miserableme

If you have blemishes, you shouldn't be using foundation. It will just aggravate the problem. If you really want some, I'd recommend using a powder. Liquid foundation will not allow your skin to breathe (despite manufacturer claims).

You know what? I could try and say what I've said over and over again and none of you people would try and see it from my perspective. Because of that I'm taking my business elsewhere and I have no desire to be a part of the ENA community any longer.

Yes, maybe unnatural was the wrong term to use. What is natural these days anyway? Typing this on a computer certainly is not. Oral sex is not painful or uncomfortable for most people. I have no problem with that. I did say clearly that my opinion of gays has no bearing on what I consider natural. I think if you are gay and that makes you happy, that's wonderful. Some women do enjoy anal sex and although I don't share that view, they can do whatever they want. I just want to mention that there has been an enormous increase in young women visiting doctors because of anal fissures since anal sex became relatively popular a few years ago. I've never had one myself but I hear they are quite painful. I personally believe that there is something wrong with this, not to mention the heightened chance of contracting an STD. Tiredman- I realise that we have very differing opinions on this matter and I'm not trying to cause a fight with you. I would be happy just to leave it at that.

I didn't mean to say it was *just* an american thing, even though that's what I said. I meant that where I'm from that's not a big deal to most people. I figure, if someone is going to have that double standard then I don't want to be with them anyway.

did you try what I suggested yet?

I have no problem with gay men, first of all. That is their business, not mine. Again, if it works for them, that's great. But I do wholeheartedly believe that the act of anal sex is unnatural. I don't think you can make judgement on this unless you have tried it yourself. Go an get a cucumber/dildo and try putting it up there (lube free) and tell me how natural it feels.

If it were natural, then the anus would lubricate naturally. It does not. But, I guess if it works for you and you have a willing partner, then good for you. One other thing, I've heard if you do anal too much, you lose control of your bowel movements. Has this happened to anyone here?

Oh my goodness Charlit, this is also what I was trying to get at. The double standard thing. Why should it be any different for men? In my opinion, it goes both ways.

I think you guys didn't read what I wrote properly. I said I DIDN'T have sex with him on the first date. Where I'm from this is generally fine and most of my friends have had great relationships come out of it, as have I. I was always under the impression that if someone likes your personality and you are attracted to them, then why should they think any less of you? Who cares if I've done it before? It doesn't mean I like them any less, and same for him. I have never felt used prior to moving here. I have never felt badly about a man who has slept with me before either. What I was getting at was, I tried something different. It's clear that Americans have an issue with sex on the first date. Ofcourse I wanted to do it, and so did he, but because of all this no sex on the first date talk, I decided to wait and see what happens. This is very much out of character for me. What my real question was, do you think what I actually did with him was bad (no sex remember)? I don't feel it was, but I was hoping to get another opinion. By the way, I was 100% sure that I was not going to be sexually assaulted. I knew what I was doing.

In the past, I have always been a sex-on-the-first-date kind of girl. This is fairly common where I'm from. Apparently it's not the best way to get guys to respect you in America. Every time I've done that here, it's ended as f-buddies. Now, I just started dating this guy (first date last night). I went to his house and he cooked me dinner, we talked for hours about everything and then eventually came the kiss. I made a promise to myself that I wouldn't have sex with him last night. I didn't, but we did end up doing some pretty heavy making out and grinding. He reassured me that he does really like me and still wants to see me again (this weekend, in fact). I know that if I had allowed sex to happen, it would have, BUT he made me feel really comfortable with not doing it. Does anyone think I went too far for a first date? We connected so well and there were no awkward moments. He made all the first moves after making sure I was comfortable with it. I am very attracted to him and I want things to work out. The next time I see him won't be at his house, so we definitely won't be getting up no good. Any tips/advice? Am I doing the right thing here? I don't want him to use like all the other guys I've been with.

She's not suicidal is she? That does seem very odd.

HAHA this thread is over 3 years old. I love it when that happens.

damn it! I wish I didn't have to worry about this stuff until I'm an old lady. It's so unfair. I guess it could be worse...

Exactly that! All my fat is in my abdomen. My arms and legs look like toothpicks. Not attractive at all.

I do have some issues with my weight. I come from an overweight family and I don't want to end up like that. At the moment, I'm 5'5 and 120 lbs with 27% body fat. This is quite high for my height/weight proportions. I've managed to lose 5 lbs in the last couple of months, through restricting my food intake and exercising (walking) moderately a couple of times a week. I need to increase my exercise, but it's the lack of energy that gets me. quietgrl- I'm a vegan, so fatty protein is out for me already I eat lots of fruit, vegetables and whole grains. My doctor has advised me to eat more plant protein such as nuts, legumes and soy. It's hard because I don't really like those foods! I guess health is more important than taste buds. Unfortunately, I like to drink alcohol but I'm told that has to stop, especially if I'm on diabetes medication. I guess it's got something to do with the kidneys.