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Friend with benefits... What do you think? Of course he is going to get upset everytime you decide to talk to IC--that's no brainer. He wasn't your companion and you guys shared no love, at least in your current boyfriend's eyes. Now if you incessantly bring up his name with such and such, naturally he's going to pull up a defensive wall. Yes, he has a kid but that still doesn't take away the fact your libertin history of what not with him which is going to constantly flash in your boyfriend's head when the subject turns to what you have done with him. Put yourself in his shoes see how he feels. If you love your boyfriend enough to cut your ties with IC, then do so as soon as possible. Otherwise, move on to someone who doesn't mind having IC in your life.

Are you sure this is just a termporary situation? Back in my university, professors sometimes were out of town for a week or so but they would have announced it before departure--and it was usually at the beginning of the semester, argh. I don't suppose any professor, at least in good schools, would abandoned his class entirely. Anyway, find out when the professor is coming back. Discuss any question about the topics you have covered so far with other classmates as in study groups. Early materials are usually essential as a foundation for the rest of semester--make sure you master them. I don't what school you go to, but isn't the TA supposed to cover the topics first then do the problems? Or is this just a recitation of some sort?

From what I read, it seems like you respect others' privacy deeply. No, I am not being sarcastic--I am like that too. If I happen to unvail someone's secret unintentionally, I will keep it to my grave. You just happened to be a very intimate person and you play the incident over and over. Maybe it's his picture, maybe it's someone else's. Just forget about it and don't make such a big deal out of the situation--for yourself that is.

Good for you. She is with someone else now which means if she contacts you, it wouldn't be to reignite the hampered relationship. May I ask what traits she wanted you to work on? Drugs? Being too nice?

Let's be honest: He is a horny guy and you have a v*****, that's what you guys have in common. I can hardly think of a college guy having much in common with a 15-year-old. I am not going to talk about what or what not you should do--but I would say this: If you are uncomfortable with continuing your activities with him, you must stop. If you don't, it may well develop into something more serious now or later on, emotionally and psychologically. I know you like the attention you are receiving from the opposite sex, but this is not the way to a healthy relationship.

TiredMan, I am sorry but I haven't been able to help Hopeofheart at all since I haven't been around from the start. I was just merely trying to explain to some of the posters that their method of confronting him would not go as they hope. To me helping Hopeofheart is to help him find a job. Have I done that? No. So I am no better than anyone else. I just hope it's not too late.

I don't feel safe going to a house with bunch of strangers and cuddle!!! That just sounds so weird and unsafe as much as their site suggests especially for girls. The funny thing is erections are allowed you are not just allowed to dry humped!!!

Bethany, the point of people coming here is to get helped. As it was mentioned by a few posters, you don't just come out bluntly expecting someone who's on the edge to pull himself out. You are just taking all the human factors out of the equation. From what it's said by the original poster, his problem lies in the realm of finding a job to be independent of his abusive family. I have seen many emotional problems instantiating due to lack of job opportunities among younger people. Bethany, the way you address your statement leaves no room for any hope. Remember, you are trying to help people not push them away by being blindly assertive. Listen to what he has to say then make your comments. From his stand point, he does not need a shrink but rather a job (apparently not the one he currently has). Again, free clinic is not the answer, show him a career agency.

Ya, what were you implying with the rose you gave him?

You know you have a strong will when you can go out without a condom and knowing you can stop yourself from going further.

The question is whether you want to be with a guy who takes drugs and dumps you when he hits the pick? Is it worth you going through this emotional rollercoaster everytime he selfishly pops a happy-pill?

I just don't understand why people even bother reading a book by a guy who also written books with "Marilyn Manson, Motley Crue, Dave Navarro, and Jenna Jameson"? Oh please, give me a break. Do you want to know someone or you want to act like a pimp? Hey, if your thing is to treat women like an object go for it. This book is probably just a cheap imitation of yet another How-To-Get-ANY-Women-To-Sleep-With-You. It's about some guy's findings on online dating for god sake. Meaning: How to lie. As long as you have a good heart and not an ill-willed person, you'll find someone eventually. What I am trying to say is, I respect your attempts to improve your social skills, but these sort of books are not the answers. The key is inside you.

What is up with you people and being so obsessed with calling each other every single day!!! Yes, you are dating each other but you are not each other's slave. I mean come'n. Nobody's being pushy here, give each other a bit of space. It's great that you talk often but if he doesn't call one day of a week doesn't mean he's running off dropping a dodo. People go to work, go to school, they are busy. Not saying you should see each other once every month but if you are getting upset over him not calling as often as before... Well then you expectations are high.

I wouldn't go for it, sorry. But that's just a rule of the thumb everyone knows. No dating or fooling around in the following places: 1- Work 2- School 3- Neighbor 4- Friend's or relative's ex or current gf/bf/wife/husband If you do, you are asking for trouble.

Ok, was he physically abusive towards you the whole time? Or was it more like you pushed his botton and he the same thing so you guys couldn't get along? And what do you mean with him saying "I need time?" Time for what? Time to get married or time to "I need to find myself or see where I am standing in this relationship?" You are pregnant, literally homeless, wondering around with no solid emotional and financial support... No wonder you feel sad. I am so sorry you are in this situation but if I were in your shoes, I would be REALLY down. Do you have a more supportive base like a family member (mother or father) that can help you at this moment? How are you coping financially? Listen, I am not really good at cheering people up but you feeling depressed may eventually have some negative effects on your baby. I am glad at least you have friends that are willing to house you. What about your ex-bf? Is he going to support you financially during pregnancy?