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  1. Wow I hadn't seen this thread. Just read the whole thing, sounds like big soap opera haha. All I can say is good luck and let us know how it goes.
  2. Hey Orlander That's awesome news! Ha ha I just noticed this thread, it's great! Go get 'em!
  3. Hey lovesickkk, Definitely flirting/dating etc. ain't easy. I should know! I shouldn't have put my point that way. I guess I've just been in situations where I've been stressing and overanalyzing, and in hindsight the answer has been staring me in the face. The answers have been both positive and negative. And I was just trying to deliver the "obvious" answer to you. I still stand by my advice that you should move on from her. I certainly don't know the specifics of your situation, but from what you say she MAY be in a bad relationship out of comfort/history (which I can certainly accept does happen), but at the same time she MAY also be in a rocky relationship and using you to make herself feel better during the bad times. Moreover, no matter how bad the relationship is she still has a boyfriend, which to me is always a massive "STAY AWAY". Be her friend, not a home-wrecker. It must be a tough tightrope to tread, but I definitely never go after a girl if she has a dude, it's just not on. And you seem like a good guy. I do honestly wish you the best of luck, but you seem like a cool guy who could meet any number of interesting, attractive, girls. I think you'll have a better time!
  4. Hey mate. Well from the sounds of things she could very well like you a lot. At the same time, all of what you said could be interpreted as her liking you as a friend. But I agree you need to act, and spend some time together outside of work. Call her! Just keep it casual, you never know where it could lead! Good luck!
  5. Hey man. Two things you need to realise: 1. She has a BOYFRIEND. You are her FRIEND. If she truly liked you at all, she would be with you and not him. 2. She definitely has issues, but don't kid yourself that she would have valid reasons for staying with the bad boyfriend instead of being with you. No matter how rocky the relationship is or how flirty she is with you or in which direction she points her toes, she still goes home and HAS SEX WITH HER BOYFRIEND. Sorry mate I don't mean to seem blunt, but I've far too often been in your kinda situation and the best thing to learn is that when two people like each other it's obvious. If you need to start reading body language and the meaning of polite replies to dorky e-cards, then the mutual attraction isn't there. If you have the time to overanalyze things on an internet forum - instead of actually spending time with the object of your affection - I think that should tell you something. I really do hope something works out for you. You are a party promoter after all, so you should meet heaps of new and interesting people. Best of luck.
  6. This happens to me: I become so self-conscious and scared that I'll say the wrong thing that I stop being myself and just kinda clam up. Instead of simply talking to the girl, I'm busy being a translator for what she is saying and then an editor for what I say in response. It's the difference between being my easygoing self (which is the case when I'm around just any old person) or being someone else altogether (when I'm around a rather nice lady friend). Hope that helps!
  7. This is the continuation of the saga outlined in Anyhoo, I won't go into anywhere near as much detail. Suffice to say that its almost three months later and I've been a hesitant, shy, guy. I haven't really made a move and things are a little bit awkward at times. Oh well. Just wanted to know what you people think of what's happened between me and this girl recently: 1. I message her after having not really talked to her for a couple of weeks to see if she wants to hang on weekend. Says she's busy but suggests movie on Wed nite. I msg back saying "sure, will call tues". 2. Tues is busy day for me, I call her late Tues nite. She doesn't answer. I try again Wed morn, no answer. She then msgs soon after, apologises for missing calls and suggests we go for drinks that nite. Implication is that there's friends. 3. I rock up that nite and yes she's in a group of 6-7 girls. Night goes well, but I don't talk to her much, mainly talk to her friends and stuff. This is even though I sit squashed up next to her - little bit o'touching and joking, but not much. She mentions to her other friends about a party she's having, but no invite for me. Also, we all leave as a group so I dont get a personal goodbye. 4. After I get home, my mate tells me to msg her saying "Had a good time, your friends are cool, we should do it again". She replies shortly saying essentially no problem thanks for coming. So, I'm left with the impression that I'm mayor of friendzone? I mean, at times I felt like "the guy" but then again her friends were probably just being friendly. Your thoughts? I suspect if I read this as an objective observer the answer's obvious. Friendzoned. Thanks!
  8. I agree. I don't think you've got enough evidence that he likes you. I mean, to be fair, neither of you could say you really like each other, because you've never really talked to each other. At best, you'd have a physical attraction to each other. But that doesn't mean he doesn't like you. And there's really only one way to find out - that's to talk to him. You might have to take it slowly because he is working, but all it takes is a friendly smile and a bit of small talk, and you never know where it'll end up... Good luck!
  9. I agree with everything that's said. You yourself wrote that you're not comfortable about the situation. If you're not comfortable, then that's reason enough not to do what he's suggesting. But even if you weren't uncomfortable, I'd advise you against letting him come over when you barely know him. Good luck!
  10. Sounds like she's just trying to fish to see if you're still into her - either she wants a small ego boost or wants to have you as back up. Stay well away.
  11. Hey man I've been in a similar situation (that is, sharing a bed). I was clueless, but the girl made a move. I was unprepared and so didn't take it well, even though deep down I was interested. Obviously, she thought I wasn't interested. (We did eventually hook up later.) Although you didn't reject your girl like I did mine, but yeah I agree with the others I think you should've made a move. Girls don't let just any guy share their bed. Good luck!
  12. Hey My thoughts: he COULD be interested, but even with the door opening and the confiding, it could just be a case of him seeing you as a friend. I know that if I drop people off (male/female) I'll wait till they're inside and then drive off. And, if I start to feel comfortable with someone (again, male/female) I'll start to confide in them. I'm not trying to burst your bubble - none of what you said suggests that he doesn't like you. But at the same time nothing suggests he's got the massive hots for you. But, really, the best thing to do is just get to know him better and be yourself. Have fun. And, if it seems right, ask him to go do something with you. Good luck!
  13. Hey dude I've been in your situation, it sucks. But let's be honest here, you're not hoping to become friends; you want more. And so your continuing to hang around her will only end up with you wasting your time and energy, and getting hurt. She is taken. Repeat, she is taken. And, yes, guys and girls can be friends. But if one likes the other, it gets messy. Sorry to be so blunt, but when I've been in your situation it's taken a really blunt statement to knock me out of my futile hopes.
  14. Hey Sorry to burst your bubble (because I always hate it when people do it to me), but she's just being friendly. You're reading WAY too much into it. But I've done it before, sucks... BUT Like everyone else says, give it a shot. Trust me, you don't wanna be in my situation where you didn't give it a RHG (red hot go) and instead you've just got regrets... Just keep it casual and be yourself! Good luck!
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