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rmt49

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  1. I guess I am just feeling neglected. We used to be very affection and loving and now his job and his sports are ALWAYS top priority. I know it is hard to juggle everything but I think he needs to take alittle time out to pay attention to his family. The kids can feel the difference too. They beg for his attention as well. We have been together for 6 years now and I guess I am afraid it is getting close to the "7 year itch". I love him with all that I am. I know that we all age and wrinkle but I have guys tell me all the time how young I look and that I am beautiful but I don't want to hear that from them, I want to hear it from my fiance'. I am not ready to give up, but it takes TWO people to have a conversation. How am I supposed to fix things when I can't pull him away from work or the sports!!! And to defend myself about the computer---it is OUR home computer. I didn't have to break into it or anything.
  2. Many women go through this phase. Sex very much a mental thing and it involves hormones which can change in an instant. Just because she doesn't want to at the moment doesn't mean that she doesn't care about you. Sometimes these things are beyond are control. If we had any control over them, we would all crank up the dial on the hormones.
  3. My fiance' was spending a lot of time on the internet and less time with me, especially at night. So one day I decided to see what was sooooo interesting that he couldn't even come to bed at a decent time. What I found was a sports message board from his old college. As I read through the messages (it is public after all) I had come to find that he had a major obsession with one of the womens basketball players. He posted her picture on the board constantly and just kept on saying how hot she was and making inappropriate comments. He had researched this girl all over the internet and found out alot about her personal life and more pictures. I was totally crushed. He made me feel inadequate and unattractive. I am 32 and I know I can not compete with a 19 year old college girl. I have felt completely worthless since then. I confronted him about it and he said he was sorry and that he had just gotten carried away. He has always prided himself in not being like other guys but now I do not trust him. I have always loved and respected him but now he has disrespected me in a public format and all I can think about is this girl and wondering if he emails her and just thinks about her alot, especially when we are having sex. I do not enjoy it as much now because I feel like he is thinking about her instead. I now read the sports message board everyday to see if there is anything else on there about her. I have become obsessed with it. I am now seeing a therapist to work it out but it doesn't seem to be helping me. Any suggestions? ReNee
  4. How long have you been in this relationship? Have things between you been going down hill or is this something totally unexpected?
  5. I have a similar situation myself. I am not really sure what to do. Once they break that trust, it is extremely hard to get it back. I am so suspicious of everything now and it is all I can thing about. I really feel that if it is something you wouldn't do in front of your significant other then you probably shouldn't be doing it at all. I guess you really need to get to the root of the problem. What caused him to do such a thing in the first place. And has he been doing these types of things for awhile and just not getting caught. If anybody has any advice on this subject, it sure would be appreciated.
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