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  1. I'll post my getting back success story / not success story: We dated my Sophmore year of college, had a pretty good relationship, but were just kids. She went abroad over the summer (we were still going out) and met another guy. When we got back to school she broke up with me and started dating the other guy. After begging, pleading, etc, she cut off all contact. I yelled, cursed, got mad at her, didnt matter. A few months after the break up, she called me up to hang out, we had sex, thought we would get back together, but she went back to the other dude. Every few months she would reach out to me, but always go back to her new BF. About a year after the breakup, we start hanging out as friends. After a few weeks of this, she breaks up with the other guy and comes back to me. She told me that she was scared of coming back and thats why she put so much distance between us. We were dating up until about 5 months ago (5 years since the first break up, 6 years total). We would get in constant arguments, fights, screaming etc. We had a few mini break ups since then, but this time seems like its for good. I tried to win her back again, solve our porblems, but she wasnt having it. Would push and pull me, etc. And now, she is seeing another guy again. She is the type of person that cant not be alone. My advice is this: You can attract your ex back, its a long and painful process, one that I am still going through now. Its the worst feelign ever for someone you loved so much to just be done. However, when you get them back, make sure you solve your problems. With some people you just cant. My ex would never work on fixing things, and would just keep doing the same things. Here's my advice: 1. Be Patient. Dont beg, plead, etc. 2. Give some time, even if they are dating someone else, they still will be thinking about you. 3. them more you bug them, the further it will push them away. 4. Work on yourself, gym, new clothes, feel good. 5. Stay busy - yeas I think about my ex 10000 timesa day, but sittin home moping makes you look pathetic. 6. Reach out - worst case scenario they dont answer, or blow you off. If this happens, it only means they still care. Someone who is over you, has no feelings for you, whether good or bad, would be pleasant, and normal. If they are over everything, they wouldn't care. So yes, mine is a success, as we have attracted each other multiple times 2 Long breakups (2nd one is current) and 1 mini breakup. Love is love and if they still love and care about you, they will come back. May take a week, month or a year - my longest one was 11 months. So do you, be happy, know your ex is probably thinking about you and not over the hurt - just trying to get over all the things that happened. Mine is also a failure in that I shoudl have worked on myself more, I should have tried to be different to keep her, and help her work on doing the same. I almost proposed 3 weeks after the breakup (as I had been planning it). You never know what the future holds. Dont get me wrong, I feel sad, grief, etc, but only thing you can do is move forward. I thought when my ex broke up with me the first time that she hated me and was over me, turns out she was just hurt and trying to move on from that, sad it was with another dude, but she was scared. You don't know what is going on in your ex's head. focus on you. You can check out my other threads for the full story!
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