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  1. Oh, sorry for going off-topic, but yes I have a laptop and a cellular modem. I'm EVERYWHERE!
  2. Is it possible that you set yourself up to be dumped a second time by essentally telling him "If you dump me once, you can dump me again with no reprocussions"? Did you make him work to be with you the second time? Why would you let someone hurt you like that and then take them back, willingly?
  3. Yeah. What, does that make me less of a person? The finace is planning a night of pleasure, who am I to argue?
  4. At least weekly. Rough sex would have something to do with it. Tip? Lube and good communication with your partner. Sounds like you need to work on the communication part.
  5. Bender is quite the fitting avatar for you, Sir. Nicely done.
  6. (1) not reading the 7 pages of results and (2) thinking ... wow, what has the world come to? This whole topic strikes me as a reversal of roles. It strikes me as a failure of the human race, the roles of men to actually act like men, it strikes me as an excuse for guys to not have to learn how to be a great man, to take that step - that HUGE risk of being rejected - that huge chance of being so great that a woman is treated in a way that is chivalrous [sp?] and mature, to push yet *another* reposnsibility onto a woman. I really take issue with this. Too many times have I seen men that want the woman to ask him on the date (by virtue of giving her HIS number), waiting for HER to make the first move, all stuff like that. WHat happened to being bold, taking a risk, understanding that rejection is part of the process of growing, learning, falling FLAT on your face and accepting the reality that not all women are going to like you because you have the social skills of an eight-year-old? The funny thing I saw was that well over 97% of women have never proposed to their boyfriend. Doesn't this speak for something? Men need to act more mature, need to grow up, need to be worthy of the attnetions and affections of the women they are courting, not cop out and expect women to assume both the role of male and female. In my opinion. /Rant (Okay, blast me now. )
  7. Yes. All you have to do is find a man who can stand up to your tests and knock them down as the self-desctructive BS that they are. Easier said than done. The problem that you will face is that the majority of men, well ... guys, that you will run into are not well enough versed to understand that your self-destructive behaviors are designed to be a self-fulfilling prophecy and ruin all your relationships. What do you need? You need a mature, stable, and insightful man who can see right through you and pierce the veil of power/control that you exert on most guys that you meet. Who is he? I don't know, but when you find the guy who stands up to you, and blows through your mis-guided attempts to screw yourself, you'll love him for it. Me? I'd say this is a "standard" that you have - to find an excellent man - and that you should never back down from having high standards. Bravo on weeding out the men who are not deserving of you. Keep looking, and understand that you are just that much more demanding that 99% of the people out there. It's perfectly normal in a wonderful way.
  8. So everyone who goes to a bar is a low-life, not worthy of interaction, scum of the earth? Have you ever been to a bar? Are you saying you're a bad person? I'm sitting in a bar *right now* but I think I'm a good person. The bartender is a good person. The manager is a good person. The waitress is a good person. I overheard some people talking and they seemed like good people. What gives? People are people, no matter where they are. Seems to me that you are saying that everyone in a bar is an alcoholic or drug dealer, or some STD infected junkie. Tsk, tsk, give people a chance. Because she is not interested in dating you. You have wasted 6 months with a woman who won't give you her phone number? Stop writing her. The who point of online dating is to get OFFLINE as quickly as possible. You have to understand that we, as human beings, need physical contact. Email is not physical contact, and it does not allow you to be a human being. If you have not flirted enough to make her WANT to give you her number, then she is telling you that you have made mistakes that make her afraid to let you contact her. What mistakes? Maybe you are too serious, too boring, too something that does not do it for her, but suffice to say you have not made her say "Oh, WOW, I want to meet this guy!" You have to work on that, eh? Actions speak louder than words. Because she is trying to let you down nicely becuase she thinks you cannot handle the truth - she is just not *that* interested. Women don't call men first. Quite frankly - long story short - never give a woman your number. Tell (yes, "tell") her to give you HER number, then wait a week before you call her. So doesn't this say something? SHe likes you so much but won't give you her private, personal, home information? Yeah, this means she is afraid of you for some reason. What reason? I don't know, you need to analyse everything you have done and figure it out.
  9. Yes, agreed. NEVER pay for girls, buy them drinks, bring flowers on a first date, etc. It makes you seem needy and desperate. And it sets you up to be used and dumped. You want to make a woman attracted to your *personality*, not your wallet. Had he done a *proper* first date of a drink or pastry then it's a no-brainer. First dates should always cost less than $10 to $20. That means no dinners, no movies, no concerts, no clubs, etc. A PB&J picnic in the park or stroll on the beach is great, for example. Any place where the two of you can sit and talk. However, as a gentleman with traditional manners, the person who makes the date pays for the date. It has nothing to do with paying their way, just being polite. If you invite a woman on a date and don't pay for her, it's a BIG insult. Alternately, it can send the message of "I don't like you", "I'm cheap", "I'm gay", "You're too ugly", or - worst - "I just want to be friends." Imagine if she wanted a lover and thought you were Mr. Wonderful, only for her to think you were gay or not interested. Don't blow it! I can't say I agree with the whole "It's 2006, pay your own way." concept. If you properly screen out gold-diggers from the start, and judge a woman's interest level properly, that should not be an issue. I just think that's a little overly rigid, in my opinion. The happy medium seems to work well.
  10. Heh, you are all too much. I was asked to come check this thread out, so by request... Quite simply? There is not enough information to go on and give any real advice. I would ask the OP to provide more details about the before-date conversations and the actual date itself. I can tell you one thing he did that *I* think was wrong - he invited her on a date and then split the bill. INSTANT bad move *if* he asked her on a date. Was this a "date" and you made it clear? Or did you say "Let's hang out." She may have thought you wanted to date, and then when you did not pay her way she said "Cheap. Next!" As far as calling her and getting no response, this is VERY simple. You did something wrong and lowered her interest level in you. "The rules" aside, if you were her Mr. Wonderful, there is no chance she would not call you. If she had a good impression of you, she'd have called YOU, replied to your email, or picked up the phone. Come on, folks, she has Caller ID and know who is calling, so she is now actively ignoring him. This is an excuse on her part and excuses are plain and simple "hints" that women use to get you to leave her alone. So, the bottom line is that you either (a) did something wrong (b) were cheap © were boring, predictable (d) not a sucker and she was a gold-digger looking for free meals or (e) just plain not her type. If it were a, b, or c then you need to go back over the evening and think about her body language. Was she looking at you? Were you looking at her? Was she leaning in, arms at her sides, laughing, smiling? What were you talking about? Light, funny, teasing, flirting, or were you having a therpay session and talking about sex, your ex's, drugs, guns, crime, cars, computers, politics, religion or something else depressing, boring, or distasteful? Were you looking at other women, her body, flirting with the waitress ... all bad moves. So if you care to give details, we can probably give you insight. And maybe Diggity and Hello will be able to give some more insight.
  11. She's not looking for a boyfriend, that's for sure. If she were you'd be dating her. Waiting this long = no chance, typically. Asking her on a date *through* her friend also signalled that you're not boyfriend material, either. Next time, ask her in person. Really, she seems like a flirt looking for someone to give her attention. Seems she is not on the same level as you are. I'd move on. Besides, trying to date people at work is almost always a disaster waiting to happen.
  12. I'd say go out with your *friends* and have a good time. If you are on a date with another woman, lemme tell you one thing: Do *NOT* talk about your ex, other women, and don't fall apart! Don't make her have to be a therapist. Keep it light and fun.
  13. You know, all you have to do is realize that she may *not* meet all your standards. Find out more about her. If she's a good person, then it'll work out fine. But don't kiss up to her just because YOU like her. Get to know her. For all you know she could be an axe murderer!
  14. I must have been in a good mood, or hadn't gotten my daily write-up for violating the site rules ... Bottom line? Your reality is what you make it. You are sick because you know the answer and refuse to take action because you are afraid of losing her. The thing that is sickening to me is that I see something you don't. I know that if you be yourself, and act more mature, she will either respect it or not. If she respects it - and in essense likes you - then you've found a woman with whom you can expect to be a lifelong partner because she likes YOU. If she doesn't, then guess what? You lied to her about who you were and you're not right for each other. Move on. Bottom line? Be yourself, otherwise you are lying to her.
  15. Actually I would have. I would have told her "Hey, if you want the phone line you need to call the phone company and get it switched over tomorrow, otherwise I'm going to turn it off." I've been through enough breakups to realize that, while it *is* difficult, people will more often than not take advantage of an overly understanding nature. I have bent over backwards more than once in my life and have come to the firm conclusion that 99% of people WILL take advantage of you. I just don't tolerate it anymore. That's just me. Now keep in mind that I come from a very different position than most folks, what with running a few companies and web forums. It changes your outlook rather drastically.
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