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  1. The ex girlfriend will also tell her ex boyfriend that she compares him to every guy she dates. She tells the ex boyfriend that he has many great qualities that she looks for in a man. If seems at times, she really needs the ex boyfriend's friendship. What should the ex boyfriend do when she calls. they have been broken for 2 years now, and it seems like she just can't let go. She wants the friendship.
  2. Can anyone tell me why ex's want a friendship after the relationship has ended? In addition why does the ex girlfriend keep telling her ex boyfriend that she loves him and that he is very special to her. He tells her that he hates her, and that she looks dirty and sluty, and yet she tells him that he'll always be her friend. Why is this girl still holding on? Note - She was the one who broke up with the guy.
  3. I really don't know. Sometimes i do, than at other times I don't.
  4. For the past five or six weeks my best friend have not called me once. It's weird because we usually talk at least once a week. About three days ago i saw her, but few words were exchanged. I have no idea what is going on; then the next day (after i saw her) she text me with "I love you." I text her back with same three words. I really want to know what is going on. Do friendships really end this way? I've asked some people, and they think she may think that I have feelings for her, so that is why she is running away. But if that is the case, why did she text me with "i love you." Does anyone know what is going on, or have similar experiences in which they can advise me. Is it true that guys and girls can't be friends because they think differently? As you can tell, i'm a little confused and concerned. I love this woman so much (as a friend), she's the only person i've ever met that have the same personality and sense of humor as i do. Our life experiences are pretty much the same, maybe that is why we gravitated toward it each other years ago.
  5. Recently my ex girlfriend and I have become friends again. We dated 6 years prior to our breakup and now we're great friends. For some strange reason, every time I see her my heart melts all over again. I thought I have stopped loving her, but all indications suggest that I'm completely wrong and that I'm still head over heals for her. We have been separated for a year and three months now. Today I went shopping with her, and out of nowhere her phone rang. She picked it up; she was talking softly and was dreamy-eyed. I can tell that the person on the phone meant a lot to her. At that moment my heart broke for the millionth-and-one time. I love her so much and i really want her to be happy even if she is not with me. I don't know what to do. Having her as my friend brings back so such memories and pain. I don't know if i should just stop being friends with her. I don't want to be dwelling on the past for the rest of my life. My heart just can't let her go. She is my first love and I am hers. I really wish that someday she'll find a way back home to me where she belongs. I don't know if I should just avoid her and stop all contacts with her or continue to be her friend, while in the mean time my heart is being crushed. I really wish she could fall in love me all over again, but i know the chances of that happening is next to impossible because of our past. I'm so confused, what should I do?
  6. Yesterday I talked to my ex girlfriend (someone I dated for 6 years). Our relationship now has evolved into a best friend type of relationship. Anyways, as the conversation progressed she told me things that really made me upset. I found out that when people (her friends) found out that we broke up, they were all happy for her. What made it worst was the fact that they all have negative things to say about me, especially guys. They don't talk about my personality or character; the one thing they talk negatively about is my appearance. My ex girlfriend happens to look more mature than I do; even though i am older than her. She told me that the outside world see's me as a little boy and her as women. She also told me that whenever they talk negatively about me, she always mention the fact that I'm a great guy. It hurts me greatly because I always thought these people (her friends) liked me as a person. Never in a million years did imagine that they'll think I not man enough her. Another problem stemed from the fact that we are not the same race: she is latin and I'm asian. I know, people are probably wondering why would a latin girl date an asian guy? That's exactly my point, people have this misconception that everything should be about looks and because I'm asian, people just assume that I look like Jackie Chan.... I guess I'm just a little confused and upset. I really don't think looks is all that important. And of course by me saying this, people will subconsciously believe that I'm an ugly guy. Oh well. Anyways I think i might want to get back with my ex. A part of the reason is because I want to rub it in everyone's face, especially those who talked negatively about me. I do love her though. I just hope there is some way of breaking through to her.
  7. I'm so confused. My ex called me once yesterday and two times today...I didn't pick up. She left me three voicemails, but my heart tells me not to listen to them...I don't know... I just want to forget about the past, but that seems impossible. I don't know what to do, should i answer her phone call? Just when I thought I was completely over her, she calls me. Do all ex's have a radar or something? I really want to know why after so many months, she finally calls me. I know the only way to get an answer to this question is to be up front and ask her directly. What should I do? Have anyone else refused to listen to their ex's phone call? Am I the only one?
  8. Besides the possibility of ruining a great friendship, I don't see any reasons as to why bestfriends of opposite sex do not date one another. When you really think about, how often do we have friends that are there for us throughout our whole entire life. To have a friend that lasts a lifetime is incredibly rare, so why not take the chance of dating someone who currently matches with you. The thing is, best friends hardly ever stay best friends forever, they are only there for the moment. I'm pretty sure many people have had more than one best friend in their lifetime, so why not take the chance with your present best friend. Quoted from Kanye West "people are like seasons, and anything that happens is for a reason." A big reason why best friends of the opposite sex do not stay best friends forever is because, eventually they'll find their significant other and consider that person their best friend...I know there are people out there that believe if it was meant to be, it'll be. This notion is erroneous, because it probably was meant to be, but because of our fear we deny or reject what was meant to be. As a result we wonder aimlessly looking for that perfect person who matches with us perfectly; when in fact that person was there the whole time....
  9. I finally realize why it's so hard to let go of an ex. When you fall in love, there is mysterious aura that surrounds you that makes you feel wanted. When an ex breaks your heart, you start to lose faith in all that surrounds you because something that you have held onto so darely let you down. You question yourself and even God, why love is so painful. Its been said by various people that you "gotta have faith" in all that you do. Sure, we take this notion into consideration, but as time passes we realize that faith is nothing but a five letter word. In fact the word "faith" is something we mock at. "Gotta have faith my *CENSORED* *CENSORED* *CENSORED*" we subconsciously say to ourselves. What we don't realize in our time of despair is that everything happens for a reason. We place our ex's in this pedestal and when we get back with them, they are not the same person that we first fell in love with. Despite our acknowledgement that things have changed, we still remember a point in time that was, a time when our ex's were perfect for us but we took them forgranted. Another reason why so many people hold on to memories of their ex's is because we subconsciously feel that we would never find someone again. Someone who would cry for us, someone who would do all that they can to make us feel loved. I mean, it makes perfect sense. If someone that we have spent years building a strong foundation with could let us down so badly, how can we believe that our future relationships would fair any better. I've been single for the past 9 months, and not once have I made an attempt to hook up with a girl. I mean why should I, the possibility of getting hurt is lurking out there. My ex girlfriend's birthday is coming up, and i'm planning to do anything about. I think the best method to get over an ex, is to write down the negative qualities that they possess and constantly look at it to remind yourself that this is not someone that you would want to spend the rest of your life with.
  10. Recently I've been wondering why a male friend can not treat their female friend nicely without the friend thinking that the guy likes her. And even if he does, why should that scare the female friend? It just doesn't make much sense to me. Right now I am facing this very situation. Maybe I'm wrong, but I think my best friend thinks that I like her. Whenever we hang out, there is this awkward silence, and when I call her she rarely picks up. I understand that when a woman is not interested, they want to avoid the awkwardness of rejecting the guy. The thing is, I'm not even sure I like her like that. There was a point into in our friendship that I thought I liked her as more than friends, but that quickly faded because I realized that our personalities did not match. Hypethically speaking, if I did like her, than she is not really being a true friend by avoiding me. I hate the fact that there are people out there who are so into themselves that they believe everyone that's nice to them likes them... I really don't know what to do? I think my best friend thinks that I like her. I don't know if I should confront her or not? If I tell that I don't like her, she might be offended. I know, many people will say that I should stop being so nice to her. The problem with this notion is that if I restrict myself from being who I am, than I'm not really being myself. I see her as someone that's very important to me, somewhat like a little sister. The question I really want an answer to is -- why do so many women think that if a guy is nice to them that means he wants to get with her? Women always say that they want a male friend who is nice to them, but when they get one, they start acting weird and think irrationally. Maybe it's true that women and men can't be friends. Honest to God, I don't like her like that, I just wish somehow she knows. I'm not mad at her, because I know society implants this idea that women and men can not be "best friends" or "friends" without wanting more.... I just wish there was something I could do. I was just thinking about hooking up with some random girl so that she could be my friend again. I really do miss our old friendship.
  11. I must admit that I did go through a time of depression. It took me about 3 to 4 months to not feel the pain anymore. The pain that i felt when i heard that she cheated on me was unlike any pain that i've ever felt before. It felt as though someone was hammering in a 10 foot needle into my heart. During that time, i really felt like committing suicide. I had nothing to look forward to, and the years felt like a complete waste. But oddly enough, sometimes when you fell like you are completely over someone, something happens that just brings back memories. And because of the fact that something happened, you subconsciously feel as though God is sending you a message. A message that implies that you and your ex are meant to be together. Love have messed up so many people, it's completely ludicrious and yet it's the one thing that people needs. A part of me tells me to that i need to grow up and not let the past affect me so greatly, yet there is another part of me that tells me that love is unconditional. I guess because of my belief in how love should be, I'm afraid to love someone again. I don't want to be hurt. I tried being friends with my ex, but time and time again she disappoints me. She once told me that she is dating two guys at one time because she wants to test the water. In the back of my mind, I'm thinking, "how could i be friends with someone like this." Unfortunate for me, a little part of me is falling for my best friend, but I don't want to do anything about it because of the experience I had with my ex. I guess it's true that men and women cannot be bestfriends without having someone falling for the other. I really wish that when people get into relationships they remain truthful to one another. NO backstabbing or cheating, just be complete honesty.
  12. How can I explain this? Well, recently my best friend have been acting really weird around me. Whenever we hang out, there is this awkward silence as if we ran out of things to say. This never happened before because we have so much in common. Often times I try to bring up the subject of boys just to initiate a conversation but the first response that comes out of her mouth is that she is not interested in anyone right now. So I try to bring up the subject of girls that I like, but she don't seem like she's interested at all. I've always wanted a best friend of the opposite sex that could help me with girls. Someone that is like a girl friend but without the sexual relationship. I really want things to go back to normal, but I don't know what I can do. I don't want to ask her, because I know that'll make her feel uncomfortable. I know her like the back of palms, she will definitely feel uncomfortable. The weirdest thing about the whole situation is that she have never really helped me out with girls. I remember asking her for her opinion on this girl that have been flirting with me at work, to my surprise she didn't really give me any advice. I know it sounds as if she might like me, but I know for a fact that she doesn't. She wanted me to hook her up with her crush. When I ask female friends of mines to give me their opinion on girls that i fancy, they carefully analysis and give great advices. My best friend however, have never given me one single advice except for one and that is to stop running back to my ex-girlfriend. There are many times I wonder if her silence stems from the fact that she doesn't want to be my friend anymore. I really, really like this person, i just wish things were normal again. Recently we haven't hung out as much as before. I wonder if this is part of the reason why she has been so evasive. I don't want to call her everyday or a lot because I don't want be annoying...(sigh) I really wish things were normal, but I guess there is a reason why people say things never stay the same.
  13. As a kid growing, I've always been told that men and women can not be best friends because feelings would eventually develop. Once these feelings develop it's hard to suppress them. If we really think about it, the perfect mate for us is our best friend. There is a reason why people become best friends;there are lot in common between the two individuals. In a perfect world everyone would be in relationship with their best friend; unfortunately, this world is not perfect...Anyways, I think I might be falling for my best friend. The thing is I'm not exactly sure if my feelings are real because sometimes I would picture her as this angelic figure and other times I could care less about her. It's weird how the mind works. When we have our eyes on someone, we tend to believe that every action that our crush makes suggests to us that they might be feeling the same way when in reality they're just being nice. That is the problem with having a crush on your best friend. I don't know if she likes me, but I figure if she likes me she'll tell me. She was the one person who comforted me when my girlfriend broke up with me. Maybe that's the reason why i like her, because she was there for me in my time of need. Girls always tell me that they would never date their best friend because they don't want to ruin the friendship. But to me, that is whole bunch of nonsense. Why would anyone not want to date someone who shares similar interests as them and is there for them through thick and thin. Whenever we imagine the perfect person for us, we picture someone that have similar qualities as our best friend. Oddly enough we don't ever picture our best friend as the ideal mate. This girl that I consider bestfriend is perfect in every way, yet I just don't know how to tell her that I have feelings for her. The feelings that I have for her is not as strong as it should be, because of the fact that I still have feelings for my ex and I have a crush on a co worker of mines... I don't know, love is so confusing. Anyways, I just wanted to know why most people don't date their best friend.
  14. About 9 months ago, my relationship ended. We were together for 6 years - on and off. I was madly in love with this girl throughout the relationship, and could not picture a day without talking to her. It's been 9 months and still I think about her all the time. I know i should get over her because life moves on. But it's extremely difficult. About 6 months ago I found out she cheated on me during our relationship with my best friend. When she broke up with me, I did what many men do when their women break up with them - beg and cried. I even gave her $3700 for back surgery. I know, I'm an idiot. Throughout our relationship she had broken up with me often because she does not feel i fit the ideal mold of a boyfriend. She wants the perfect man, I can respect that. Everytime she broke up with me, she goes off and find another guy to be with. I'm just at a lost for words. How could love be like this. Cheating, backstabing, lying, for what? Sometimes, actually I always feel that love is blind. My best friend, who is girl, tells me that I need to get over her. But how can I, there is so much history. I know everything in life happens for a reason, but what can the reason possibly be. I know there are people out there who have a worsier experience than me in dealing with a relationship. I'm so confused. Should I make an attempt to befriend her despite our past or should I just forget about her completely. I hate the fact that I still think about her when I know there are better people out there. Her birthday is coming up pretty soon and I don't know if I should call her just to say Happy Birthday. She's not a bad person; she's just a little unsensitive I guess. Love, love is blind.
  15. Thank you everyone for your replies. This girl and I have been best friends for a couple of months now and we both tell everyone that we are each others best friend. I really don't know if I'm interested in her or I just see her as my little sister. The thing is, sometimes when I look at her, i could imagine myself being totally in love with her. But then there other times when I look at her, I'm not attracted to her. I am really confused. Personality wise, she's perfect, but when it comes to looks, she's cute. That's the problem I don't want cute. To me cute represents youth - a little girl. I want a women. I don't know... I'm just very confuse. I don't know if I like her or not. I think about her everyday, but i'm sure if it's because I'm single right now. I guess, if I know she likes me as more than friends, than I will definitely like her back. It's weird how people tend to like or fancy people who like them.
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