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lol Think i've found a new signature for enotalone. I thought that was the case... the relationship aspect. Moving out, living with your girl etc. See what we did was get her a job in so we could have an income (although small) coz my career would always get a lot more than what she planned to do. I'm not too sure if she'll go back to accounting (which was the only reason why I did a double degree in the first place! i hate accounting it's so boring). I know how annoying it is to have so limited money yet want to do things like move intogether, get married, have a house get a car etc. But take it one step at a time or you miss out on all the fun Hasie

Hey LostBird. I personally don't know superdave too well lol coz I'm relatively new. I'm sure he deserves your appraisals though. For being the king of the forum... I dunno hey (not like I'm saying I don't agree with you). I think a lot of people around here deserve a lotta recognition for what they do. Not just the mods and the RM's but a lotta members out there who aren't AS recognised and who don't care about recognition. But based on what I hear from you about superdave, I definitely think he deserves a pat on his back! I was thinking if you're really eager you could put in more good words about him for the mods but hey he is a member recognition recipient already so I'm sure the mods have an eye on him Hasie

Hey amano! I see we meet again. When I went to uni, the course I chose was Bachelor of Business (Accountancy)/ Bachelor of Laws. And that would take me around 5 years (recommended) to 6 (if I did the same amount of units as everyone else who didn't do a double degree). I don't like to regret things, it's a bad thing to do because by saying what if, it's exactly that, what if I hadn't missed the bus today and was late to class? Would my day have gone any better? It's too hard to say! I could've been invovled in an accident for being at school 30minutes earlier. I do agree with you though that many friends are already working. I think if people work at even mcdoanlds (you have those there in japan Macadonarudo - lol my japanese is very poor these days, it junoir high was a long time ago!) Anyway, I think if they work for say 5 years, they'd be a store manager easy and get a pretty ok earning. Or someone working at a well know supermarket, they coujld be a store or area manager in 5-10 years and get a very decent earning. But a degree at uni, it proves you put in the work, it proves you really do know something about what you do and that you don't just know how to make a Big Mac or how to run a store. I think you're right about being scared of the future, we all are. But that's why you should make use of today... why worry about the future when you can make the biggest difference in the next 24 hours? The future is too far away to predict. I like this quote which I said was as an joke: "My future?!?! my future is so bright that I need shades to see it!" It's kinda lame but hey it's still cool man Hasie

Hey Homer! lol big "DOH" here huh? My suggestion is, don't get gutted. This is a time to show her that you ain't no wussbag and just coz she's not showing the attention she did no more doesn't mean that's gonna get you down. In fact, use this as your strength, you had a chance originally (not one that came after a while) that's a good sign, you can still have one again. Now's your time to act, give her some of that flare she gives you back and don't be afraid. If it doesn't work, it doesn't work, you went down fighting! Have a quick look at this and see if you can make use of anything here (you may find it controversial, but really who do you want to be? different or norm?): Hasie

Well if you're so sure of it. Perhaps it's time to tell her how you feel. After all she deserves to know right? Alternatively I suggest you take this other "friendship" of yours slowly. MAYBE you're just one of those people who really likes change (ok in bed, a lotta guys do need change but I'm not talking about that) and you might end up doing the same to her and lol even going back to your current wife. In addition, take your time, be sure about your thoughts before you go making any moves.. make sure YOU know what YOU feel. I guess that's all I can say for now. Hasie

Sheyda: I know a couple of chicks that are short, they often shop in the children shops and like sections of stores. That could be fun right? Hasie

Dannysgirl: No, you deserve to have a say here. Below 5ft, you know what it'd be like to be short compared to all of us. lol your coverage of past conversations are entertaining and I have been through many of those. Isn't it funny everyone that when you're short people say "you're short!" and you're standing there going "oh thanx? I kinda knew that hey!" I completely agree with you on the weight vs heigh factor, why the hell can't people shut up about height, we can't help it we're short just like the fat person can't help they're fat! Babychristy: Ok, your resposne was great, it answered heaps of questions! Exactly what I wanted to ask "does a taller guy really make you feel safer?" I thought about it and sometimes I think, it makes you feel safer looking at people's faces and eyes rather than their body. Thus, if they're so tall, doesn't it feel a bit more distant than somewhere who's more shorter and whom you can wrap more around your arms for? LOL you go girl! There you have it everyone, christy says "SHORT GUYS ARE WELL HUNG!" I love it. You win the best post in this thread! Jessica: Very interesting theory - the most interesting one here! lol it's almost cute and funny. I like it! "I like being short because you are closer to the ground and i just feel more secure that way. You don't have very far to fall if you trip or something" How has your relationships been like? I'm really happy to see that people are comfortable with their height, that was also something I believed I'd find by posting this thread up. I'm glad this place isn't full of depressed people (especially with their physical looks). From what I can gather, I'm getting very limited feedback from short guy's relationship - as many say that guys are worse off than girls with height. I'd like to see some more but hey, thanks for your contribution I'm sure the original person I posted it up for would find it reflective too! From a general perspective I think the majority of people are more comfortable with people their height. Which would be completely natural... You guys are great! Hasie

HEY guys! THanks for all your responses... Twinkle: I'm glad you like being short, now that's the right attitue! Tired man: Now what happened to finding that "female friend"? Apart from that, did them being short make much of a difference to how they acted or how the relationship went? Supereyes: Now that's something different, someone with the possibility of not liking to be tall and being self conscious? Or am I reading you wrong? Sheyda: Hey that's a noticeable difference in size. Does it make you anymore insecure knowing you're short? are yo happy with your height? Day_walker: Now your response fits with that, at first glace, taller people have the advantage Roofergirl: Hey that cuts don't it? Long time ago when I was in high school, I was rejected a dance by a girl I wasn't even interested in coz she said "it feels funny coz you're shorter than me" and she was higher than most guys. It cuts, I got over it though. How are you about the whole ordeal now? I don't trust this guy, think he's just using height as an excuse, seems he's a bit shallow... Amano: Com'on man, just work out, being short still has a few advantageous in fighting, you can move faster! I know coz I've been training martial arts for a long time in my life and for me, it's not about the strength, it's about the speed. I reckon heaps of short guys are 10x stronger than a lotta tall skinny guys! Does your heigh make you insecure when you're around other attractive guys with your girl? Or are there things about yourself that you're really proud of which counteracts that feeling? hk87: "intiate things" lol I wasn't 100% sure on what you meant by that

Have a thought about how you got to here with your current relationship anyway... there has to have been love in it. What was it that made you want to even think you'd be with this person for the rest of your life and where did it go? How about going on a holiday or some romantic date see if it makesa difference? Hasie

Hey Rob First of all, just want to welcome you to enotalone. The people here are great in assisting you with your problems and you know, if you ever feel like chilling out around, you get some interesting thread. In regards to your question, first thing that came to my mind was... do you have any kids? and the second... how is your sex life? I'm in a long term relationship myself with the duration close to yours I'd admit. Except we're not married yet and apart from the finance, I'm not terribly sure if I'm ready for it yet - i'd take marriage pretty seriously. I think from time to time we all think about what it's like to be with someone else, and that is really dangerous. Are you willing to compromise your whole relationship and marriage of 2 years for a person you liked/loved over 15years? Relationships in my opinion is hard work, there's usually a lot of compromising (from at least one side). Communication - that's almost my favourite word here on enotalone (and thank god it's not banned!) I really think you should communicate. What exactly is wrong? Is it the passion, the togetherness, who's making it worse? Perhaps you would not know the answers to all of those questions. It could be even possible that the fact you are thinking about (unless I'm wrong) other women is making your current relationship worse, it's always easier to not deal with problems. I really wouldn't suggest you to leave your marriage. However sometimes it is for the best, talk to your wife, funny about what? Is it because she's not feeling the passion that was once there, that things seem more boring now than it once had? Or is she also thinking of other people? It's natural to think of others in a long term relationship and if I could help myself I would do 0% of it coz it's influencial and affects lotsa things. Sometimes I think it's just the passion, she misses the passion and the intimacy and I think you would too. At the moment I don't think I'd comment to much coz there's too many reasons. Talk and provide me a little bit more light to the situation. Try and make it work, you got together and sticked together and married each other coz there was a something there. I think she's just urging you to address the issue to try and make you worried by saying she feels funny and giving you that indecisive feeling. Hasie

Hey... Don't get too caught up or worried about it k? And stop frowning lol All the things you've said makes a big difference! Perhaps it WAS the heat of the moment. All I can tell you for sure is, he's certainly into your looks and it's arguable how much of your personality. I like knowing people, where they've been what they do etc. It does puzzle me why you went on a date with his family first up, one thing is it could just be convenient for him to want to take someone and you were on his list. But on the bright side maybe he was a bit more serious about you AND his family that he wanted to see how they'd react to it before he got anymore deeper. Anyway, don't let me crush your hopes I'd really like you to stay positive! Keep me updated to see what happens hey Hasie

lol I have excema and my skin breaks out whether it's cold or hot! I don't think you need to see a dermatologist unless it gets serious or botheres you a lot. They like to prescribe steriodal ointments which actually do you less good in the long run. Just take care of your skin, wash it daily and put some moisturiser on it after a shower or something and ride it out. If it keeps coming back etc then see a local GP first. That's what i think. Hasie

lol no probs, that's what we're here for! Yeah insecurities suck hey... wait till you're in a relationship then you should be more careful with it, can cause all sorts of problems unless the pair is willing to deal with it. Maybe she just said that coz she wasn't interested and needed an excuse? Hasie

Because there could be so many problems and vary greatly, I'd say it is anything at anytime, I don't think it's just a single problem. I suggest: Communication. I have a real bad temper at times too and I guess it's just something that's really hard to control. Sometimes it's not something I can supress nor should it be suppressed. I know one thing that really helps me deal with it all is my partner, she reminds me of heaps of great times we've had together which momentarily distracts me (and other distractions ) lol which work real well. Talk really calmly and sweet to him, that is definitely a must. Remind him that you don't like it, and that it reallyupsets you to see him so upset. If this guy cares for you and find you really important in his life, then that should help more than any counselling. To see you unhappy would break his heart and he would react to it the best he can. That's what I do... Alternatively, try conselling (which I wouldn't mind trying if I could be bothered spending the cash) Hasie

Hey this avatar looks familiar... does anyone else use it? Or have you recently transferred accounts? Ok lol apart from my distraction... woah this poem is riddled. Needs some thinking to crack it! Always springing forth This smattering of tears Hmm seems to be maybe the tears is code blue... Afraid to face the hours And weeks and months and years But tears aren't afraid to face time, pain is and remorse... Echoing so empty Without the sound of you ok... lost someone special No colors in my world - who was a significant part of your world... My rainbow's gone code blue lol ok this code blue is still confusing. To loose the colours in your world but then reflect it back onto a colorful rainbow. I suppose code blue is feeling blue and sad... So is this poem about loosing someone special which made you alone, empty, full of sorrow and taken a chunck outta your life to "take the colour away from your world and thus there is no color in you rainbow"? I had a go Hasie