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Thank you Ezra for sharing. Best of luck to you both! Burningred - a few posts up I have posted a story about a couple who broke up for 8 months and now are married and are expecting a baby. he said out of the blue that his feelings changed when he broke up. I hope this helps...

this is great! So so so happy for you. How long have you been apart? was is a complete NC? I just remembered another story that happened recently. Not reconciliation story but Ex did come back. My sister was dating a guy for 2-3 years and he did not treat her well (always critisesed, acted selfish, always found a reason to argue). She stayed with him until one day she found out that he was chatting to other women online (dating sites). So they broke up. She was miserable!! 2 years later he started texting her, calling her, saying he cannot live without her that he wants to marry her! She is now however engaged to be married to someone else (very nice guy, who treats her like a princess). The Ex continues to write e-mails, texts, etc to her, me and he is even stalkingmy mother, asking her to convince my sister....

Congrats Ezra! So happy for you. How long were you apart? And what was the reason for b/u? Wishing you all the best!

I have spent the last 3 weeks going through all of the posts (172 pages!!). I have to say, these posts have made me feel better. It has been 3.5 months since my BF broke up with me out of the blue after saying he loves me more than anything in the world, wants to move in, marry and have kids... It has also been 3.5 months of NC - I knew this was the only way for me to move on. And although I have been doing all the right things to move on (keeping busy, therapy, gym, friendas, etc), today is the first day that I feel like I will be just fine. I think I am truly ready to let go and I hope he finds what he is looking for and will be happy. To stay on the topic - here are a few stories: 1) a friend of mine was together with her BF for 3 years when he broke up with her out of the blue, saying his feelings have changed. She begged, while he went on and started sleeping and dating around. She was available for him for 6 months and he just used her and still didn't want her back. She decided it was enough and completely cut him off. She went out there and gad a time of her life. 3 month after she started NC (8months in total after the BU), he came back begging. She really did move on during that time and was over him. But she still had feelings. they got back together, married 3 years later and she is expecting their first baby. 2) parents of a friend got married. 1-2 years into the married he has met some other woman, had an affair and started a full on relationship with this new woman. he even met her parents. His wife was devasted but went out there and had fun as well. I dont now all the details, but they got back together 2 years later, had 2 daughters and have been together ever since (35+ years) Some of my stories: 1) first boyfriend. together for 3 years (last 1.5 in LDR as I went to study abroad). he got very jealous and posessive and I broke up with him as I couldnt focus on my studies with him constantly accusing me of something that I didnt do. About 6m to 1 yr later we could have got back together, but I discovered he was lying to me, so we did not reconcile. we are now on friendly terms 2) another BF in uni - together for 2 years, he drunk a lot and got aggressive when he was drinking. I kept on telling him for 6-8 months that this has to stop. he didnt listen and i broke up. he still writes me every 6 months or so. 5) another BF at uni - together 2 years. broke up on friendly terms, mutual. LDR was not working. He asked me back after about 2-3m, but I didnt take him back. We are still friends today. 4) another BF after uni. together 2 years. He broke up with me for no reason on my birthday saying he needs space. he came back a month later, but I found out he was cheating, so I didnt take him back. he still appears every 6 months or so asking me to meet up. 5) rebound from number 4 - about 7 month together. he was abusive and generally crazy (read: restraining order). he still messages me every few month - I never respond With all of my BFs I have gone NC straight after b/u. in one form or another - they all came back. I didnt go back to any of my Exs when I broke up, because it was a decision taken over several months, trying to work things out first before giving up. When I saw no change - I moved on. I never took a rashed decision. I really wish all of you to stay strong and stay busy. Do things for yourselves and move on. At least then you won't focus on WHEN they come back but rather on WILL YOU WANT them back IF they do. Life is full of surprises. There was a great life before your EX and there is definitely great life after him/her. Live for yourself!