking for months-years, then we make up and it continues like that. Right now we aren't talking again... the reason we continue to cut off communication is because she has lied and backstabbed me so many times. I continue to forgive her because like you said, she has always been special to me. I guess that is b/c our past, she was my best friend through middle school and high school. Now that I am almost done with college, I am steering away from her. She may never change, and I may always forgive her time and time again. I want our friendship to be like it was in the past.
  7. Then give up on the hints and talk to him already. Tell him what you would like for him to do.
  8. He's playing a game with you. Looks like he is trying to make you feel bad for doing what you did and now he wants you to see that side of it. If you need your space from him to think, then avoid his messages and calls for at least one day. You don't have to open his text messages that he sends you. He needs to respect your space and give it to you. Sit down and really explain your side of this story.
  9. I think you should give her a call again. Give her the benefit of the doubt, like the above post, something could have been wrong with her phone and the message was deleted or something in that area. If you don't hear from her again after calling her for the second time, then in that case I would move on to someone who appreicates your time!
  10. All guys are different. Some are more romantic and old fashioned than others. Just like what the other post said, this is who he is and he most likely won't change his ways. If you have tried talking to him several times and still nothing has happened, then there is a good chance nothing ever will. What you need to decide for yourself is would you rather have another boyfriend who will meet your needs in romance? Or is this something that you can try and let go because everything else in your relationship is really good and more important to you. These are things a lot of woman actually struggle with. I notice it's a good idea to write down the things that are most important and least important to you in a relationship. That way you really know what you need/want in a relationship. You can't change a guy, and most of us woman believe or hope he will change for us, but in the end he never does. I hope it all works out for the best!
  11. Thank you bestrongbehappy... I think you had a great post. And I'm sorry to hear about your marriage, but it helped to read that b/c honestly, I have pictured myself married to this guy, and that's how I pictured it. Which is why I've had so many doubts about this relationship. I'm not happy, which is the bottom line. I do think it is important to have separate interests, but it's also good to have common ones. He will never change b/c of his car interests and this crazy obsession he has with them and I will never be into it like he is. I don't think I will ever accept it on the level he does, and we both deserve someone that has more common interests. It's very unfortunate... and this has been built on my shoulders for months... as a matter of fact I blurted some of it out tonight (while he was at another car thing) and I said some things... There is just never time where I can sit and talk with him--- I've been at the point with him in this relationship where I have given up, I don't even want to try anymore. I've been unhappy and depressed for too long... letting go is the hardest part
  12. I never said he was immature b/c of his interests (i.e. cars) but he is for other reasons, a few I mentioned. All I know is that if I had this huge fascination for something, and couldn't get my significant other into it with me, then I wouldn't be happy. I would want to share some common interests, especially the main ones you love yourself. And we don't share that... which is why I feel stuck right now.
  13. Well the reason I am still around is because for the most part, he treats me well. When we have good moments, it is so much fun and I'm very happy. We do both want pretty similiar things in the future, but I have tried picturing him in the future such as if we were married and had children. I can see some of it, but I'm not sure how it would be because of our differences. I don't know how to explain some of these differences... let's see... Well, he is 2 years older than me... and I feel I am the more mature one in this relationship. Sometimes it bothers me how childish he acts. He's not as responsible as myself. He makes poor decisions. These are some of the things I have been starting to notice. It's weird, because I have noticed them before, but for some reason I thought he was starting to change, for the better. Especially after being with me and seeing my ways. I was expecting too much. His main interest/hobby is cars. I have no problem with that, but it's almost like an addiction with him. EVERY day he has to check the same car forums, at least 5 times a day. Even over at my house, or wherever we are with the damn internet. He wastes his money on the most ridiculous things for his car, (and he really can't afford these things!) He attends stupid car meets, which in my opinion is stupid (because most of the kids are high school boys!) Anyways, that's been a big burden on me because I will never be interested in that, and he doesn't care to help me understand why he is so fascinated by some of this stuff. I just don't want to be involved in that lifestyle... especially that late at night. All of this stuff... is just showing me that maybe I should find someone who is more like myself. I have never been in such a situation before... where I love him more than I have ever loved anyone before... but I'm beginning to feel it may never work the way I would love it to. It's so hard...
  14. How many of you believe a relationship can work when you both are opposite, but in the sense that you don't share a lot of the same interests and such? I'm in that situation... it's been a very very tough year with my bf. We fought a lot b/c of our differences, and I'm starting to believe things may never change for the better. I don't enjoy his main interests and he's not much into mine. We do things for each other to make each other happy, but in my head I'm not sure how much longer I can accept this. It's not my scene... so I'm just confused if this can even really work in the long run.
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