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  1. he actors are 17 and 24 and I am 30!! in real life I wouldn't even glance at a boy that young but its the characters rather than the actors themselves that do it for me.. I only fancy Rpatz as Edward! I was in hospital a few weeks ago and the midwife who was looking after me was 47 and she was OBSESSED with the Twilight books and films and said that a group of midwives actually organised 'twlight' and 'new moon' nights and would get together to 'perv' over the guys!! they are young enough to be her sons!! ha ha
  2. oooh lovely poem!! are we talking about Twilight? I was definitely a werewolf girl when reading the books! he he but a vampire girl when watching the film!! I dream cheated with Robert Pattinson the other night.. I told my partner, he just laughed and said 'naughty!!' he he
  3. People have the right to chose their own friends and whether they are deemed 'good' or 'bad' friends pisses me off. If my boyfriend started saying "I dont like the people you hang out with... hence lets find some new people" i would tell him to eff off!! I think as long as your girlfriend isnt echo-ing their behaviour then you don't have to worry. We aren't our SO's parents, so it isnt up to us to 'approve' of each other's friends. It isnt them we are going out with. My boyfriend's best mate cheats on every girl he has ever been out with, even his fiance. My boyfriend dispises cheating and i fully trust him, his other friend takes lots of drugs, my boyfriend doesnt touch them, never has, never will. I wouldnt dream of covertly trying to get my boyfriend hanging out with more 'good' friends!
  4. one of my best friends used to be a lap dancer, she has two children to two different dads and she cheats on her boyfriend. She is also kind and would do anything for me, i have known her since I was 11. I would never not be her friend. My other friend is total bunny boiler she doesnt let her boyfriend out of her sight, she is jealous and doesnt trust him to go out on a boys night so she goes along, incase he cheats. He did cheat on her once and she took him back, for a while i lost respect for her, my boyfriend thinks she is the worlds biggest idiot for taking her cheating boyfriend back and sticking herself to him like glue. My other best friend lives with a guy who she openly admits is the ugliest thing she has ever seen but he is rich. she says she loves him but probably wouldnt if he didnt have all that they have, a big house in the country, two cars, three holidays a year. My boyfriend calls her a gold digger. Another one of my friends was the town bike for a while! and another is a mad party head who takes lots of drugs, (I dont take drugs, never have) I dont cheat, I would never cheat on my boyfriend, I would never lap dance, I would never have children without being married first, I would never be with a man for his money, i prefer to be independent. my point? If I thought my boyfriend judged me because of the people I hang around with, I would be really upset and would be in trouble?!! ha ha however, I can see your point because one of my best friends says her boyfriends best mates all cheat on their girlfriends and go out to lap dancing clubs constantly, and my friend is paranoid her boyfriend will be influenced. I said "If you think he is that weak minded, a sheep that is easily lead, or that he has no mind of his own and you dont trust him, why are you with him?" That shut her up! We are all our own people, with our own minds and ar responsible for ourselves. Friends are friends for whatever reason, maybe they have always been our friends since school.. maybe they make us laugh and cheer us up, whatever their morals, we dont have to agree on everything to be friends. If my friend wants to cheat on her boyfriend then thats up to her.. doesnt influence me, because i have my own mind! you get me?
  5. Im a bereavement counsellor and my job is to listen to people who are recently bereaved and really seriously grieving. 9 times out of 10 they lost their loved one to cancer. That put things into perspective for me too. I suddenly became WAYYY too aware of my own mortality.
  6. I read Allan Carr's easyway to stop smoking, i read it twice and then I moved in with my non-smoking boyfriend, into a non-smoking house! there are a lot of factors involved, but the fact is, i dont crave, i dont want one, i dont really ever think about a cigarete. Its been 7 months since i had one. if i get really upset and stressed and something happens, there is a slght urge to buy some fags, but it isnt because i crave it, its because its what i have always done. The nicotine leaves your body within 24 hours of your last cigarette, after a week you cant physically claim to still be addicted. its a psychological crutch, addiction. you need to let go. It feels like losing your best friend and when you go to the pub and have a drink and the person you are with leaves the table for a while, i remember sitting there thinking "mnn i feel really exposed, normally i would light a cigarette and concentrate on that...." now i just tear a beer mat. Its hard, but soon you forget.
  7. ha ha i am lke that with Charlotte church!! I used to think she was a cool chick but my boyfriend goes on all the time about how she is a goddess! and he has pictures of her on his computer posing in bikinis and she has a far better figure than me! I HATE charlotte church!! ha ha ha
  8. I am quite relieved to see that others feel like this too. Probably not as obsessed or insane as me! ha ha However, I copied some links here of others (some are mine) threads, that are going through the same thing, threads that show how others feel, to show you that you aren't alone and that there are people here you can talk to.
  9. Your message just made me cry. I'm really sorry to hear this and I can almost feel your pain through your post. I hope things improve for you, but we are all here if you need us.
  10. I agree with the others you need to talk to an adult about this. Im not saying that you aren't mature enough to deal with this because at 14 you aren't a little kid. This is going to be a hard time for you. You don't want your dad to leave your mum because you don't want your family to suffer his mistakes. Would you prefer for them to stay together but for your dad to continue cheating on your mum? I wouldn't be afraid that he found all his files deleted honey, he is going to be more frightened than you when he discovers that! he will be panicking about who found them. You need to talk to someone outside of the family but who knows you, who can advise on what to do, you can't take on this burden by yourself.
  11. My breasts are a 34J and I feel like i wasted my teenage and early 20s being really depressed about my breasts. Everyone looking, staring, nudging their mates saying "Look at the size of her t i t s!!!" really loudly when I walked past. Being called a tart (as though i purposely did this to myself) whether i gained weight or lost weight they stayed the same. i used to dream summer, i used to literally cry and stay at home all the time when i couldnt hide behind my coat or jackets. I eventually got sent to see a specialist who agreed within five minutes that i could have a breast reduction. i had to have pictures taken with a male photographer which felt like a porno session and degraded me further "can you turn this way... turn to the left..." while he took pictures of my boobs. The approved me, put me on a waiting list, but as the time went by and got more confident with myself, more confident with my attractiveness, my personality, got a bit older and more wiser, i started to see them as the asset that they are. I changed my mind about the reduction, you cant breast feed once you have had it and i would lke to breast feed my children. because they are so large they will sag once i have had kids and i will then have the reduction when im 40 after ive had my babies. At the moment, i see them as an asset and it took almost 17 years for that to happen. Its a shame that its in hindsight we see all the wasted time hiding away. Maybe she should look into CBT therapy, change the way she thinks about herself or the way others look at her. Maybe even just person centred therapy will help boost her confidence. She can always have a reduction, but with any surgery there are risks and expenses and I dont think a young girl should be contemplating that because of how she feels psychologically.
  12. God your post filled me with empathic pain. I felt really upset just reading that. It sounds like an unbeleivably painful time for you. You know, because you state, all the problems that you had, and you know inside yourself that it would never have worked and that it wasnt healthy for you. However the fact that he never realised your worth or that he just cut you out of his life, deleted you as though you didnt exist. That has got to make you feel almost invisible, worthless. He didnt think enough of you to tell you goodbye, or explain why. no wonder you feel so alone and invisible, you were treated very badly by somebody you trusted and loved. I think you may need to speak to somebody about this. a counsellor. It may help you to come to terms with both of your losses. You are still grieving for your unborn child and that is an entirely different issue from the heartbreak and loss of your husband. You lost your future, the future that you had planned with this man and this child and both were just deleted from your life. I hope you seek out someone to talk to.
  13. yeah i go with the Sudacrem too its a a british thing, if you are in america, then its just basic nappy rash cream. i know it sounds mad but it works its sensitive enough for the delicate areas (I use it too when I shave down there) and its great. Lots of nappy rash cream!
  14. mnnn yeah, can see your point here.. I was incredibly depressed when I was behaving in such a way.. I met my current boyfriend (The only one I havent cheated on!) when my life was going well and I was in a good place. Generally happy with myself and feeling attractive. I think when we are happy with ourselves we are less likely to accept second best (for us) and less likely to fall into relationships we don't really want to be in.
  15. i would never refer to a friend as weird, no matter what she looks like. I love my friends like sisters. We have been friends since we were 11. in school with her bright ginger hair and baces and large NHS glasses she didnt help matters by becoming a hippy and wearing tie dye skirts and large hob nail boots.. but I still defended her to anyone and hung with her, because I had no right to expect her to change, or for anyone else to insult her because of that. She was shy and the way she dressed was her way of expressing herself. She liked what she wore and so I never once tried to change her. If this was your girlfriend you were talking about, everyone would jump down your throat for not loving her for who she is. This person isnt your friend, or rather you are no friend of theirs, if you listened to and took on board the opinions of a load of idiots you had only just met!
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